I met James in February we dated for about 5 weeks. On week 3/4 he kissed my friend in front of me in a club, I was drunk and upset so went off and kissed his friend when no one was looking. I accept this is wrong for the record. But then I dumped James and started seeing his mate who i've been with for 7 months now. James blames both of us, says his mate stole me and we treated him like crap. He slags us off to our mutual friends and always texts me stuff like 'Has he dumped you yet, he will' etc etc. I haven't seen James since and he won't talk to my boyfriend his ex mate. Are we so in the wrong? I know I shouldn't have kissed his mate Sam when I did and its no excuse saying he did it first. But surely James should take some of the blame. I'm fed up of being labled as a b**ch when all I did eventually was follow my heart.
2006-09-13 06:28:15 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Serious answers only, this is my life ok!
2006-09-13 06:30:33 · update #1
For the record I do know i'm guilty but should James be held accountable.
2006-09-13 06:32:51 · update #2
Thank god you got rid of james......sounds like different strokes for different folks to me.......it would have surfaced later anyway and he would think its acceptable for him to cheat/flirt etc....but would be enraged if you did......he just regrets what he did and cant get over it.....to bad he missed the bus. If you're happy with Sam then stay with him. You are NOT wrong at all.
2006-09-13 06:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by sensa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dumped James for what ever reason, he should let you be. And if he is to be upset with N E 1 its Sam. But all N all James should just move on with his life, as I'm sure this is not his first break up.If he texting you stupid stuff, hes being childish.You dont need a boy like that no way.Let him know theres other fish in the sea and to cast out their again.
2006-09-13 06:42:02 · answer #2 · answered by Mel ly Mel 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's jealous...
And he should be. If he handled the situation more maturely, you and James might have worked out. Relationships are all about trust and respect. He did neither for you when he kissed your friend on week 3/4. At that moment, you were a free agent and free to do as you please.
As for James, the more you react... the more you encourage him. He'll grow out of it eventually. Being labeled as b**ch just shows his immaturity. If you and Sam are happy, then you all ought to just ditch James all together.
2006-09-13 06:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just cause you want him to have some of the blame doesnt mean he will be "ok ok, it was my fault to". If your talking he kissed on the lips, then either hes a MORON, or he was super drunk or something. What he did was wrong, what you did was immature and wrong, but the thing is...is not only did you kiss his friend, but then you started dating his close friend....thats just not cool. Im not saying you cant, but just imagine him dating your best girl friend. He lost both you which is tuff and his best friend at the same time. For that its no ones fault, it just sounds like all of you are middleschool maturity level cause of all this drama and caring about what people think.
2006-09-13 06:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Screw James, if you are happy with Sam, then who cares? James is hurt because he lost his girl and his best friend. Whether he messed up first or not, it doesn't really matter. James is clearly immature, and hunny just ignore what he has to say. If he still texts you, and you wanna be immature too, its totally up to you, it could be more fun, is to reply with, 'no Sam hasn't dumped me', and talk about how good he treats you, or that you just finished making out....when James finds his next girl, he'll move on. Seriously just ignore him, and be happy with Sam.
2006-09-13 06:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by Hannah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the closest Nascar got here to admitting they made a mistake is by ability of telling him 3 diverse positions to take.Your first,no no your 2d,no no no your thirteenth.Nascar won't admit they snarled,yet any added fines or suspension would be an exceedingly solid indication of what Nascar feels is their section in this mess.in the event that they provide him a token 25k and enable him race next weekend i might evaluate that as being Nascar admitting some blame.yet,in the event that they droop him for next weekends races then thats Nascar asserting you have been incorrect Robby, one hundred%.
2016-10-14 23:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by reus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your left with thinking about, why you did what you did. which you mentioned that you followed your heart. Sounds like your not owning you did what was right for you. sound like your thinking is more about what your X thinks. I would move on with your present relationship if that's what your happy with. And change your number as to not give your X access to your life. Then your actions would be that of you and your mate that is all about what you choose. That in your right now. You choose to keep following your heart. Sounds like your last lover wants both, what he does and you. Do you choose that for you, right now? remember what you said " I followed my heart" get clear about your truth. This will help you reach your truth. Good thinking to you.
2006-09-13 06:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by seamomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In for a penny, in for a pound, lass. He's a right git for kissing another in a romantic way right infront of you. However! You were wrong to just go and kiss his mate, (best bud that is, for you Yanks). You should have bloody well given him the back of your hand first, then gone and kissed his mate!
2006-09-13 06:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by fullmoonwolf4real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your responsibility to make James happy, so move on. He will too eventually. He's just licking his wounds, even though he messed up first. I'd do what you believe is the best for your life.
2006-09-13 06:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
TWO WRONGS DONT MAKE A RIGHT. BETTER TO HAVE CONFRONTED JAMES ABOUT THE KISS IN THE CLUB, BUT THATS ALL WATER UNDER THE BRIDGE NOW. I HOPE YOU HAVE FOUND WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN JAMES'S FRIEND.
2006-09-13 06:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋