Do you...
A.)Stare and make comments.
B.)Give the parent a smile and feel glad your kids are at home with the sitter.
C.)None of the above(explain.)
2006-09-13 06:16:58 · 43 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I do believe that most of the people who answer 'A' are not parents.
I am the mom of 4,and KNOW very well that at times there is little you can do.
2006-09-13 06:30:49 · update #1
To those of you who think it's the parents fault that the kid is having a tantrum I wish upon you the most ill-behaved and ill-mannered kids on the face of the earth. I wish upon you that every time you are trying to buy groceries for your family your child is so uncooperative that you actually have to leave the store with no groceries. I wish upon you that every time you try to take your family to a restaurant that your child screams bloody murder and all the people in the restaurant glare at you and make snide remarks on your parenting abilities. I wish upon you every time you are in a check out line that your child grabs all of the candy and shrieks at decibels only a dog can hear when you try to tell him no.
2006-09-13 07:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by porkchop 5 · 3⤊ 7⤋
Unless you have no children or you were blessed with angels most kids will act up at some point no matter how well you have trained them and tought them.Im a prime example,my mom had 5 and we were made to behave in public and i expect the very same of my children who are 8,7 and 3...that doesnt mean i always get perfect behavior....they do stuff like tickel each other in the isle,ask for mcDonalds,say they are bored, and my 3 year old likes to go into the clothes racks and hide sometimes....this is not my idea of behaving and they get reprimanded but if i stay consistant they will learn.Kids are kids they are not short adults and some behavior is going to be bad so dont think that if you see a kid missbehaving in a store that his parents never tought him a thing because thats not true in 75% of the cases.
2006-09-13 08:06:05 · answer #2 · answered by alecnaaron 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
option C What I really want to do is throttle the parent or care-giver for not disciplining their child. A tantrum in a public place (or at home for that matter) is behaviour the child needs to learn is wrong. You are the child's parent and you need to teach them what is acceptable and what isn't. The bit you added at the end really burns me. There is alot you can do. You could have disciplined the child from a young age so they know his behaviour is wrong. You can remove them from the store so they aren't bothering other people, you can quitt having children now so the world isn't tortured by parents who let their children run amok!!! I am a parent, and yes, I do stare, But, I'm staring at the parent because I can't believe people like this are allowed to have children
2006-09-13 06:39:42 · answer #3 · answered by kealey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A, why should I have to listen to a child pitching a fit when I'm trying to shop, eat, or see a movie? When children misbehave it is the parents fault and they need to know that it is disrupting and irritating others. People who ignore their kids tantrums in public drive me crazy! Yes, kids will be kids and we all have bad days, but it is not just the parent of the screaming child that has to deal with it. Parents need to make their kids understand how to behave out in public, how to be considerate of those around them. And I am a parent of a usually well behaved child, but if she can't act appropriately, we go home, I don't care how much more shopping I have to do or errands I need to run.
2006-09-13 08:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by disneychick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I stare and will make the occasional comment, usually under my breath. If a parent who's 30 or so years old cannot control a 7 year old, then they should have their tubes tied. There is no reason for any parent to let a child behave that way. Discipline needs to start when they are very young. If the parent, after 8 years of refusing to spank their child because it's "abuse", finally decides it's time to instill discipline, it may be too late at that point.
Some 5 year old was walking down the aisle at Wal-Mart, kicking and punching bags of potato chips, and the parent just stood there ignoring him. I gave an angry stare at the child, and the parents finally said, "Let's go. We're getting angry stares from people." But they were perfectly ok with their little brat destroying products that someone else is going to pay for and bring home.
Parents do their children absolutely no good by refusing to discipline them. The result will be a disrespectful brat who will be in trouble constantly.
2006-09-13 06:32:11 · answer #5 · answered by The Truth Hurts! Ouch! 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
C... No need to make a parent feel self conscious about the situation. They'll handle it the best they can, and they don't need to be reminded that there's an audience. Kids will throw tantrums... just a normal process. Parents are well aware that other people can see & hear what's going on. They shouldn't be made to feel stared at and judged. It's embarrassing enough. No acknowledgement is better than a smile in their direction. That smile can sometimes say..." shut that kid up".
2006-09-13 06:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by VixenMom 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
C. I have found that when I look sternly at other people's children and simply say SSHHH! it seems to work wonders. The children are surprised at the stranger's actions and tend to quiet down. The parents never seem to mind the help and I've even received great thank yous! Try it sometime. I can't take credit for it though, I learned from a woman who helped me out when my daughter was throwing a fit at the grocery store.
2006-09-13 08:26:50 · answer #7 · answered by one voice 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well i am not a parent yet but I have 5 younger brothers and sisters and I feel bad for the parents, but i absolutely hate it when they just sit there and let them do it,THATS when i start making comments. I totally agree that it is the parents responsibility for their kids actions and I do realize that they cant always control what their kids do, but i do think it may have a lot to do with the way the child was raised.
2006-09-13 06:54:51 · answer #8 · answered by successisnteasy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of those. I just wish the parent would have the common sense to remove them from the situation. A trip to the car and a firm talking to usually do the trick. If not, perhaps the rod of correction needs to be applied to the seat of righteousness!
2006-09-13 06:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by alone1with3 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It really depends on the situation. I would say C...sometimes I give the kid a look like...you know better...and then try to look disappointed. I might offer to help the parent...if needed. I remember my days of "terror" in the grocery store! LOL
What really pisses me off though are the parents out there with kids at 11 pm. What are they doing with a kid out at that time of night? The kid should be asleep...if your kid is on that type of schedule, for your convenience...you are kind of getting what you ask for...aren't you? One time - I saw this mom just pounding on this kid...I have a strong personality...I used to be a cop...I walked over...said excuse me and asked if she needed to take a couple of deep breathes and calm down....I would be happy to help...or get her help...she just cried...it was so sad...
2006-09-13 06:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Angelfood 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
C) None of the above. I look at the parent with empathy, knowing how hard it is to deal with a child throwing a tantrum...
2006-09-13 06:49:46 · answer #11 · answered by KL 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋