I have a dear friend who has a serious problem. She is in total denial and won't listen to anyone. I know I need to let her make her own desicions but what kind of friend would I be, if I didn't try. I am just wanting to find some pamplets to send to her. If anyone could give me a # to call or website, it would be appreciated.
2006-09-13 06:03:47 · 22 answers · asked by monroe5034 2 in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
Here's practical advice on drinking:
http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/DrinkTooMuch.html
Here's several options, listed in order of effectiveness (hint: AA is down towards the bottom of the list):
http://www.behaviortherapy.com/whatworks.htm
By AA's own Triennial Report, AA works for about 5% of the people who join. Quitting on ones own also has a 5% success rate, but AA has a MORTALITY rate that is four times higher, and studies have shown that many of the 95% who fail in AA end up binge drinking 4 times as much as those who attempt it on their own.
2006-09-13 19:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by raysny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help an alcoholic. They must help themselves.
You do not need a website, you need to tell your friend they have three options, 1. voluntarily going to AA meetings. 2. They will wind up in jail. 3. They will wind up dead. It's just as simple as that.
There are four motivating factors that make anyone do anything. They are:
1. Fear 2. Gain 3. Pride. 4. Immitation. I thing we can readily see that numero uno is the appropriate motivating factor.
I had a brother who was an alcoholic. After he screwed up his marriage and was kicked out of the house, he called me wanting me to take him in. My reply to him was, You made your bed now sleep in it.
Some years later, he told me that if everyone Else had told him what I told him, he would have straightened out a long time ago.
What part of an alcoholic being a user, and you trying to help them, making you an enabler, do you not understand?
AA will tell you, the alcoholic will have to help themselves, as no one else can do it for them, that is something they must do on their own, or, it will not get done and that includes them voluntarily going to AA meetings.
If someone tells me they are going to blow their brains out, I ask them would you like to use your gun, or mine.
If someone is going to take their life, they won't go around threatening they are going to do it, they will just do it. It's called how to manipulate and use people 101.
The above is all about tough love. Try it, It is the only thing that will work. You don't believe me, then go ahead and do it your way, but please make a copy of my message to you, and put it in your safe deposit box. and when one day you find that your friend was killed while driving drunk, go and get my message and read it again, and then you will at least know you had a chance to help but decided not to. . . . . . . . . Just get her into AA. asap.
Darryl S.
2006-09-13 06:38:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alcoholics Anonymous
2006-09-13 06:06:34 · answer #3 · answered by Fleur de Lis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I must say good answer Stingray(Darryl S.)
This subject touches my heart.
Monroe503, AA is the answer for your friend. I also believe she needs to understand or take care of the reason why she began drinking.
My ex boyfriend(of 4years) is a recovering Alcoholic for over 22 years,still goes to meetings. He still has a problem with being angry,moody,rages,screaming outburst ,controling...
He never took care of the reason(childhood issues) why he began drinking at age 12.
He is in his early 50's now.Sad thing is after we broke up(few months ago) Someone brought it to my attention that he has syptoms of "Dry Drunk".
So Monroe503 you are a good friend to her!
Best wishes
2006-09-13 08:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by linguini11 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only way they might help is via praying and attempting to get their kinfolk member(s) to attend an Alcoholics nameless assembly. i be attentive to this does not sound like a lot help, however the determination of sobriety isn't what you could choose for, it relatively is what somebody would desire to choose for for them self.
2016-09-30 22:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by greenwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into this site under "health" and ask this question again, or try Alcoholics Anon or Yahoo
2006-09-13 06:07:47 · answer #6 · answered by frankmilano610 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Triple A or take her to the Betty Ford clinic
2006-09-13 07:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Scott 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Might as well get the drunks point of view too. Kind of the opposite of AA
http://www.moderndrunkardmagazine.com/issues/04_05/0405_dry_war.htm
2006-09-13 10:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you should first concentrate on yourself, and contact al-anon, a support group for friends and family of alcoholics.
2006-09-13 07:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whats up with Tete?
2006-09-13 06:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋