2006-09-13 05:46:37 · 12 answers · asked by vawnie c 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
put them both or all in a room and tell them when they are done they can come back out or if they are real small I use to make my kids hold hands and then tell each other they were sorry depends on age generally. Another good one is time out corners and chairs don't let either one out or off until they are willing to shake hands and be nice to one another. If they are older I handed them a pencil and paper and told them to write down what the problem was and how they would like you to resolve it. Then when I was growing up my mother simply opened the back door and said sunshine and fresh air is what makes a child strong and healthy get out of here and go play I'm tired of your fighting! Stay away from each other out there!! If I have to come out there and break you guys apart you will wish I hadn't had to! Good Luck! Excellent question really depends on how you want to handle it good or bad it can go allot of ways here don't pull out your hair and don't rant and rave simply get even with them by acting like they are the children and you are an adult your not going to stoup to their childish level
2006-09-13 06:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are 10 and 14. I've had zero tolerance for fighting and name calling. I tell my kids that they WILL have respect for each other, it's not optional. If there is something that they can't agree on, they come talk to me about it. If it's something that can be determined by a coin toss like who gets to use the computer first, then that's how we solve it. If they are just bickering, they do it very quietly because they know that I will send them both to their own rooms for the rest of the day.
I'm a big fan of teaching them respect...respect for themselves, respect for each other and for adults.
2006-09-13 12:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my sister and I were little, we would have incredible yelling and name-calling fights...what my mom did was when we would start name-calling, get in right when it started and tell us to take 2 minutes and come up with the absolute worst possible name to call the other and get it over and done with. It worked because we were so distracted coming up with names that we forgot what we were fighting over, and my sister actually asked me for help coming up with something. The fight was long gone by then. I'm storing that one away for when I have more than one child.
2006-09-13 14:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by p.helen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The basic rules when I'm in charge (I'm a full-time nanny) are as follows: *You must be respectful, kind, and gentle.* In truth, all modes of good behavior (for children) fall under those three categories. Hitting your sister is not gentle or kind. Taking your brother's toys is not respectful of his turn with them. Sticking your tongue out is not kind to your sister's feelings. Name-calling isn't gentle to your brothers heart. And so on. These rules are set in stone and violation of them earns "time alone" for older kids (time spent cooling down in their own room) or "time out" for younger kids (time spent in a playpen in an empty room, within easy earshot of Nanny, or course).
Also, all children under my care who are able to speak know how to give a proper apology. A true apology has three parts: 1) Address the person you're talking to. 2) Say "I am sorry," (not "I'm sorry"). 3) Name what you're sorry for. This way, you don't get a mumbled "..sorry...", but a "Sammy, I am sorry for taking the blocks from you."
It may sound strict, but at the playground and at playdates, the kids I watch are often the best-behaved and the most polite.
2006-09-13 13:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by Bloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set them up with activities that require that they work together like scavenger hunts, treasure hunts, obstacle courses. Just make sure it is not competitive. For example, you could set up an obstacle course where some tasks require older children to lift younger ones thru rings, or where some tasks are suited towards one child and some towards another. Have them go thru themselves and then see how they can improve by working together. Or for the scavenger hunt, perhaps one who is old enough to read and knows where to find things can read the list, direct the younger ones to the items, and keep inventory, while the younger ones run around and collect things.
2006-09-13 12:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children often fight and argue their whole live this is quite normal. They will also love and care for each other as well. It is a strange balancing act but they pull it off very easily.
2006-09-13 12:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by Barry G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to the root of the problem often what they are fighting over has nothing to do with the actuall problem. good luck
2006-09-13 13:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by juice44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they are fighting over.
2006-09-13 12:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yesterday when my kids were fighting I told them to stop then I stopped and said:
Lets think of some good choices we can make...him does momy make a good choice if she yelled at you
they said no
then I said would it be a good choice for me to tell you I love you and they said yes
then I had both of them think of good choices they could make
My daugter picked being sweet to her brother
My son picked telling his sister he loves her
2006-09-13 12:56:20 · answer #9 · answered by rebeccalynn_dj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell u the Truth .. it can be Solved by LOVE .. i just do tht .. it worked
2006-09-13 12:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Eby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋