i havent had a boooyfriend in a year and i'm scared it is because of my weight
2006-09-13 05:44:12 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i mean i am not but 130 but i think im mover weight but i have self cofidence it just goes down when my ex boyfriends tell me i'm fat
2006-09-15 05:40:49 · update #1
of course not. There is somebody out there for everybody. trust me don't ever feel like it's because of your weight. your self esteem should always be high no matter what you look like because if a person really likes you then it's wats inside that counts not the appearance.
2006-09-13 05:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Lu-Lu - hopelessly romantic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Weight shouldn't be a huge issue unless its a "huge" issue. If you are obscenely overweight, it gives the message that you can't take care of yourself or that you have low self-esteem (not suggesting you do, just saying that's how its percieved).
Try dressing accordingly. Wear clothes that show off your good points (everyone has them), or find someone who likes bigger women.
I don't think your weight is the problem. Its more likely your motivation. Having never met you, I can't give you any personalized help, but I am a guy who prefers thin women. My current girlfriend is plus size.
If you want a boyfriend, dress nice and flirt. Show that you know what you are looking for, and go get it. If you approach someone showing that it bothers you they will ignore you. In other words, if you are overweight, learn to carry it and learn to work it.
nuff said- thanks for the 2
2006-09-13 12:52:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself that question. I recently lost a lot of weight becase I knew I gained it to keep away the guys. That's me. Are you holding onto anything? When we carry weight, often it's because we are holding onto some emotional trama. Find it. Most men are going to look at a woman with extra meat on her bones, and think that she doesn't have self esteem, can't keep up with him in bed, and maybe has too much baggage, and doesn't take care of her body. This is their first impression. Regardless of the reason you are overweight. This is what they think. If you want a relationship... take care of yourself.
Be the person you would want to meet.
2006-09-13 12:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not. My grandmother always said there are people that will love you and people that will hate you and in live you have to surround yourself with the people that love you.
With that being said there are a lot of websites out there that are full of guys looking for BBW, or Full-figured chicks. Guys like all kinds of girls not only skinny ones. I'm not sure where you live but you can look at the ads on craigslist.org and do a search and that should help too. Happy hunting!!!
2006-09-13 12:48:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dom . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is someone out there for you. Are you doing something about being overweight if you are not happy with it yourself then others pick up on that. Be confident. There are alot of overweight people out there and the ones that are confident in themselves seem to have less trouble dating then those who are down and depressed about their wt.
2006-09-13 12:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by up2sumpthun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your weight its your self esteem. Guys like strong women who present themselves in a bold way. Personality is the key, and if you show your true personailty you will find the right oen. Trust me my sister is a bit overweight and she's a playa. Hopes this helps.
2006-09-13 12:46:07 · answer #6 · answered by pudgie39759 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry. The right guy will come along. There are a lot of other people that havent had bf/gf much longer and its just the right person hasn't come along. Don't go looking for him, he will come to you. It doesn't matter if you are overweight, the right guy is gonna like you for you.
2006-09-13 12:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a boyfriend has nothing to do with your weight baby. Some guys love a big girl. Some like smaller girls. You just haven't found him yet. Be patient....
2006-09-13 12:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by CTargrl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not impossible but it is impossible if you have no self esteem... everybody is different you need to work on liking yourself how you are and not looking for a boyfriend let him find you just take care of yourself... and if your weight bothers you and you feel it holds you back then do something about it.... good luck
2006-09-13 12:47:17 · answer #9 · answered by Muy Buena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seen the biggest women with guys and the trimest alone- its good to lose weight but maybe you're looking for the wrong thing in guys.
2006-09-13 12:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋