is wanting to get married at age 18 and 20 too young?

Answer 1

What the heck for? Enjoy your youth!

Answer 2

It depends on the couple and the situation. Are you wanting to get married just to say your married? My mom's friends daughter got married at 18, and is struggling. She got pregnant a few weeks after her wedding, and had to work at a cheese factory, not that there is anything wrong with that, but still. Her and her husband didn't realize all of the reality of getting married. And it has been tough on them. Remember, getting married isn't all fairytales, it is hard work. Have you started college yet? Do you have a job? How long have you been dating?

Here's my suggestion:
Really talk it over. Weigh the pro's and con's. Talk about it with your family. Some families may not have the money to pay for you wedding, especially if you want a great one. However, if you do end up getting married, just know, that you are in that percentile of those who get divorced, but if you two really love each other, than you should have no problem making it work.

Answer 3

99.9% of the time, yes it is too young.

People grow up a lot (mentally and emotionally) in that time span between 18-25, the college years.

I got "engaged" to my boyfriend when I was 20 or 21 (I don't really remember anymore.), anyway, I am VERY glad I waited on the marriage.

You see, I realized over time that I was ready to be an adult, have a job and a real life, while he was just a kid that wanted to play (He had dillusions of grandure and wanted to be an "actor", was 23, lived with his mother, dropped out of school, and had no intention of growing up.).

Needless to say we grew apart, and I thank God that I never married him.

That happens a lot when you are in your late teens/early 20's. A lot of "first loves" literally just grow apart, but that's a part of growing up.

I would suggest a long engagment, if you are bound and determined to get married. Wait until you and he are done with college and have a stable job/home life (I would be getting married right now if all that it took was a college degree, but having a stable job/life is a big part of things too.). If things are still rosy then get married.

Good Luck! LK

Answer 4

NO! DONT listen to the people who tell you youre too young. If that is what will make you happy, and you have thought long and hard about it, then go for it. 18 and 20 is the ages of me and my fiance. Were not married yet, but we live together and are int he process of planning. I will say this: yall need to spend a lot of time together before you marry. Live together if possible. That will help solidify your decision to get married. You need to learn as much about each other as possible and get through some fights before you marry. But yes, by all means, if youre sure, get married. My friend is 19, has been married almost a year, and she is happy. As long as youre both mature, you can marry.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!

and, in the words of whoever sang the song, "shake them haters off"... My fiance and i have encountered many people who do stuff just to try to hurt our feelings. They are jealous, so dont let them get to you. You will get this being young and married, but you gotta shake it off.

Answer 5

Wanting to get married young is probably normal...you just need to be prepared to hang on through the tough times. I got married when I was 20 (hubby was 24) and we've been married for 4 years. We've been together for a total of 8 years though. Make sure its the right decision for you.

Answer 6

Well, yes and no.

Clearly, you're old enough to make this decision for yourselves.

However, the amount of "growing up" that will happen in the next 5 years or so is probably equivalent to what happened for you from age 12 up to now. Just something to keep in mind, really.

My philosophy is that there's no reason to rush. If this is really a forever love, then you have all the time in the world.

Answer 7

I got married when I was 20 to my highschool sweetheart. We had dated since I was 15. After 10 years or marriage I just had to get out, even though he was the perfect husband. But we'd grown apart and grew up with different goals. He still liked video games and ESPN, and had gotten too lazy to do anything else, didn't even notice much that I was around. It's hard to remain respect for someone who does nothing every day. He never improved himself in any way, and I was a career person, loved learning and doing new things. So after 10 years of marriage, it ended. It was very sad and I'm still sad to this day. But very much happier with the changes I made in my life. So I think that getting married young can work, but you have to both work very hard at it, work hard to remain in love and respect each other, grow with each other. Be interested in the other person's interests and goals even if you don't understand or "get it". Be nice to each other every day, don't nag or bicker, only fight when it really means something. Still write love notes and stupid poems and flowers and dinner even after years of marriage. If you can do those simple things you should be okay.

Answer 8

It seems when you are 18-20 it is ok, but when you 30, you will realize it was too young.

Answer 9

depends sometimes. if its culture then it wouldn't be because back than they used to have wedding at the age of 14-20 believe it or not, some of my family members ask me when i am going to get marry when im just 18!

Answer 10

YEs. Don't do it. people change a lot in their early 20s and don't see things in the same way as they did when they were 18...

Wait until like 24-25...Have a solid job and a solid idea of what you want out of your life.

Answer 11

No people used to marry much younger than that. But in today's society most people that marry that young get divorced just make sure it is really what you want to do.