I always seem to know how to pick men who are commitment phobic. They are never interested in being married. Some are not even interested in living together. So, am I dating the wrong men? And how do I determine if they are the right man? Because I know most men, maybe all, don't want to talk about marriage whether it involves them or not. This has been very frustrationg for me because I really want to be settled down. But I can't seem to find anyone who feels the same. They just want to be on their own. Some have said it from the beginning and some have said it a couple of months later. Do you all think I should just forget about marriage, living together and commitments? And just have fun? If the answer to that is yes, then should I abstain from sex. It seems like I get attached once sex enters the relationship. So, what do you think?
2006-09-13 05:29:03 · 10 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. Until you find the right person who you will marry, dating is part of the process of helping to work out how relationships work.
Relationships can be fun as well - but they can be a useful training ground for when the real thing comes - they help to shape and mould who you are.
As for sex - that's for you. But you can treat sex like a cheap commodity or for something to treasure between you and the man you eventually marry.
2006-09-13 05:33:53 · answer #1 · answered by stafflers.t21@btinternet.com 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't look for marriage. Some people get married and it never works out. It really depends on the ages of the guys you are dating. Most men, even if they don't admit it, do want to get married someday. They just don't push the issue. I think women are quick to commit but a man is more commited once he does commit. If that makes any sense to you. Have fun and enjoy being with the one you are with.
2006-09-13 05:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and date men who are interested in commitment. well on the first few dates you could ask a lot of questions about them,what they think about marriage and children ,if they see themselves married or they prefer to be single. just ask the guys in passing just like you are getting to know them an dthier views. that way you will know who to keep away from and whom to date.dating men with commitment phobias its a waste of time
2006-09-13 05:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by hieandbye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let nature take its course. I don't think you should sleep with a bunch of different men, but to abstain would be extreme.
Are you really old enough to be thinking about marriage, anyway?
Do you have a job that pays enough for you to support yourself and any children you might have?
2006-09-13 05:34:14 · answer #4 · answered by mollyneville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did no longer even study the full element (and that ought to no longer be an insult, i basically did no longer ought to take heed to who you're to respond to). One female can no longer inform you what yet another female is thinking, what they want, who they think of is 'marriage cloth', and with the help of no skill with the help of a catalogue of your skills. some adult men charm to a extra physically powerful variety of girls than others. My guess is you're sitting in some stable place on that. yet grounded, healthy women do no longer ask lots of marriage objectives except they're purely husband procuring. then you certainly are being interviewed as to destiny ability. relationship is meant to be exciting, a thank you to income approximately what you like, what you may prefer to alter, what your destiny and who you may decide directly to spend it with ought to be like. My guess is you're interior marrying age, or relationship women in (first) childbearing years and as thus far single. 20 - 35. yet once you're drawing women who're purely interviewing you, and in the experience that your objective isn't marriage, basically keep looking. Make it sparkling your are not waiting (or you're) and act for that reason. we are basically too distinctive for a precise answer that might actually assist you. it rather is HER (whoever she may be) answer that concerns and in line with danger some thing you should be asking the ladies you're seeing. stable luck. OH, and you may upload which you're good, precise and analytical. which would be on the checklist for some, no longer for others. it rather is a crap shoot, in case you question me - and you probably did. smiles
2016-11-07 06:05:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't forget about marriage there is someone out there for you but maybe you are looking to hard you should just have fun and live your life one day at a time becasue you only live once
2006-09-13 05:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date guys and dont have sex until you can get to know them. That way if they turn around and say they never want to get married then you wont have to be attached. You shouldn't give up on it, there are guys who want to get married one day.
2006-09-13 05:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just have fun for now, you never know who'll you will meet along the way. dont just go out there looking for a man to settle down with. when its time, it will just happen
2006-09-13 05:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when i met my husband he made it very clear he was not interested in getting married at least not for the first six months and then i went to lunch one day with my coworkers and he asked me in front of all of our friends so i think everyone changes their opinions
2006-09-13 05:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by RocKsTaR 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should date 4 fun .. not 4 marriage
2006-09-13 05:31:00 · answer #10 · answered by G. C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋