what are your thoughts on it? what's the best age to loose it, and how, and to whom?
a good friend, a lover, a one night stand???
i'm 17 and still going strong and currently trying to decide if i'm ready to finally take the plunge....
help me out.
2006-09-13 05:26:21 · 52 answers · asked by el camino 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to do it do it..Just don't let yourself be presured into it. Just know the risks and be prepared to accsept them..the first one that pops to mind is kids.
2006-09-13 05:28:01 · answer #1 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, there is no "right" age to lose your virginity. I personally was 15. TOO YOUNG!!! But on the other hand I have friends (more than one) in thier 20's who are still virgins. It is a personal choice. Just make sure that you are ready. As far as who it should be goes, I personally think you will be happier if it is with someone you are in a relationship with. A friend will get akward and a one night stand you may regret. Use protection, relax and have fun. And just remember....... The first time is never good, it is a little uncomfortable, but after that it is wonderful!!! GOOD LUCK!!! :)
2006-09-13 05:34:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with tg on this one...going to your local planned parenthood clinic is an excellent idea...if you are questioning this, then you are probably not ready. Don't be in any hurry and be proud that you have kept your virginity so far. I personally chose to wait until I was married and have NO regrets at all, while many of my friends lost theirs when they were 16 or 17 and regret it now that they are married. This is truly a personal choice..don't do it if you truly aren't ready...i know times have changed and sex is everywhere, but there is nothing wrong with waiting until marriage (I think that it what made our first time so special). If you decide that you are ready, please make sure that you protect yourself, condoms, birth control, etc
2006-09-13 10:11:15 · answer #3 · answered by katydid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you meet a guy that you know you're gonna be with for a while, obviously you're gonna want to please him sexually, so you're gonna want to know what to do before you sleep with him for the first time. On this basis, you have to be NOT a virgin, so perhaps you should look at a one-night stand - y'know, when you meet someone at a party or in a club and it's just animal lust - a couple of drinks, some really flirty dancing and then back to his place for a shag. If you enjoy it then great, if you don't then at least you'll know what to expect the next time. You can really think of this as a 'trial run' - it's not love, it's just sex.
Virginity used to be a precious thing that you saved for that one special person in your life, but I think that's a very outdated attitude. Most guys say they'd love to bed a virgin, but in practice we all want someone who knows what to expect - it can save a lot of embarrasment on both sides, and embarrasment is a real passion-killer!
So - go out and get laid!
2006-09-13 05:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by miles_muso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you build up the importance of keeping your virginity, the more of a let-down it is going to be when you finally lose it. But on the other hand, there is no rush if you're not ready. Just try to make it a pleasant experience. In other words, lose it to someone you care for, not some quickie in the back seat of the car. But don't put any huge responsibility or blame on whomever you lose it to. Just try to make it a special shared experience.
2006-09-13 05:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited until I was twenty and I was with this amazing guy that I had been friends with for a few years and we had been dating for a few months and I just knew that I wanted to be with him and it was really great and I'm actually married to him now. I think the best thing is that you don't regret your first time.
On the other side of this my best friend slept with her boyfriend when she was twenty and totally regrets it, my sister slept with her boyfriend at 16 and doesn't regret it so I think it mostly depends on how you feel about the guy and if your intentions for doing it are in the right place. I want to praise you for not just jumping into it and actually thinking it through. And one suggestion is that you talk with the guy before you just get down to it. Good luck with whatever you decide.
2006-09-13 05:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by hideemosquito 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While many people lose their virginity at your age, or younger, this is really only a question that you can answer for yourself. There are certainly pro's and con's of deciding to lose your virginity now or to wait. You must weigh them.
If you're still struggling, you might make an appointment at your local Planned Parenthood agency. They can provide the information that you need, help you weigh the pro's and the con's. Most importantly, they can help you protect yourself by providing you with contraceptives, condoms and/or birth control, for free, or at very low cost.
2006-09-13 05:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by tg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should do what you think is best and what you believe in, not what any stranger tells you. If someone tells you to lose it in a one night stand and you do, you might feel it was wrong and totally regret it. I regret my first and its a horrible feeling, so make sure you think bout what you believe in and trust your own heart and your own instincts. Only you will know when your ready, as for age, it will be different for everyone.
The fact that your in doubt suggests that your not ready, and maybe should wait for the right person.
2006-09-13 05:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by strawberry delight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can help you decide whether you're ready to lose your virginity.
That decision is up to you and only you. There's no right age.
When you feel in your heart that the person you're with is the one you want to give that gift to, then that's the right time.
Don't let anyone pressure you in your decision. Just take your time. You'll know when you're ready.
2006-09-13 05:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lucky you, alot of girls nowadays are losing it at 13 or older, as for me...I waited till 21, and did it with someone I knew was gonna marry. Keep on thinking how special it is, cause it really is. Once gone, it's always gone, make sure it's a good memory, and with someone who loves you back more than you ever knew. Also, be careful babe, no rush in being a parent!!!
2006-09-13 05:30:24 · answer #10 · answered by heymrdj1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a 21 year old virgin. I applaud virginity and I'm all for it. I don't believe in sex before marriage, but if you don't care about marriage, then I'll tell you to wait until you are TRULY ready. Don't just have sex because your hormones are beating you upside the head (in that case, imagine how I feel), and don't do it just because of peer pressure (girls, guys, or anyone). Sex is everywhere these days, and it's hard to hold on to your virginity, but it is possible! Listen to the words of the song S.E.X., and THINK before you ACT.
2006-09-13 05:29:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋