and we want to do a potluck reception because money is tight. Any ideas on how to word this on the invitation properly? this is my invite so far
(Name) and (Name) invite you to
Be present at our wedding ceremony
To be held at (Place)
October 31st, 2006 At 3:00pm
Potluck Reception to follow at Wibaux Park
(Please bring your favorite dish.)
Is this ok or do I need to rephrase it? Any constructive help would be appreciated. Thanks.
2006-09-13 05:23:38 · 27 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
money is tight we cannot afford to hire ANYONE as it is I am making my own wedding cake. Whats wrong with a reception where instead of gifts ppl bring food?
2006-09-13 05:27:59 · update #1
I didnt ask if it was tacky or not i said we ARE doing a potluck reception and I need the best way to word it on the invitation. THANKS
2006-09-13 05:32:47 · update #2
I really really like the idea of adding an insert and it wouldnt cost me much extra in paper as I could print out 4 to a page.
2006-09-13 05:50:44 · update #3
I think what you have done is fine! If I were invited I would happily bring some sort of casserole! AND a gift! The people you are inviting know you and your situation and will not think anything of it. they will just be glad to be there to share your day with you!
2006-09-13 05:38:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Rethink the food. Cake and drinks provided by you is much more generous than food supplied by your guests.
You should only be having a potluck reception if everyone is family, or a very close friend, in other words, a VERY small reception. It's tacky to ask people to bring food to your event that you should be paying for and hosting. If you can, try to trim the guest list and supply the food from your own kitchen. Get family members to help out so that your guests don't have to bring anything.
If you are having the smallest wedding, then it's OK. The people will be close enough to you to understand your financial situation. You should supply the main dish, drinks, and the cake. Or at least you and your parents should.
Your wording is a little redundant. Use one or the other but not both for the "invite" and "be present".
(Name) and (Name)
Invite you to celebrate our wedding
At (place)
On (date and time)
Reception to follow at (place)
Or
(Name) and (Name)
Request the honor of your presence
At our wedding at (place)
On (date and time)
Reception to follow at (place)
Then add the potluck part with an insert. Don't put it on an invitation.
2006-09-13 05:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you wish to go with the Potluck idea... this is what I would do:
Omit the "(Please bring our favorite dish)" on the invitation and include a recipe card with an added note:
We request that you bring your favorite dish to share with our guests in lieu of any monetary and/or material gifts. We have enclosed a recipe card as well. We ask that you provide us with
your recipe so that we may build our recipe collection. Each time we make the dish, we will always think of you and our special day! When you RSVP, please let us know if you will be making an entree, side dish or dessert.
If you don't have guests indicate what they are bringing, you might end up with 20 macaroni salads and 2 entrees! That would be a disaster!!
Personally, I would recommend re-thinking the "potluck" idea. Although it is a cute idea it's not really what people expect for a wedding. Wouldn't you rather receive monetary gifts (considering money is tight) and just have a simple cocktail reception? You can do this with simple appetizers and cake. It's very classy and quite popular now.
2006-09-13 08:49:08 · answer #3 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a potluck is great. Anyone that you love enough to invite to your wedding should be MORE than happy to help out at such an important event. Besides, potlucks are so much fun, 'cause you get to try so many different types of foods! If I received your invitation as noted above, I would be entirely excited to attend!
My only concern is that you may end up with nothing but dessert. It might be prudent to either assign someone (your maid of honor/your mother-in-law?) to manage who brings what, or to possibly assign different types of dishes to different people. If you're doing an insert, you could say something like "Please call Natasha Smith at 123-4567 for assistance with what to bring", or "Last names A - J should bring appetizers, K - S should bring salads and T - Z should bring entrees"...something like that, maybe.
Also, you may want to have someone assigned to bring plates, napkins, plastic utensils...And don't forget drinks! I don't know if you'll be drinking alcohol, but don't forget that many people don't, so you'll need some alternatives for everyone.
I also agree with Espona Willow, in that the timing makes it such that food is virtually not a requirement. You might adjust so that a few of your close friends and/or family just bring along cookies and punch, or something to that effect.
I hope you have a fabulous time!
2006-09-13 07:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We had a potluck reception, only I didn't put anything on the invite. You have a core group of friends and relatives, right. Ask them to make something to feed however many guests you think you'll have. You should buy the meat. Ham is reasonably priced as is burger for meatballs. Then ask someone to prepare them. I also asked some friends to be there to do the set-up and clean up. Once word gets out you'll have more food than you could consume.
2006-09-13 05:31:46 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy B 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel it is only fair to say (in an insert not on the invitation) in LOU of a gift we are asking you to share your favorite dish AND include the recipe... that way you can build a recipe book out of it.
I don't think it is very nice to ask your gusts to bring the food and also feel the need to give a gift as well.
***** Did you consider an evening affair, say wed at a candle lit ceromony at 7 or 8 and just have a cocktail hour??? VERY in expensive, and classier than a pot luck***
Congrats and best of luck
2006-09-13 06:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ goddessofraine ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could also mention that guests bring their favorite dish in lieu of a gift. Otherwise I think it's fine. Kind of like the old fashioned weddings where people did bring food and it was a big social gathering/ celebration. Better than weddings today where people drink too much, spend too much money, and just go out of control. Great idea, & good luck!
2006-09-13 18:51:13 · answer #7 · answered by kiki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with having a potluck. My suggestion would be to keep everything casual, more like a bbq then a reception. That way people can relax a little instead of trying to think of impressive dishes to bring. If you would like people to bring food instead of gifts, I would say something like "In Lieu of Gifts, please bring your favorite dish!"
Keep it simple, after all, its your day and what the bride wants! :) Your friends and family should respect that...ohhh, by the way, Congrats! May you have many years of happiness!
2006-09-13 05:40:06 · answer #8 · answered by dolphinlove_20 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IMO, that sounds fine. After all, it is your wedding, not anyone else's, and you and your husband-to-be should do it the way that YOU each want it done. I understand completely about your money being tight. The main thing is for the two of you to be happy and and love one another. The important issue here is not how you do your reception, but how you both love one another and treat one another. If you are happy with it, go for it. Money and big fancy, expensive receptions and such don't make a marriage...love for one another does. Work together on all issues, love for one another, family, happiness together, treating your husband/wife as you want to be treated, these actions are what is important in life. May God bless you both and your marriage and family together.
2006-09-13 05:41:00 · answer #9 · answered by Bill B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is to share this moment with the people that you love and love you, so I think if they really appreciate you then won't mind to bring dish.
Remember that sometimes one couple spend alot about the wedding but after It's just that and they got divorce early and where is the remains??? the love of the union that you are doing with your husband is the real thing in the wedding!!!
2006-09-13 06:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by CHICA24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋