names for female genitalia suitable for a 3 year old to use?

Question

have 3 year old twins and my boy was just talking about the difference between him, his brothers and and his sisters, he said boys have willies but girls have holes(!) can anyone tell me what names they have given their children to use other than vagina? i know some of you will tell me to use real names but id like to use something a little nicer sounding.

i just wanted to explain that i have no problem at all using the words penis and vagina.he came up with these words all by himself and if he wants to call his penis his willy i wont stop him. he will learn the proper terms when he goes to school anyway.i just thought id like a simple word for her to use thats all. thanks for all your advice and names.my head is spinning with them all, lol

Answer 1

I'm facing this question too now with my 2 year old girl and it has me a bit stumped. I've read most of the replies here and it's been quite educational. I take all the expert advice in other areas, but on this one, I have to say I feel really stupid. It's just that the term vagina doesn't even seem to me to be referring to the right part - the vagina is on the inside. When a child notices the difference between a boy and a girl - she can see the penis, but she can't see the vagina. Are you supposed to name the part you see on the outside? Like if she touches herself there, she's not actually touching her vagina - unless she sticks her finger inside! Honestly, and again, maybe this is just me, I don't think little girls have any concept of the fact that they have accessible interior parts at this age, so why do we have to use the term for the inner part for a girl? On this one, I think I will table the expert advice and refer to it as her private parts. I will explain that boys have a penis and girls have a vagina, which are their private parts. I'll tell her that these parts can also have silly names. She already gets this concept because we have a lot of euphamisms for the rear end that we use with her. Maybe she'll hear one that she likes and we'll use that for vagina, until then, private parts it is.

Answer 2

I have a nine yr old son and we always use the correct medical terminalology Vagina and Penis. One day at school the boys were playing a "game" where they would kick each other in the penis and my son went and told the teacher that his penis hurts and he got into trouble,,,,,He's supposed to call it a "turtle". I was mad at the whole situation , so I went to the school and now it is appropriate for everyone to use the correct name for there Private parts. It's nothing to be ashamed of so why the "games" for a new name?

Answer 3

Hmm... well, I do agree that you should use the real names. I don't have a problem using "penis" and "vagina." You want something a little "nicer sounding"? I see... like instead of using the word "injury" you would say "boo-boo." Got it...

Instead of giving you a list of silly words... how about if you simply refer to this area as her "private parts"? This will simplify discussion if anyone ever touches her there inappropriately because even a young child can understand that the reason that part of her is private is that it's not to be shown off to everyone... and it's also not to be touched by anyone except you or her physician without her permission.

Your son should also understand that his "willy" is his "private part" and no one should be touching him there, nor should he be showing it around. If you want another word than "private parts" I'm afraid you'll have to refer to my cohorts who I'm sure will not disappoint - lol

Keep in mind that while I know you want to give them nice little names for this stuff, it's your job to educate them as well. Try not to feel embarrassed about using the proper terms. It will save them much less confusion later on. You're teaching them labeling. It's language. It's education. It's science.

Answer 4

i'm surprised to hear so many people saying "front bottoms" or "front bums" . . . i've never heard that before, but it sounds really confusing. a vagina is not an anus.

i think the term hoo-hoo makes it sound like it's a thing not to be talked about.

my parents taught me the terms penis and vagina. the reason that some people have expressed discomfort about doing that is that then their kids say it in public, and i totally did . . . my dad said i went through a phase of saying LOOK DAD THAT DOG IS A BOY!!!!! YOU KNOW HOW I KNOW?--HE HAS A PENIS!!!!! which is kind of funny. i mean, the world kept right on marching along---dad was just kind of embarrassed.

i agree with others who have said that privates is a good term and goes along with a discussion of, it's not ok for anyone to touch your privates . .. privates could be used in conjunction with the terms penis and vagina . . .

another term i've heard for a girl's vagina is shortening it to nina . . . serves as kind of a kid-term but makes it very easy to transfer to the clinical term. kind of like a nick-name.

btw, my grandmother used to call our bottoms our "bookies" . .. which i think comes from the caboose of a train. she'd come in when i was taking a bath and say, don't forget to wash your bookie!

Answer 5

This question is WAY more important than you think it is. And I'll tell you why:

Though no parent likes the idea, children do get molested. It is at best a very embarassing thing for the child, and they are usually threatened or bribed to keep quiet about it. It is not unreasonable at all that your child may only make ONE attempt to tell someone else what is going on. You MUST make EVERY effort to make sure that that one attempt, if it ever has to occur, is ABSOLUTELY SUCCESSFUL.

Since that is the case, you do not want your child to say, "My uncle was touching my kitty". Somone unfamiliar with your special euphemisms will have no idea what your child is talking about, and may even make things worse by saying something like, "That's okay - most kittens like to be petted." YOU MUST NOT ALLOW THIS TO HAPPEN.

I'm sorry if I am sounding paranoid or sensationalist, but you really must think of what's lying on the scales here. A minor discomfort for you versus years of ongoing abuse for your child. For a good parent, there is really no chioce to make... your child's safety MUST take precedence. PLEASE teach your child appropriate terms. I beg you...

Answer 6

I had this same problem with my 3 year old, i just told him that boy's have willies which he already new and that girls have flowers. He kept thinking that girls wee out their bottom's so i had to tell him something!!!!!! He is now obsessed with nipples and thinks that they are a great toy for him to play with while he is in the bath as well as his bubbles (balls!!!) which he found in the bath the other day too!! They are so funny sometimes with the things they ask!!!!!

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Would you tell them to call their elbow by a cutesy name?
There is nothing wrong with teaching your children the right name for their body parts.
If they were ever to have a medical problem or to be assaulted (God forbid) the medical staff would certainly be glad that the child could talk in plain language about his/her body.
Call it what it is.
Penis.
Vagina.
Vulva.

Not to mention, all those "cutesy" words people use are much more offensive and sexual than using the real and proper terms.

Answer 9

My daughter calls hers a hoohoo, and boys have a penis. But since she's getting older, (almost 5) We're going to start to get away from it. But I would have them all it bits or privates instead of making up a name for it.

Answer 10

Vagina