ok im 24 my ex is 25 and cheated. thats why i ended it with him... he did it about 4 or 5 times and with more then one girl ... his best friend told me about the girls, but let a year go by befor tellen me, we got in a big fight and i hit him and i went to jail over it ... that was all it took to never want to see him again... but he tex me and we have talked on the phone and he tells me that hes so sorry (YAH RIGHT) and please let him make it up to me ..he said he did it becouse he did not know where we where going ....and he want a life with only me and that he would do any thing to get me back ...i dont want to but i love him and the pain is bad when im not with him...(so hows the best way to let him know i love him but its time to let it go my heart cant take any more) and we where together for 3 years
2006-09-13 05:20:44 · 24 answers · asked by Alisha B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Noone can honestly say he will or will not cheat again. And the people that say he will are only giving you their opinion or their experience with someone. Well everyone is different. Do you honestly and truely feel you could ever trust him again? Trust is a VERY important part of a relationship and if it isn't there then there really isn't much of a relationship. There are soooo many other men out there that won't cheat and will love and respect you that i think you should forget about him. He had his chance and look what he did!!! I know it hurts but it will eventually fade and you will love again and chances are it will be a love that you never dreamed was possible.
2006-09-13 05:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex boyfrined cheated on me 3 times and we went out a total of 3 times. see what happened was i would think i still love him and i wanna be with him and he said he wont do it again so i would take him back each time. until i realized man i cant keep doing this. yeah i still wanna be with him but i know in my heart that staying away from him right now is the best thing for me. so just let him go. it will be hard and it will hurt but at the end you will find somone way better than what he ever was.
2006-09-13 05:29:48 · answer #2 · answered by amandaklinekln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The likelihood that he will cheat on you again is about 99%. If you think you are lucky enough to get the 1% go for it. I say break the cycle and move on. You deserve better.
You love him why? Because he hurt you, cheated on you or you had three miserable years together? Come on, there are decent guys out there that know what love really is... go find one so that they can teach you what it is cause you sure don't have a hint!
2006-09-13 05:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by J j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are 3 relationship rules I stick by:
1. Once a cheater, always a cheater
2. Once a liar, always a liar
3. Once a beater, always a beater
Some people just never change.
The only thing is they don't always work when your heart is involved. Sometimes you just have to throw caution to the wind and follow your heart. He wants to make it up to you? Let him try and make sure you're communicating so he knows where your relationship is going and doesn't feel the need to cheat. But if he does, rule number one proved true in the end and you need to dump him.
2006-09-13 05:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by Just♥Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater - always a cheater - the reason that is a saying is because it turns out to be true... He got away with cheating on your for years... and the one's you know about are most likely not all of the one's he was with.
My childrens father was a cheater. And I forgave him about 8 times and moved back in - then he would do it again... I wanted the relationship to work, so I let it go - he would do it again, and again and again.
I am now with a loving man - who really wants to be with me and I with him. We do not have needs outside of our home, sexually or mentally. The reasons that people cheat are complicated, some do it for attention, so do it to fulfill something they are not getting with the current relationship, and some people just do it to do it.
Make sure you don't fall into this trap again, I wasted almost 8 years of my life with a cheater....... I won't waste a moment of my life with one again..... Life is too short to be un happy and not be able to trust the one you are with.
2006-09-13 05:27:14 · answer #5 · answered by Night Train 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater. Even if he is sincere right now he will totally do it again. Trust me I am a guy I would know. It hurts, but the best thing to do is move on. Over time it will get easier, but a little part of you may always love him.
2006-09-13 05:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by curious caucasian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he will do it again, "he did it about 4 or 5 times and with more than one girl " you don't have to be the brains of the bunch to figure this one out. It sounds like you have a lot of history and that could keep you together , sometimes though its best just to cut and run.
2006-09-13 05:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by MR G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u retarted??? He will always cheat! And ur a jack@ss if you take him back. I speak from experience. I was married to a serial cheater. I wasted 9 years of my life on him. Get over it sweetie. Theres alot of men out there, Go get a few of them! Or just buy a toy!
2006-09-13 05:25:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already cheat 4-5 times. He WILL cheat again. Tell him he should have cherished the relationship when he had the chance.
2006-09-13 05:24:08 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say once a cheater, always a cheater.
He betrayed you, why would you even consider going back out with him?
There's always the potential of him doing it again. Why would you want to risk putting yourself in that situation again?
It's time to say goodbye and move on.
2006-09-13 05:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by bluesie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋