I know I shouldn't be so self-centered but it's true. I try to help people through volunteer groups and in my daily life with money..shelter..advice..etc. All that happens is that people will take advantage of me. Most peole don't even want my help. I'm mostly a quiet person so that is not conducive of keeping company. all and all I really don't like people as company anymore as crazy as that sounds and I would like to live a life of solitude. What are your opinions on this sort of lifestyle? Some people say that people need human interaction, but I don't feel that is neccesarily true. My docs say that I am depressed...but Ifeel that people just use me and bring me down. of , course he is against it, but no offense but I take everyting I heasr from my shrink with a huge grain of salt
2006-09-13 05:15:14 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Have you tried taking something for depression or reading self-help or self-esteem books. I once new someone like that, the only thing I couldn't get past about them was the fact they were always down on themselves, complaining about people not liking them or coming down on them. Other than that he was totaly likable. We are no longer friends because of it. He seemed to have really bad self-esteem issues.
2006-09-13 05:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's true that as humans we do need some interaction. Before going off on your own, I would suggest that you attend counseling and talk to someone about how you are feeling and what you are experiencing. It would be a good move before becoming a hermit. If you aren't doing well with the therapist you are seeing now, could you see a different one? You have to trust them for them to be able to help you. If you take what they say with a grain of salt, I would definitely check on a second opinion.
2006-09-13 05:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by Janeybaby 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to find some other people to hang around with. People who show appreciation for the things you do for them and help you when you are down. See if there are any support groups in your area where you can discuss your depression and also be surrounded by people who understand. One resource you could use is the National Alliance for the Mentally Ill they have a website www.nami.org
You can find a local chapter near you or contact your counties mental health board or clinic. Good luck.
2006-09-13 05:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cathy R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to sound insensitive because I've suffered from depression and I know how it feels, but you need to stop focusing on yourself and whether people like you or not. If people don't like you, that's okay! The important thing is that you love yourself, and by the sound of it, you don't.
There are ALWAYS going to be people that will take advantage of you or who won't like you. It's the same for everyone, love. That's just a fact of life. Don't go into seclusion, because there are people who love you and need you in their lives, because they care about you.
The most important thing I've learned in my recovery (and I'm still in the process) is that you can't focus on yourself constantly. Share your time, talent and sense of fun with other people and before you know it, you'll start feeling better about yourself. There was a time in my life, when I didn't want to get out of bed, I just wanted the world to leave me alone. But you know what? I just ended up being more miserable.
Once I started getting out, focusing on other people and becoming interested in their lives, instead of being preoccupied with mine, or lack of one for that matter, I started feeling better.
I know... I know... this all is a lot easier said than done. It won't be an easy journey, trust me, I know, and you may not even get to the point of a "full recovery" whatever that may be, but you'll certainly feel a lot better about yourself and about life if you do this as opposed to hiding under a rock for the rest of your life. I wish you the best of luck, love. You can do it. Good luck!
2006-09-13 05:32:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
donot do anythig that might harm you.ifeel this is not a good idea.instead i feel u should try talking to people abt ur great help to them.it might be true abt ur depression but one advice is NEVER be depressed as it hurts both mental and physical status. instead convince and retalk to people and also argue a little over matters u should.also dont help people not in need.this makes them take advantage of ur happy survival.
happy and peaceful life ahead.one more thing-dont take everything over yourself and ur mind.just stay calm under certain situations and ignore peoples views abt u cause u know urself better than anyone else.
2006-09-13 05:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by vidya s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People dont relly like me either. i am very friendly and unintentionally flirty. i .get on well with guys so i try to make friends with them but because of my flirting guys take me up the wrong way and girls think im a slut. my advice to u is just not care what ppl think. if they dont appreciate u the way you are good and bad points included then they aint worth it are they? you are not depressed just maby a little too sensitive to teh oppinions of people whos oppinions dont matter in the great scheme of things so just consider the oppinions of thouse who matter and the rest can go suck on a lemon :) hope my words were usefull keep ur chin up and be prowd of the caring generous person that you clearly are
2006-09-13 05:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by Belosnezhka (aka Gex) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope, you are not crazy or something. i do feel the way you feel too sometimes. but instead of busy thinking a way for not being used by others, i choose to think of a way to get advantage from them after i'm being used. it's normal i think. people use u, so why don't you use them back? that's called symbiosis (or something like that). and the best interaction is when it benefits both parties right? so, in my oppinion, u just have to let it go when people use u, just use them back instead of grieving. there is no such thing in this world that is free! you help them, then use them. they don't need your help, fine, but if they help you, don't forget to help them back sometimes. :)
2006-09-13 05:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by mbagus_st 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what if people doesn't like U, when a person doesn't see the good intensions that u seem to have, that person has a low self-steam, never give up, one day u'll get a smile and find someone who can apreciate all the things u've done.
2006-09-13 05:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by Christian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you wanted to live a solitary life, you wouldn't feel the need to socialize on yahoo groups with other people. everyone needs someone to accept them for what they are. you just need to find a group of people that you can hang with without judging or being judged. everyone needs someone. even jesus was lonely for heaven sakes.
2006-09-13 05:44:43 · answer #9 · answered by 6th Finger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see , first of move to a different town
start a new school or a job
and listen no point in going to a doc or shrink whom u dont trust..
2006-09-13 05:23:41 · answer #10 · answered by pagolpakhi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋