I could be with my soon to be wife, and I will break it off, I dont know why? I could be with a real angel, perfect in everyway, and I will cheat on her and not hide the fact. Someone seriously help I am not wanting to be this way.
2006-09-13 04:54:54 · 12 answers · asked by ai_daddy2006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm I can really say I am the same way, I am going to keep an eye on this to see what you come up with.
2006-09-13 05:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by E3_Army 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't WANT to do it, you wouldn't DO it. You like the racy spontaneous lifestyle. And once you recognize that you enjoy that, you can give it up. Who is making you cheat? No one and nothing MAKES you do anything. Especially not the girl. You haven't found your "angel" yet. That is obvious. When you find love, you will know it, and you will see her as the only light in a world of darkness. You will not even look at a woman without thinking about the good thing you have in your "angel" Maybe you want a girl wit more spunk. Find yourself a little devil, get it out.... then go look for your "angel" and tell me how "angelic" she really is. Have you stopped to get to know her? Have you asked her about her life? Have you listened to the girls you are dating. It takes a good listener to be in ANY kind of relationship. Play the field some more, and stop feeling so guilty until you actually MAKE A TRUE COMMITTMENT to one girl. Dating is the thing we do to FIND our someone. Committment is the thing we do once we know we've found them. It's okay to play... just make sure you haven't committed yet. Let her know you're dating and playing. Stop hiding it. Either she will like you anyways, and ask you to commit, or she will be insecure and leave. You don't want an insecure girl... too much. Just be yourself, tell the truth, and the guilt will subside while you look for your woman.
2006-09-13 12:06:39 · answer #2 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to NOT be a certain way if you've been that way for your entire life. You seem to need acceptance and when you get it from one.....you're onto the next. I'm a bit like that myself and it really does suck. I haven't really ever gotten over it and I'm 34. Always seeking the approval and attention of other men. Guess it just makes me feel "worthy". I never got the attention from my biological father while I was growing up......so yes, I do blame him for me always needing to seek approval from men.
You desire the thrill of something new....and also seek acceptance. Hopefully it'll go away for you.
Perhaps you need to go to a psych to find out the underlying issues. Maybe it'll help. I already know my underlying issues....now it's my turn to stop it. :-)
Good luck!
2006-09-13 12:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne W 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you're having problems with allowing yourself to trust, and getting close to anyone. You're distancing yourself when things get too serious. Also, what's with the "chicks"? It denotes a certain immaturity. If you're in an adult relationship, I would hope you would call her your fiancee, sweetheart, or love, but not "chick". I don't know your history, but you may benefit from some soul searching and some counseling. Good Luck.
2006-09-13 12:04:26 · answer #4 · answered by Astro 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Grow up. If a person honestly wants to change they will. Its not hard. If you want true advice, just try remaining abstanant for a year. If you make it through the year YAY, you are ready for a relationship. If you can't make it through the year, oh well, you didn't hurt someone in the most F'ed up of ways. key words -----> self control ---> look it up if you still have problems.
2006-09-13 12:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by passghost 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are scared to death of commitment. You need to talk to a therapist or counselor to find out why you behave this way. Perhaps your parents were divorced or dysfunctional and you fear marriage. Get to the bottom of it or you will have an unhappy unfulfilled life.
2006-09-13 11:57:40 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You are not ready to be with one person and deal with the emotional connection needed to maintain that relationship. So until then be ok with that fact and dont settle down with one person. It is not fair to them.
2006-09-13 11:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Simple,your afraid of commitment and you'll never grow until you face the problem head on,solve it and learn from it.Then you'll be able to move on.
2006-09-13 12:03:02 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have commitment issues. Try a little therapy.
2006-09-13 11:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do it too... Some one will have to love you for the f*ed up person you are. I'm waiting for mine as we speak!
2006-09-13 11:57:19 · answer #10 · answered by Pimp E 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋