My daughter is 16 and my son is 11. I'm scared they are really going to hurt one another. I fought with my brother too but....I find that they fight more than we ever did.
2006-09-13 04:40:51 · 11 answers · asked by hipchic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lay down laws about fighting.
No hitting!
No yelling!
Talking inturns!
If they break these rules you take away a privelidge. If they follow them you give them a reward.
Tell them that fighting is not an acceptable behavior in the house and you will not tolerate it.
You may want to perform a root cause analysis to see why they are fighting. It may be more than the usueal sibling rivalry!
Good luck!
2006-09-13 04:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by Billy! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have three teenage boys who LOVE to fight. My experience is that when they have already started fighting there is not too much you can do on the spot except making sure there is no physical actions. It is the time when they are NOT fighting that matters. If you can think of ways to promote friendship among your kids, to create good memory for them, to remind them that among all relationship siblings are the longest but they only get to live with each other until certain age.... all that, things are going to change. It also helps a lot to guide a discussion after every fighting (when they totally cool down but still remember the detail) to let them see from the other party's point of view and have a chance to apologize to each other. And you will be surprised that they do fight less and less.
2006-09-13 04:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by alice w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is 12 and my daughter is 9 and they fight like cats and dogs. I've actually had to remove my sons hands from around his sisters throat. I think its because mostly she wants to hang out with him and his buddies and he is trying desperately to grow up. Could be the same for your kids.....
Believe this or not....I put them both in time out in the corner. My son looked at me like I was crazy and my daughter mumbled under her breath the whole time about how she was too old for a stupid time out. I told them that they were being childish and that if it happened again, I would join in the fight and I would certainly be the winner.
2006-09-13 04:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my brohter and me would fight really bad. i mean it got so bad that my mom couldn't even let us sit in the back seat of the car together. most likely you are the one who knows your kids the most. maybe you should look into this more. like is your son constantly going into your 16 yr old girls room without permission and just really like bugging her. or are they just mean to each other. it is really a brother and sister thing. hopefully it will pass and if not maybe you should consider family therapy for them
2006-09-13 04:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by amandaklinekln 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my brother always used to fight, and my parents would yell at us. One day we were really mad at each other, and going at it, when my dad walked in the room and just watched. He let us fight it out.
We didn't know what to think. Then he told us to go ahead and fight. And the loser would have already his punishment. And the winner would get a spanking from him.
Neither of us wanted a spanking from our dad, so with both didn't think fighting was worth it.
2006-09-13 04:46:17 · answer #5 · answered by jaredkbyrd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try figuring out first what sets them off for example do they share a room? Maybe it is time for them to have their own rooms.
Tell them that there is to be no more fighting in the house and try to get them to become friends, but don't forget that they need time apart from each other as well.
2006-09-13 05:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing make them stop hitting one another isn't good at all that is showing anger management problem. maybe they need to go to a class or two on anger management. They really could hurt each other and that would be sad.!
2006-09-13 04:44:24 · answer #7 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really can't stop them from fighting verbally, but make sure there are serious repercussions if they get physical. When I was growing up my mother used to say if you start hitting I get to hit also and I hit harder and you can't hit me back. We would think about it stop with the hitting.
2006-09-13 04:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy them some boxing gloves for christmas. they will love them.
2006-09-13 04:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have not a clue, just keep them separated.
2006-09-13 04:43:43 · answer #10 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋