Is this cheating?

Question

At a party everyone was kind of drunk and having a good time.
A co-worker said I am going to get crazy and took off her top and bra right next to me. I grabbed them and sucked on them for about 5-10 seconds. She put her top back on. Party went on. Nothing else happened. Absolutely nothing else. Just a wild crazy drunk moment. I am married. Should my wife be pissed? Should I tell her?

Answer 1

Honestly yes it is cheating.
What makes it cheating is that your wife didn't give you the permission to do it. She was unware of it happening.

I think that she will be pissed. But will she divorce you? i doubt it.
I think that you should ask yourself this? would you want to know if it was the other way around? Would u consider a divorce? most importantly how long will it take you to trust again? everytime she goes out will you accuse her of cheating? when she returns,or is late from work will u say cheating, or etc.
These are some things that may happen will you tell her and plenty i haven't mentioned!
If you are honestly sorry and will never do it again then i think you shouldn't sy anything just to save all the drama of her being hurt,yall arguing, and her watching you like a hawk until she can trust u again.
Good Luck.

Answer 2

Anything intimate like that is definitely cheating. Like someone else said, wouldn't it piss you off if she did the same thing?

Telling your wife would probably only hurt her and make you feel better - then again, were there cameras at this thing? Did other people see you do this? Does she have any contact with your coworkers? If this happened in front of a bunch of people, that's definitely a topic for gossip and I'm a little worried she might discover it from someone else other than you. If you feel that is the case, you might want to figure out how to tell her about your indiscretion without making it quite so graphic. Tell her that you only want her to know out of respect for her and that you have no intention of ever doing anything like that ever again and that you are incredibly embarrassed about it. Be prepared for her to be pissed at you for a while, but it'll be a great preventative over ever doing it again, no matter how drunk you are.

Answer 3

Don't know your wife... but my ex used to have incidents like this which he would come home and laughingly tell me about. Now that time has passed since the party, you may not want to mention it, but if you had mentioned it along with anything else you said about the party it wouldn't have seemed as a really huge thing... a little shady... but not completely incriminating... to tell her now might make it look like a bigger deal than it was... but then again you don't want her going to the office Christmas party and having someone "accidentally" mention it to her. I would go ahead and tell her in the light of "honey I was really drunk and this crazy woman put them out there and instinctively I just sucked them... but only for a second or two. It was really funny."

Answer 4

that is why there are so many divorces in this world, men make a commitment, then they break it. If she just sucked on some guys Dick for 5-10 seconds because he dropped his pants at a drunken party would that be cheating to you? Even though it was in harmless fun. If you can't be a respectable husband when you go out then you have no business putting you and your wife in that situation. Just to let you know we always find out so it is better if you tell her before someone else lets it slip when they are drunk!!!

Answer 5

Would you be pissed if she took her top off at a party and some guy did that to her, or would you say "Oh well, just a wild crazy drunk moment"?

Maybe next time, drink in moderation you are still responsible for your actions even while drunk.

Peace!

Answer 6

This depands on how you feel about this co-worker would you have done her. next one is will any one you work beside tell your wife about this. If I was your wife I would be right pissed of about it lad.
Being drunk is not a good excuse lad
Are you happy in your marriage you need to think about that if not how can you make a go at your marriage to make it better for you.

Answer 7

F!ck yeah she should be pissed!! You better tell her before someone else does or she finds out about it later. But make sure you let her know it was nothing more and that you haven't persued anything with the lady (have you?) Also you need to stop drinking since you cant control your liquor. You need her to go ahead and get mad so she can get over it. The longer you keep it from her, the less she'll trust you, and the longer she will stay mad. You should be ashamed! Bad baby!

Answer 8

well if you are sure nothing else happened i would tell your wife before someone else says something by mistake. just explain it to her and let her know that it was wrong but it happened and that was all that happened. she will be made for a while but if the love is strong then she will stay there with you. but if you don't tell her then the story can get out of hand and she gets the wrong story and believes it. this way she has your side and then she wont listen to the other story's. good luck

Answer 9

Dude, drinking/drunk is an excuse, not reason, but you already knew that. Is it cheating? Yes. Should you tell your wife? No. but then, she probably does yahoo answers too, so she might already know, that is, if the grape vine has not spread it first.

on second thought, it would be better if you told her rather than have her find out on her own.

Gee, is that a cold sweat your breaking out in? don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

Answer 10

Do you think you really need to be sucking on another woman's titties? While your drunk at that? I don't think it's cheating, and your wife doesn't need to know, but she does have the right to be pissed if she did know, keep that in mind. Twenty bucks says you end up cheating with that co-worker though! Let us know when it happens!