A child has a very short attention span, especially under age 6. Say the child continually is calling you a biatch, slapping playmates, refusing to do what you ask, telling you to shut up...you know, the normal stuff MOST people think is so cute these days that we used to get our behinds tore up for back in the day.
If a kid is doing all of the above, worse, or similar actions, what will a time out, especially one based on the minute by age, do? A 6 minute time out for unacceptable behavior is supposed to do what? Make your kid think you are a joke and just get up from time out and do something else bad? Or, likely, the same thing?
I don't think spanking is the magic solution either, although it has it's place. My son doesn't talk back to me anymore because #1, I whooped his butt, and #2, he spent 2 weeks cleaning my room, folding laundry, mopping floors, and manually pulling weeds since he wanted to be grown, instead of playing outdoors with his friends. All that at age 5.
2006-09-13 04:33:41 · 10 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Why are parents such PUNKS nowadays in the discipline department? Work their bad asses to the bone outside doing double chores. It works. It works so well, I haven't had to resort to a spanking in years. So, there goes the myth that I am this spanking advocate. Sorry Bingo, try your call again.
2006-09-13 04:36:30 · update #1
Sorry I don't think anything about a child being disrespectful or violent is cute.
2006-09-13 04:54:57 · answer #1 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time outs work and so does extra chores and taking away favorite things. Consistency is the key. Whatever method you choose to use, be consistent and they will know what's up. A child will only go as far as you let them. They will push the limits and you push back to remind them what's up. You have to start when they are very young and stick with whatever works.
A 6 minute timeout works with a 6 year old because you tell them what they did wrong and they can't do what they were doing for 6 minutes. That's a long time and they get the point. What 6 year old do you know that wants to stop playing for 6 minutes? You learn consequence for action. It does work, but it has to be started early and consistently enforced.
2006-09-13 11:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by eehco 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its all a lack of good parenting. You cant fix that sort of behavior with time out alone, obviously, any more than you can fix it with a spanking.
Although i believe both are quite useful.
It takes good parenting to reach the childs heart and fix whats causing the problem. And also to know what it is in the parent thats created that behavior in the child.
Too many parents today expect their kids to just magically grow up into functional adults. Sorry Dr. Spock, it just isnt that easy.
2006-09-13 11:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discipline is all about consistancy. You need to make sure the child knows his actions are wrong -- and that no one thinks its "funny" when he acts up.
By age 5 or 6, the child is old enough to understand rules and consequenses. Incentives work well -- if he follows all the rules and behaves, he receives a special treat at the end of the day. If he doesn't, then no treat. For chores, pay him "commissions" not an allowance -- if he completes his chores, he gets his commission. If he doesn't, he doesn't.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 11:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by HoosierMommy06 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the minutes for time out are for younger children (2, 3 ,4).
If a 6 year old child does what you are saying, it's time to visit a child psychologist.
2006-09-13 13:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know where you heard that being called names by your child is cute but it needs to stop. My children actually have attention spans where I can sit down and tell them that if they help mommy then mommy will have more time for fun things. This not only helps me but it also allows time to be spent with my children. My three kids helped me clean the house so we went to the park. They helped me do the dishes so we to the zoo. They understand that helping me actually helps them.
2006-09-14 08:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Amy Renee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing for you to be aware of is thar you need to be consistant. A reinforcement system where they are rewarded for good behavior and punished for bad behavior is also effective. But make sure it is consistent throughout and make the punishment fit the "crime".
2006-09-13 11:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TIME OUTS DIDNT WORK ON MY 4 YR OLD I WOULD PUT HER IN HER ROOM AND SHE WOULD FALL ASLEEP, JUST THAT FAST. SO NOW WE GO TO THE CORNER!!! WHICH SHE HATES, AND TAKE HER BLANKET FROM HER (WHICH IM STILL TRYING TO GET HER LOOSE FROM IT) HELP IF U CAN, BUT AT THE SAM ETIME U NEED TO GET DOWN TO THEIR LEVEL SO THERE IS EYE CONTACT AND EXPLAIN TO THEM IN A FIRM VOICE WHAT IS GOING ON
2006-09-13 12:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way i did it with my son was put a pan in front of him and let him hear the sound of his pee hit it and he thought it was the greatest thing ever
2006-09-13 11:36:46 · answer #9 · answered by carolea_lamblin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try that nanny 911book
2006-09-13 11:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋