ever been completely in love with someones person but you're not actually sexually attracted to them? what do you do?
2006-09-13 04:29:39 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So the problem as I understand it is you are in love with someone, but there is no sexual attraction? There is more to life than sex, but sex is important in a relationship.
I was in love with someone for several years. My best friend, who is now my husband. The physical attraction presented itself after loving him for so long.
You can continue to love that person and maybe the physical attraction with come. At least if you decide to pursue a relationship you know that it won't be one based on sex.
The one nice thing I have in my marriage is the confidence in knowing that IF our physical attraction were to fade (which I seriously doubt, but it does happen) we will ALWAYS have our friendship.
I wouldn't push the issue though. If it happens, great. If it doesn't it, you have a wonderful friend. Nothing wrong with either.
2006-09-13 04:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by ldylili 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, but it makes it really complicated. sexuality should go hand in hand with the love aspect. would you want someone that is only sexually attracted to you? you should be honest about the situation and let the other person decide if they want a relationship on those grounds. they will probably always feel insecure about what would happen if you were sexually attracted to someone else. IMO you should just keep it a friendship for awhile and see what happens.
2006-09-13 04:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by allkoei 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy it! They are fun to be around and you can share in things. Problems could come if they are sexually attracted to you, but sounds like someone you will be very close to and can talk opening with enough to let them know how you feel without injuring your friendship (which is the rare thing that you have found)!
I have a friend like this and no matter what else happens, I know he'll be there for me and me for him!
2006-09-13 04:33:19 · answer #3 · answered by 1Jazzy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not really...if I Love a person then I find them HOT...and very sexually attractive. It's sounds like you Love the person BUT you are not in Love with them because if you were.....they could look like a TROLL and you'd still want to jump them.
Try kissing you person in a romantic place (a garden) and if that doesn't work...you'd have to move on sister because a GOOD part of being with someone is being able to get down and dirty with them, giving your most sacred to them (your body).
2006-09-13 04:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow I felt the same way about my boyfriend I have now.
Weve been together for about 7 months now. When we first met I didnt feel that way for him. But he was so sweet So I stuck with him. I figured I was not going to give up a good guy just because of looks. Because Ive had boyfriends with looks and nothing else (that sux)
and now I am just in love with him and now I think hes beautiful
So I would definitly go for it because I promise his beauty from the inside will come out and he will probably wind up being the sexiest man in the world to you
2006-09-13 04:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure but I think thats a very good thing unless you mean your not sexually attracted to this person at ALL.
2006-09-13 04:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by josh w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just ended that kind of relationship 2weeks ago. It's hard, but you have to let them go. They may be in pain now, but it's better that a couple years, rings, or vows down the road when they find you "wookin por nub in all the wrong places!" Then, they will really be hurt!
2006-09-13 05:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by sista_w_class 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you could have a very close honest relationship without the stress of sexual involvement.
2006-09-13 04:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
whoa that's pretty interesting because if you are so in love with someone they usually turn you on... but maybe you love this person so much that you are either not ready to have sex with someone so special or you just feel like sex isnt necessary for now
2006-09-13 04:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by GotAnswers? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know but I dont think it will work in the end. Even tho you cant base your relationship off of sex, I dont think you can have one without it (unless in the rare event that neither of you are interested in sex. Then you are a match made in heaven, literally!) I ahve I dude that I 'date' and I just adore everything about him, but theres no sexual attraction, we keep in touch but we lose touch off and on, we've never been more than 'dating'
2006-09-13 04:32:05 · answer #10 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋