Please help me add more to my old bad mommy compilation. I got some great answers last time, but I'm hoping we can peg EVERYTHING that makes mommies BAD. Make sure we don't have re and three peats of the aforementioned evils bad mommies committ: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArptPFSh4ikVkPsE93YrvQnsy6IX?qid=20060909070414AAg3kNg
If you are a bad mommy, don't despair. I am too. I have failed to hold my baby for 23 straight hours, I didn't breastfeed until they were asking for it, I never "wore" the kids in slings (although I did use a snugli for a few months until my kids grew too large for it and my back), I don't own a Dr.Sears manual, and my son got his fair share of spankings. I'm also considering getting lil' mamma's ears pierced soon.
2006-09-13 04:14:10 · 12 answers · asked by Goddess of Nuts PBUH 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh no!! My son was sad yesterday that he broke one of his favorite toys. I even beleive he shed a tear over it. Was I supposed to cry too, kolowski? Over a broken toy that he broke? Sorry, label me a bad mommy again. Thanks for the additions.
2006-09-13 04:43:43 · update #1
Thanks jellybean--I love this question. I have one:
**not taking every bit of you doctors advice
**feeding a child solids before four months--even though your child is hungry.
**starting your child on a sippy cup before they are eighteen months old.
**letting your child play alone
They aren't that great but--but that's all I can think of.
2006-09-13 04:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by .vato. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about things you have done while the baby is still inside like:
1. Holding your hands above your head
2. Drinking coffee or soda
3. Eating sushi
4. Not loving the fact that your pregnant, bloated and sick
5. Having sex!!
6. Not having the nursery ready within your first trimester
7.......
Also....
Not listening to everyone's advice
Not getting your child's photo taken professionally every other
month
Not having a video camera surgically implanted into your arm for
ALL the precious moments.
Keeping the house completely spotless at all times
Not bathing your child 3 times a day
Oh and apparently it's really bad if you don't spend all you time visiting your relatives with a newborn, especially in the winter when everyone has colds!!
Oh and your definitely a bad parent if you try to connect and solicit comments, advice and ideas from others on Yahoo Answers!
2006-09-13 04:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you worried about what people think of you?
I've seen these lists and I think everyone of us is guilty of being a 'bad mommy' in some form or another. Even those that you seem to belive think that they are perfect. Okay so I breastfeed so am I a bad mommy for not giving him formula to fatten him up? Yup, I have heard plenty of times that my son is too skinny and I should have supplemented. It is called genetics, people. I co-sleep so I am a bad mommy for risking suffocation even though I do not drink, do not do drugs and followed all the other safety precautions that were recommended. I hated the sling (tried it and almost dropped him) and I let him watch TV while I'm cooking supper. I am a bad mommy for not letting him have all the chocolate he wants but I'm also a bad mommy for giving it to him at all. I don't care if people circumcize their sons; however I didn't because there wasn't a reason good enough to convince me that I SHOULD. And pierced ears - that is also something I would choose to save for later but I don't care if anyone else does it. My sister pierced my niece when she was 6 months old.
I do not own a Dr. Sears manual but I do believe some of what he says. Nor do I look up Dr. Ferber's theories and attack those that believe in them. When my baby cried, I picked him up and figured out what was bothering him, fixed the problem and went back to what I was doing. I was very lucky to not have a fussy baby. He's a toddler now and I still need to find a way to make sure he is not bored. When he is bored is when he is naughty so I redirect him to a more appropriate occupation and go back to what I was doing.
I am a very insecure person as well as you. I see mothers who seem to have everything together and compare myself to them. I hear what they say and feel like they are making me feel like crap. It's not true, they are not doing this to me, I am. And they don't have it as together as I they appear to.
2006-09-13 06:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by AlongthePemi 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hehehehe... I guess I have a touch of bad mommy in me too! Let see some things people got mad at me over....
Daughter lied to me about reading a chapter for school (made a 20 on a test) so instead of TIMEOUT I told her she was not to come out of her room until the book was finished and she could write a paragraph summary of each one.
I potty trained my kids at 12 months so I was making them grow up too quickly.
I swatted my baby's hands when he got into something he wasn't supposed to.
I didn't use Dreft on my newborn (and he never had a rash so why would I?)
Not filling a prescription for allergies when I thought my daughter just had a cold and would get over it...she did.
I don't MAKE my child eat their veggies (just offer them) or finish their whole plate at dinner (don't even make them eat if they don't want to)
I'm sure I could go on and on...LOL
Enough of the joke though. A bad mother is one who doesn't take appropriate care of her child and doesn't teach them to be an independent useful member of society. My parenting philosophy is teach my child how to live without me by the time they graduate....not that I won't be there when they need me but they should know how to live on their own.
2006-09-13 09:36:14 · answer #4 · answered by pebble 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I must be an imperfect mommy. I did things my way rather then the way these people who probably don't have kids say is the right way. Takes a mommy to know how to really run things.
I never ignored my child or left them laying for 23 hours though, I would consider that abuse.
2006-09-13 04:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOh I am a bad mommy!
I force my children to wear weather appropriate clothing in lieu of shorts and a t-shirt on a rainy 65 degree day, personal expression be damned.
I never rocked my infants to sleep, (especially until they were 12 years old)
I never kept the house silent so the baby could sleep.
I gave them all cereal in their formula bottles, instead of always from a spoon when they were babies.
I only used baby detergent for the first washing of their clothes.
Gotta thing of some more. This is fun- yet kinda scary. lol
2006-09-13 04:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by therealprinsess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have been reading your various posts and I do agree with you... I think that every parent, as long as they are tending to the child's needs and not abusing or neglecting, has the right to decide how best to handle the details based on the child's needs, her needs, and the rest of the family's needs, WITHOUT being judged by other parents that may do things differently. That said, maybe it is time to let it go, and feel confident in doing your child-rearing your way...you don't have to listen to anybody who gets in your face uninvited about breastfeeding, co-sleeping, discipline, or whatever the hot topic of the moment is. You seem very bitter and stuck on what other people think of your parenting methods...time to ignore them and do the best you can. Best wishes!
2006-09-13 04:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by p.helen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about:
1. Not breastfeeding AT all
2. Drinking wine in front of a child
3. NOT hanging up the phone to answer to the childs every beck and call
4. Going out for a ladies night
5. Sending child to preschool
6. Letting baby cry it out
7. Not making child special request meals on demand
2006-09-13 04:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A bad mother is someone who doesn't pay attention to their child! One who doesn't change their diapers when needed or one who doesn't feed them when they are hungry. A bad mother doesn't play with their child or teacher their child the right and wrong of life. A bad mother only does for herself and not her child. A bad mother pushes her child way when they need to be comforted. A bad mother doesn't shed a tear when her child is hurt or sad. Does this help!!
2006-09-13 04:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not a bad mother. My parents have accused me of being a bad mother because I didn't feed my one year old eggs for breakfast. My mother told me I was a bad mother because It was cold outside and I didn't put my 1 year old in a snowsuit just to run to the grocery store. I think its crazy !!!! Hasn't anyone heard of their child getting sick from being overheating them ?! I just ignore every ones comments . I know whats best for my child.
2006-09-13 04:23:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont consider these things as bad mother. I call them being a mother that lives in a imperfect world. no one out there is perfect so were going to make mistakes. but it not being a bad mother. a bad mother is someone who realy doesnt love there child. they abuse them, they ll leave them for days at home alone to let them feed there self. or they hurt them or even kill them bec they dont want to be a mother anymore thats a bad mother.
2006-09-13 07:31:21 · answer #11 · answered by Lori T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋