Im a loner and I find it hard to mix with people?

Question

i find that i am shutting myself away when it comes to socialsing and mixing with people i feel as if i dont want to be there and keep shutting my boyfriend out sometimes because of it
me and my boyfriend have been invited to a 60th birthday party this thursday and i dont want to go as i feel as if i just want to know my boyfriend only can anyone help ? and he says to me i hate it when you wont share things with me as sometimes i go in a huff and get moody and i cannot help it i dont mean to be and i need to control it but finding it hard too is anyone feeling the same as i do ?

Answer 1

Sounds like social anxiety disorder to me...you should talk to your physician. There are meds out there to help you feel better and more in control of your emotions. You aren't alone....I've been there before and the medicine helped tremendously.

Answer 2

I have the same feelings as you, but they are not as bad as they used to be. I hate to say it, but I had some counselling and it really helped! Taught me self worth, which is something I think you might be needing. You need to boost your confidence, which could be on the outside with a new outfit or hair do or on the inside with keeping fit, eating healthily and getting some counselling. Always be honest with your boyfriend and open up to him if you can, I'm sure he'll try and help. I think you should go to the party. The more you make yourself do, the less scary it becomes. Good luck and have fun x

Answer 3

Hello, I can understand exactly what you are saying, but one major thing that you need to realise is that besides you having your boyfriend being there for you, you need others to support you in other aspect of life regardless of how unrealistic an attitude you might think they are potraying.
One thing I would advice; is that you should try to draw closer to people who come around you and don't pay attention to their negetive actions, when ever you think they are trying or acting negetive, just assume that there is no one around you and try to feel as comfortable as you can, because the happier you are the less chance you stand of been a high blood pressure patient, and letting other deseases and sicknesses conquer you. With these things in consideration, I think things would definitely work out.
Chaw then, all the best.

Answer 4

I agree with the last girl, It's only gonna get worse, If you don't get help. You wouldn't be asking a ton of strangers for their opinion if you didn't think there was a problem. Unless you start off small and try to overcome this your self, start going to small public places or places where there are not many people, and build from there. You also have low self-esteem to, Once you feel better about yourself and love yourself maybe with help you can get through this!

Answer 5

Needing to be more confident. grab a nice out fit get the lippy on oh and maybe just the one drink and enjoy it & try not to sit in a corner walk around talk to people say Hi i haven't seen you for a while how are you... Go on i bet you will have a fab time and your boyfriend will be amazed!

Answer 6

I think your background (cultural, religious or family) must have contributed immensely to this state of yours. But with what you've said, I think you have an understanding boyfriend who should be trusted. If you allow him to guide you, I believe he's ready to make a good job of it. Also, if you don't mind, maybe I need to have some chat with you. You may contact me through my profile if you agree with that. Cheers!

Answer 7

be happy and except who you are.If you do and have the courage to do this your partner will understand you.Do you like being a loner??