I have had 2 kids and pretty much built my life with my husband and I love him so much.....would it be wrong to say hi to a bf i had 7 years ago just as friends???? My husband has talk to his ex girlfriends and he has told me about it.....once at a wedding and the other well she called our house.......i just wondered if this would be wrong or if it would be okay?????
2006-09-13 04:00:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think I will contact him......there is to much loose....thank you for the answers.
2006-09-13 04:14:05 · update #1
If you seek him out then there is something beneath that you haven't realized or admitted to yourself yet! but if you see him in passing and you say hi then its perfectly fine! but I have a feeling its the first guess! :)
2006-09-13 04:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by carpenter2929 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as there aren't any other hidden intentions, I think it's perfectly fine. Maybe you could have him meet the hubby. Yes, I'm serious. One of our closest friends (who is now married), use to be my ex-boyfriend. I introduced him to my hubby years ago and they became fast friends. Since then, my husband stood up in his wedding, we do family outings together and our kids play together. From what I've heard, this situation is rather rare, but if your hubby still talks to the ex gf's from time to time, I see no reason why you can't do the same on a frienship only level.
2006-09-13 11:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more worried as to why your husband's exgirlfriend is calling your house in the first place. It sounds like, maybe even subconsciously, you want to rekindle a friendship with your ex because your husband has one with his. You need to think about why you want to call your ex. Is he a friend you can't live without? Would your life be better is you had his friendship in it? Would it cause stress on you current relationship? I think you need to delve deeper into the reasons for this sudden urge to pick up a phone.
2006-09-13 11:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by ehcgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, from my point of view I don't see any thing wrong with saying hi to an ex if you have no more feelings for him, there would only be a problem if you still have feelings for him, but if not you guys could even become best of friends with no complication.
2006-09-13 11:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you happen to run into an old flame, then sure, say "hi."
But I wouldn't recommend that you try to be friends with an ex....too likely to cause problems, no matter how strong your marriage is. Given the sadly-high divorce rate, I'd stay away from this, and give your marriage the best chance you can.
2006-09-13 11:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An ex is an ex for a reason, remember why he became an ex before you start talking again. Make sure your husband is alright with you talking to him first, you don't want to find out he isn't cool with it after you start talking again.
2006-09-13 11:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your doing it in a manner of friendship then nothing is wrong with it. Talk to him have a coffee and chat of old times but thats it and as long as your hubbie is not totally upset by it then it should be alright... Have a good time and relax, it is not a big deal in my book!!!
2006-09-13 11:03:42 · answer #7 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong in keeping a talking relationship with an ex boyfriend. why not? If you truly love your husband so much and he trusts you like you trust him, then there is nothing wrong.
2006-09-13 11:05:21 · answer #8 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not,; you should treat all old acquaintances much the same.Be friendly. But why would you want to reach out and contact him? Curious?
Do it in passing, and leave any other contact alone.
2006-09-13 11:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends if your husband is okay with it. He seems to think it's fine to talk to his ex, so he should have enough self esteem to handle it if you talk to yours. It's the men with no self esteem that has a problem with it. You should be fine.
2006-09-13 11:04:39 · answer #10 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋