He has had several gf's break up with him over his pornography and strip club addiction.
I thought the problem was gone when he met me, bc we always had alot of great sex and I never caught him in the act.
I recently found out that he's been spending 1000's a month at the strip joints and everytime I leave the house... even for 5 minutes, I come back and he is looking at porn and masturbating.
I am still just as pretty as when we met 2 years ago and I still have a really high sex drive, but he is just not interested in me anymore.
We are down to having sex only once a month tops... And it's not because of lack of effort on my part.
I try to entice him every day.
But I am sick of the lies and missing money.
He doesn't think he has a problem.
(He is almost 40 and I am 21.)
2006-09-13 03:51:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's a pervert and you need to leave him alone and he needs some professional help. Just move on and accept the fact that regardless of how pretty you are or how much sex you have, he still will require some professional help. You or any other person is not enough to help him with his problem, he needs to see a professional.
2006-09-13 03:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First problem... why is a 38 year old guy interested in a 19 year old girl to begin with?
You know what I mean? You have to ask yourself these questions when you get involved with somebody.
This guy has serious issues. He's probably not a danger to anybody but himself, but regardless, this isn't something that's ever going to go away. And now you've got a major emotional investment in this guy.
You girls need to stop trying to fix guys... and just make it a goal to look for one who can and wants to make you happy. Guys like that -are- out there.
2006-09-13 04:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex addiction is a serious problem. Mostly because it can lead to severe anti-social and inappropriate behavior, and in a lot of cases (maybe not your boyfriends) it can lead to a lot of STDS. But for sex addicts having sex can be more like a cigarette or heroin injection than any kind of romantic effort. Maybe for your boyfriend, who cares for you, keeping you away from that 'feeding his fix' kind of lifestyle could be one reason why you aren't having sex. Maybe he worries about losing his feelings because he has become so numb to it all?? This is a shot in the dark because I don't know you two, but I think it is important that he seek some professional help for this.
2006-09-13 04:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by todovabien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has a big problem and he needs to seek medical advice for his addiction to porn. If you really are interested in spending the rest of your life attending therapy with him then tell him that he needs help.
Also, can't you find a man your age or in his 20's? My guess is that a younger man will satisfy your sexual needs more, both now and in the future. Also, think about this big age gap that there is between you. Later on in life you will regret of being with this man because problems due to age difference will arise.
2006-09-13 03:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by trushka 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't you know what you should do....
If I were you I would break up with him, I like to be the ONLY woman in a mans life, not second to porn and strippers.
There are counselors that specialize in porn addictions- get him help after you break up with him. You're only 21, you can get a better man who treats you like a princess. He is 41, there might not be any room for change. He has dealt with his addiction for quite some time it sounds like, he's not gonna change for you, he is going to change when HE wants to change.
2006-09-13 04:01:18 · answer #5 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even thought it might be hard for you.. find someone else.. So many men would love to have a young good looking woman by their side..they wouldn't need to be going to strip clubs when they have the real deal at home..
2006-09-13 03:55:18 · answer #6 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not think that age is a problem in your relationship, unlike many of the others. You and he should probably get married if you are going to continue to have sex. How can you hape to get him off of his pornography and strip club addiction if you are supporting something that ties into it, like sex before marriage?
2006-09-14 08:23:47 · answer #7 · answered by John B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He actually has a serious problem; I don't know what the term is called, but he is literally addicted to porn and needs it to be sexually active. If you truely love him, then you should try to help him get over this problem; however, if he doesn't love you enough to stop, then it might be time to move on, for the sake of yourself.
2006-09-13 03:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you strip for him and his friends and you might make that 1000 a month instead of the club
2006-09-13 03:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He spends thousands a month on this ? Dump him .. but then let me know what he does for a living .. where he earns this kind of money and spends all day and night at strip joints.
2006-09-13 03:55:52 · answer #10 · answered by tysavage2001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋