to part or not to part?:|?

Question

well...i really want the ones who answer this Q to be serious. i have a boyfriend for 7months now....and...he is totally different from me. i am wild, funny, waiting for fun, while he is really serious. he loves me A LOT, but i on the other hand...don't know...i think i don't love him...if we will brake up...i would die if he wasn't my friend. because i care about him. and i don';t want him to suffer stayin with me...not loving him. what shoul i do? :((((

Answer 1

hmm just accept him as he is, everyone is different somewhere and somehow, but if things not working out, you can talk to him about whats bothering you, and if he can fix it you can continue, if not just try and take time alone and think do you want him or not, and if you want him he would change a bit if not, sorry, but the realtionship is based on friendship than. remember everybody is different and have different likes and dislikes and so on.. ask him does he like you and ask him what he likes you for, if he cannot reply just break up for awhile and tell him"I think our realtionship is not working out, we should have a break" otherwise, i have no other ideas on it... best of luck there =)

Answer 2

sometimes falling in love can be a decision. you can decide to learn to love him not try anything at all. if you really care about him and your friendship, then I guess you should try and try for the friendship's sake until things just fall into place. until then and until you feel you've exerted all efforts, yet things are still the same as you have detailed, then that is the time you let him go and become free to find someone else who can really love him. atleast at the very end, you can prove that you also did your part in making the relationship work.

you two maybe are totally different people, but it doesn't mean that you're not made for each other... you can try to complement each other's likes and wants and live with the dislikes. you can try to spend more time with him so you'd learn more about his family, his friends and just about who he really is. you can try anything for the relationship just as hard as he is doing.

but if you decide to part with him, be able to live with the consequences. definitely you won't be friends right away and then maybe, that'll be the only time you'll realize you really love him but taking it for granted all along. whatever happens, weigh all the pros and cons and just be really sure about how you feel...or you'll break more than just his heart.. as well as yours. goodluck!

Answer 3

You may want to reassess if this is a guy you can stay with for the long haul. He may not be exactly like you buit would he be a good provider? A good lover? A good father?

Compromise and maturity, in synch with your goals, are the foundation of living a happy life

Answer 4

I think you two need to sit down and talk. Tell him that you care about him deeply but do not love him the way he deserves to be loved. I would think he would appreciate the fact that you are doing what is best for him. I hope that you maintain your friendship. Good Luck!

Answer 5

hi eve.........it is sad 2 hear ur prblm, n i can understand it as i myself went thru a similiar situation in my past.Well i wl suggest u 2 break up this relation wich will do no good 2 either of u. dnt think dat u will die after dat trust me no body die for anyone u will realise it wid time n if u do it dat means u dnt respect ur self n d ppl who trust u....think about ur family......why wud dey suffer bcz f ur faults?i may sound rude but trust me relations like this will not fetch u anything n moreover u r not only making ur life miserable but also of sumone who loves u unconditionally...he will get hurt initially but think this way wich hurt z more??he will b wid u bt wont get d love he deserve from u or he will stay away from u but remains happy.....dont be selfish think about his life n feelings.......remember always it is good 2 b far but close in hearts than b close but wid cold differences in between.....try to talk 2 him n make him understand wut is dat u r luking for in a relation n b honest n tell him dat u care n love is a strange n very pious feeling n u dont want it 2 become a lie n more like a liability in between both f u.....do not seek 4 momentary pleasures in ur life think beyond it n think about his feelings.....wt if sumone u love 2morrow do this 2 u will u b able 2 take it ??ask urself u will get d answer....and if he really loves u n care for u n is ur good friend he will surely understand it n will continue being ur friend n u will not loose him ever coz this is wt luv is u c other person's happiness more than yours....dat is wut matters......the person whom u love....his happiness.....n u can hurt urself but cant hurt him ven u r in love.....so al d very best n i will pray dat u get ur friend for life n all things get sort out between u asap...... i may sound rude n m very sorry 4 dat but my point z 2 tell u d crux of the matter n i hope u r smart enough 2 understand wut i meant.... take care.....n all d very best.....n u shud never say dat u love a person whom u never loved.....its a sin dont do this.....neither 2 urself nor 2 him........take care......

Answer 6

you should just be open and honest....think of what could happen down the line if u lead him on, making him think that you love him just as he loves you...if you're so concerned of not making him suffer its best that u tell him how u feel right away.

Answer 7

Let him know little by little and as subtlely as you can that you value his friendship more than anything else and no matter what will happen in the future, you will always be his friend.

Answer 8

Okay...he is your friend...good. Opposites can be good for each other, for they compliment each other. You say he loves you a lot...well, you love him as a friend. And you never know what the future might bring. Be honest with your friend, dear one.

Answer 9

i'm sorry to hear that you're in such a difficult position. reflect on whether you really like him, cause if you leave him, you might never get him back.
try talking and explaining to him,n make him understand u if possible. good luck

Answer 10

U can mak something out of nothin. He u dont have the same feelin as him then wat can u do? U shouldnt b selfish bc a relationship isnt a/b 1 person. U have 2 ask urself this - r we better friends r bf? By ur answer u will kno wat 2 do.