After 6 years of lies, cheating, and damaging my self esteem to the point where I was almost about to check into a clinic, He says he still loves me?!! Why would he play with my head!?!?!
2006-09-13 03:33:32 · 19 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
probably because he can't get anyone better than you as that probably isn't possible. don't go back to him hun if you had all of that trouble before, because he will change for the first few months then as soon as he thinks that you trust him, he will turn back to the way he was. good luck . x
2006-09-13 03:35:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has some issues. My Ex used to beat me, but always told me how much he LOVED me. After I finally got out of there ~ he still would call saying he loved me.
I think he is trying to control you, the lower your self esteem, the more control he has when he says he is in love. You need someone to love you ~ he says it is so ~ you don't feel so good about yourself and you really want to believe it will be better. Believe me, get away ~ do whatever you possibly have to. I have been in therapy for quite some time. I have made progress and now see what an A$$ my loser of a boyfriend was. You too can find your head again and realize YOU are a wonderful person. He is the one who has the problems.
2006-09-13 03:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by JUNONNKI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he probably does love you in his own sick way. It is not the type of love that you want in your life. People have different levels of love. They might be loving you with all they have and treat you the only way they know how. This DOES NOT make it right by any means. If you took a look in his past, you might be able to see the tail tail signs of why he is the way he is today. My late husband loved me the best he knew how. Now was that enough for me, not really but I knew he was doing the best be could considering his history of childhood and other relationships. You need to find a way to not let him hurt you. You need to work on your own self esteem, learn to trust in God, and move on in your life. I really don't think that he is intentionally playing with your head or playing mind games. I think he it totally lost in his own world. Check out of his world, and check into your own world. Create a safe place for you in your own heart. If you have children together and you are forced to deal with him, just put up an wall in your mind and heart so he can't hurt you any more.
God bless you honey and good luck
2006-09-13 03:43:47 · answer #3 · answered by cinson1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are just crazy like that!!! I persoanlly went through the same thing for 2 years. The man killed me so much that literally I began havign migraine headaches, pains so horrible that I threw up all day. And of course he could care less of my tragic state. I come to relaize he was the cause after leaving him and, hello no more migraines. You know he's trying to get you back again, don't let him. Forget about him and start a new clean slate. Don't hurt yourself anymore for the sake of "love"...God Bless
2006-09-13 03:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he is an egomaniac who has no idea how he affects people around him or he thinks that somehow telling you that he still loves it will somehow provide a some redemption for his wrong doings or he is the type of person who feels so shitty about himself that he takes out his frustrations on the one he loves so even though he hurt you, he really does love you or in the end perhaps he is just simply an asshole of a jerk who is bent on hurting you to the very end and leaving as the "good guy" who still loved you so that you feel guilty about leaving him.
2006-09-13 03:39:02 · answer #5 · answered by Nathan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to buy into your theory that he is playing with your head would require me to accept that he is intentionally malicious. While that could be true, there is another explanation which fits the facts you have provided. It is possible that his definition of love is different from yours and that he genuinely believes he loves you despite the bad treatment. If we were to assume, for the sake of argument, that my theory is true, then my question to you is "how much are you willing to put up with?"
Despite the amount of time you have put into your relationship and this man, you need to determine whether you are happy and whether you believe there is a chance for you to be genuinely happy. If this guy is making you as unhappy as it sounds, perhaps you should consider finding someone to treat you well. Don't you deserve that much?
2006-09-13 03:39:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. He sounds like a real loser. Since he cheated, you had a moral and legal right to divorce him. Of course if he was really sincere you could take him back, but I don't sense that for a moment, and I don't think you do, either. He's a betrayer and I wish there was an old fashioned military style of justice system for men like that.
2006-09-13 03:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about power and control. He is lying and trying to play with your heart as well as your head.
My best guess, since my ex is doing the same thing to me, is that he is working to get you back under total control so that he can continue the lies, cheating, and trashing your opinion of yourself.
There is an excellent message board website for women who have been abused, as you have. "The Catbox" www.drirene.com
2006-09-13 03:41:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the important question is why are u still talking to him?? why havent u burnt all his things, changed ur phone numbers and address and moved on in life. He say s he loves u cos he doesnt want to b alone and wants to b controlling. In his sick twisted head he might think he loves you, but what is ur meaning of love? i doubt its the same as above. Forget about him and find a decent guy with gr8 qualities.
2006-09-13 03:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my dear, recently i get to know a gal facing problem like u too and has so many hurts that i really feel sorry for her. i think the bottom line is perhaps u do still love him, if not his words will have no effect on u. i hope u will analyze the situation and decide the best thing to do, will pray for u. remember, u are loved by us.
2006-09-13 03:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋