my oldest daughter is 8 years old and she is in 3rd grade. in first grade she did everything she could to get into trouble at school. ignoring the teacher, throwing away her homework instead of turning it in, taking 3 hours to do her homework and i know she doesn't have that much, deliberately acting as though she doesn't learn anything at school yet she has shown us she can do her homework but she liked to play around and do it wrong. she even got suspended.
well in second grade she did good. good grades, no detention.
it's 4 weeks into the 3rd grade and she's already starting down the same path she took in 1st grade except she's not detting detention (yet) she's a very smart girl. we've seen what she can do. but for some reason absolutly does not want to do her home right and she has shown us that she can. what can we do? we've punished, we've offered rewards. we told her we'd give her money if she can bring home all A's (we know she can....she did it before)
2006-09-13 02:58:54 · 14 answers · asked by storm_magus3 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yet even with the offer of money her 3 week progress report had a 70. a D!!!!
she sould end up failing yet she tells us she's not having any trouble in that class. i don't know what to do. please help
2006-09-13 03:00:19 · update #1
She appears to be a very smart girl, but isacting up for some other reason. Try askingher what's bothering her about school, sk her what she liked about 2nd grade and seeif you can dosoemthing to help. Maybe the school isn't working for her learning style adn she needs tosee thingsfrom a different way, which you could work with her on at home. also, many "gifted" childrenact up because they get bored at school, if that's teh problem ask her if she'd liek to learn more and promise to teach her new things if she behaves at school. There are a lot of websites that have fun science projects for parents and kidsto do together. If you approach her in an adult manner, you might eb suprised to hear her give you some adult like answers, even when she has been acting childish.
2006-09-13 03:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay this is just my advice to you i have an 8yr old who is in 2nd grade i myself sit down with him every night together and do his homework and we read together i don't just tell him to go and do it by himself for i know there will be playing around and it could take an hour verses 30 minutes if i sit down with him and take time out of my day and spend it on teaching him the right way to do homework and study, I get great results from him ... He is an A student and has won awards for great behavior also this all comes from how you start off raising your child and who your child hangs around and who influences them through the years.. and like i said this is only my opinion other parents may do it differently my son get rewarded every report card and at the end of the month for all stars, And believe me my child is no angle he can be a brat he just knows how hes is suppose to act in school and how much grades mean i wish you the best of luck kids aren't easy....
2006-09-13 03:10:40 · answer #2 · answered by brutalA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't punish her for this, maybe someone is bothering her at school, or something.. Maybe she has something on her mind that she's afraid to talk to you about... When my som was in second grade all of a sudden one day he didnt want to go to school, I couldnt figure out why, I asked him over and over and punished him for staying home, come to find out after a week or so, These two older kids were taking his lunch money everyday even went as far as patting him down.. I felt so awful for punishing him, for something that wasnt even his fault.. She may have ADD, take her to the doctor and explain to him whats going on also...GOOD LUCK
2006-09-13 03:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has something on her mind. Talk to her. Ask her what you can do to help. Dont yell or ground without finding the root of the problem. Get her involved in sports if she isnt already. The right coach in a childs life makes a world of difference. Stay focused she will be just fine.
2006-09-13 03:03:05 · answer #4 · answered by Kelly V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something much more than acting out is going on here. Have you asked her why she is doing this? What did she say? Have you spoken with her teachers and counselors at her school? Perhaps something is going on while she at school and she does not know how to deal with it. Sometimes we forget that children don't always know how to handle situations in a healthy or strait forward way. I hope that you can get to the bottom of this. I can imagine it is heartbreaking to see your baby struggle.
2006-09-13 03:05:13 · answer #5 · answered by anv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a child almost the same age. But my husband & I had the same problem.Our child refused to do the home work ,not listening to teacher, playing the class chatterbox. we took him to the DR.... DR.attn.hyper .defecet.disorder.Thats what he came up with.Well just be a loving mom , don't pay her to do homework she will want that every time she has to do any thing. I know I Almost went Broke.Check this out. good luck to you all.
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2006-09-13 03:29:09 · answer #6 · answered by gingergirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ground her also she may be on a pattern so either try to do the hw with her and get close to her, or in 4th grade when she might try to do great punish her severly if she does somthing wrong like 1 week grounding and dont let up no matter how much it hurts cause it will work.
2006-09-13 03:03:21 · answer #7 · answered by Squeaker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a lot of great answers.
now here is one most ppl didn't mention.
when i had problems w/my child at school i put them into a digital learning program thru the school and kept them at home. their work was done on the computer and they didn't have anyone but me and the teachers to help/distract. all of the learning was on my child. it was at the child's pace and if they needed my help i was there for them.
maybe your daughter is ahead of the lessons and is getting bored. she needs to work at her own pace, and skill level. maybe she is getting distracted 'cuz this is sooooo easy mom. i mean like come on. everybody knows that the square root of 144 is 12. don't they??
you can find some online tests to see where to place your child if you were going to home school them, so use them and see if she is ahead or behind.
2006-09-13 03:31:23 · answer #8 · answered by keanweaner 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a good tuition teacher does help like for me, i used to have so many and not one could help me, till i had a really diligent one and i scored pretty well.
try giving her encouragement instead of negative feedback even if she doesn't do well. if u keep scolding a kid she is stupid, she may sooner or later end up thinking she is really stupid and that takes away her confidence. i believe everyone of us has hidden potential yet to be tapped of. god bless.
2006-09-13 03:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! she is only eight years old and you have put her in a testing ground where she is failing. All this is because of civilization. Be calm and ask her what she likes and do accordingly and everthing would be fine. On the other hand you want the girls in your way you are ruining your life as well as hers.
2006-09-13 03:10:10 · answer #10 · answered by ssmindia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋