i have cheated on him in the past and i know i would never do it again, is there anyway i can trust him again? i know its going to be hard with no confidence, and that im living far away from friends. my boyfriend has an anger problem when i acuse him of something, im not always like this but its just his so friend with girls coz his kind bloke and soft hearted.
2006-09-13 02:36:27 · 12 answers · asked by kim in guildford 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i don't understand why you don't trust him.. you were the one who was unfaithful...if he agreed to look past that and stay with you its obvious enough that hes crazy in love with you and wont hurt you. its totally normal to feel insecure when your partner is naturally flirtatious or soft hearted as you put it but you must keep in mind, you have a child with this guy, if he wasn't serious enough or if he was going to fool around he wouldn't be with you after you had previously betrayed him. try to work through your fears and doubts with him rather than accusing him of things which will result in a temper tantrum. Reassure him how you feel for him and this way you might be given all the answers your searching for. Good luck with things.
2006-09-13 02:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whywould you not trust him if YOU cheated on him? Do you mean he cheated on you? Im not sure i understand your question but you both need to knuckle down and work hard at this relationship for the sake of your baby.
Why not organise a nice romantic night for the two of ye where ye can openly talk about any problems or doubts ye may be having and put the past behind ye and concentrate on a happy future for the three of ye
2006-09-13 02:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
leaving the past behind is so much harder said than done.you want to trust him so bad but you cant seem to ignore those horrible thoughts you have about who hes talking to.who hes with when hes not with you and what he may be doing behind your back.its hard.i think you owe it to your beautiful baby to really try and trust him.after all has he ever done wrong by you?you have to stop punishing yourself, your boyfriend and your baby by living in the past.try and talk to him instead of accusing him.tell him you love him so much and you understand that it makes him angry when you accuse him of things.say your sorry and you just really need him to help you through this hard time.im sure he will understand and love you and be there for you.in the meantime give him a reason to want to be there for you and reassure you.show him you really are trying to move on and trust him.
good luck.i hope everything works out for you
2006-09-13 02:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by J'sGirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't understand - you say that you cheated on him, but can't trust him. That doesn't make any sense to me. Anyway, jealousy is such a waste of time. If your boyfriend is not abusive to you or the baby, just try to enjoy every day of your life. Try to make each other happy. Good luck to your little family, I hope you'll be happy together.
2006-09-13 02:42:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hang on... you cheated on HIM....but you don't trust HIM.
Just because he's friendly to girls doesn't mean he's going to cheat on you... you shouldn't judge others by your own standards.
Your question is full of flaws, on one hand you say he has an anger problem then you go on to say that he's kind and soft hearted... sorry...I'm not following at all....
2006-09-13 02:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie29uk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you feel you can't trust him because you think he'll pay you back for cheating on him..?
If there is no trust, the relationship will break down eventually anyway so you need to try to get over it.
Good Luck
2006-09-13 02:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by Trillyp 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your guilty conscience is ruining the relationship,because you have cheated you believe within yourself he wil do the same and without trust there is no room for love
2006-09-13 10:12:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess now you know how he felt when you cheated on him, thats if he found out. What I think is that women like to go looking for stories with their men and usually they find what they are looking for. Trust your man cause if you dont, why you with him.
2006-09-13 02:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by babejules2006 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well you have cheated on him before so you cant really say anythinng to him about cheating. We all know its wrong so why do we do it. It just makes it hard for us all to settle down.
2006-09-13 02:42:00 · answer #9 · answered by Susan N 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you don't trust him b'coz u have done that to him don't worry if he loves u trust him and the rest will c later, because u wont b happy as long as u don't trust him
2006-09-13 02:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by crazygal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋