Can everyone who answered me before, please look at my question again....?

Question

I asked earlier on, how you feel about "weed" and lots of you said if I met my fiance smoking it, I should except it. But I did except it, untill I realized how badly it affects him. You can not communicate with him at all, he just looks at you. It really makes him brain dead. am I being unfair then, if i ask him to please stop. i'm pregnant as well, and don't want my child growing up with those things around it. Do you guys still feel the same now? You made me feel bad, the ones that said, maybe his smoking it to be able to live me and handle me, and that i'm the problem. You guys really got me thinking now. I feel like a real b****. Like I'm destroying his life!

Answer 1

I think you're an idiot for getting involved with someone who does drugs.I won't say what I think about getting pregnant by him.What the hell is wrong with you girl?You and that baby will never come before his drugs.Tell him to get help and grow up,if he needs drugs to handle life now,he damn sure isn't going to handle it any better when he has a child.It will only get worse!

Answer 2

Don't feel bad! I dated a guy once who smoked weed and at first I didn't realise the effect it was having on him. It makes people lazy, negative, paranoid and stuck in life. I believe people start using it to block out their problems. Even when life is OK, they are so used to the instant feeling of relaxation it gives them, they just smoke out of habit. Of course he should stop! If not for himself or you, then for his baby. He needs your love and encouragement. Tell him how great he is when he's not smoking... lively and fun and great to talk to. Ask him to go a couple of days a week without it at first, and show him how much you appreciate being with HIM and not a zombie! I wish you well x

Answer 3

While it's true that you can't expect to change a person, you can expect the person to eventually grow up and get rid of the bad habits. There is nothing wrong with wanting him to stop the drugs. In fact, being pregnant, you shouldn't even be around him when he's smoking them. It's not good for you or the baby. You are not being unfair to your boyfriend, but being adult and a parent. He should be able to grasp that concept. If he's not, then you may have to leave him to get him to realize you mean what you say.
Good Luck to you and yours. I hope it all works out for you.

Answer 4

I WOULD ask him to stop now it's not just for YOU it's for his child/family so tell him to quit being so selfish and realize he has a REAL reason to quit and if he cares about you and the baby he will quit before its born. I know you love him so keep trying to get him to understand and don't give up. BUT give him until the baby is born to get in his head and understand, cause when the baby is born and he holds it and it becomes an actual reality he better change. Or he may get caught and go to jail or prison and lose you both anyway. Either way its gonna hurt but you have the right to make him understand before its too late. good luck sweetie, and don't give up on him yet.

Answer 5

Don't stress yourself over opinions that people say on here.......yeah that is a bad habit your fiance has but that is really up to him if he wants to stop smoking weed...it took me a long time to stop but I had a man that would smoke right along with me....until I got pregnant then I stopped but then once I had my son I did it again but then I got older and I had to realize I have to get a job and now I am a mother and my husband was thinking the same way...so we stopped maybe you just need to talk to him and tell him you don't want it around your kid and you feel he needs to slow down at least and little by little he will give it up when he wants...Never tell a man what to do just talk to them and they will understand...

Answer 6

Don't let these people who said those things to you make you feel bad. You are not the one to blame!!!!! Your boyfriend is an adult and is responsible for his own actions!!!! If he doesn't have enough respect for you and your child then I say kick him to the curb!!! You are thinking about your child and he is not!!!! If he is not willing to change his habits for his child, then he does have a serious problem. You do not need to feel guilty!!! It is hard living with someone who is dependent on drugs or alcohol. I am not against weed, in fact I enjoy it myself but it does not rule my life!!!! Good Luck Dear, Hope all goes well with you and your baby!!!

Answer 7

If he was smoking weed when you met him why would you think he would quit now .Did he promise that he would ? The biggest problem is that you got pregnant before you worked this out or got married now you have to figure out what your going to do about the baby.All kids deserve to grow up in a drug free 2 parent home and now you need to figure out how to provide that. Good luck.

Answer 8

Wow...I didn't answer your first Q (I didn't see it), but those who answered so rudely sound like first class a**holes to me...geez. I think you have every right to ask him to stop b/c it's not about him, or even you anymore; it's about that baby. And if he can't come to at least a halfway decent compromise (although I don't see how smoking ANY pot is good for anyone--especially around someone who's expecting; it's not good for YOU to be breathing that crap--you're carrying a baby!)...anyway, if he can't come around at least halfway, I'd say it's time to leave him. Sorry but your baby must come first now. I hope things work out though...

God bless.

Answer 9

I don't think you're destroying his life. He is destroying it himself. Maybe he is making you feel guilty and that it is your fault that he is acting that way. I don't think you are gonna get him out of that, he is the only one who can decide when to stop. If you're pregnant don't smoke that, it is gonna affect your child. If you are not in love with him just get out of this sick relationship, but if you are get out of there as well; 'cause at the end your life is going to be destroyed. Good Luck and Pray to God for Help!!

Answer 10

You may need to compromise and say for example, you want to smoke, you do it on sundays only. Dont have your child around it, tell him to smoke in the shed if he dosnt wish to quit but yes it does affect everyone to the point they turn stupid and dont understand anything that comes out of your mouth, so maybe he needs help. Dont snap at everyone because your other question got answers you didnt wish to hear, we all have our own opinions, thats what this q's and a's is all about.