I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and although he used to be so thoughtful & send cute texts and emails, that seems to have stopped. Also we seem to always be doing things he wants to do, watching football, going to his parents. How can I encourage him to think about what I would like, or even send me flowers?
Surely I shouldn't have to ask him to do this?
2006-09-13 02:21:19 · 14 answers · asked by imalandamcuteasabutton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By going back to the beginning.. when all was sweet..when he was trying to win your heart. Do more things on your own or with friends.. Love is about freedom not possession. Go back to the times when you were single, and enjoy those things,, he'll soon realise that you are just as intriguing now as you were in the beginning
2006-09-13 02:44:23 · answer #1 · answered by Ivy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a "ideal" world, of course you shouldn't have to ask him, but the minute the sms stopped and the cute emails disappeared, your world became less and less "ideal".
If you don't talk to him now, while it's only been 3 months, he will never realize he is doing something wrong and he will continue with this behavior for ever, until you are fed up and break up with him, or until you get used to it and decide to stay in the relationship in spite of it.
2006-09-13 09:29:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, at only 3 months this has happened? That's not a good sign. You just have to tell him how you feel. Most of us are thoughtless when it comes to that and we're not mind readers.
He probably doesn't know it bothers you if you go along with everything.
If he can't respect how you feel then you should find someone who will. I bet that would get his attention.
P.S. There's nothing wrong with football ;)
2006-09-13 09:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is losing interest. Three months into a relationship is supposed to still be the cute and thoughtful stage. Find a new guy.
2006-09-13 12:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Yen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have unrealistic expectations, the road to an ending relationship .... make other plans to do what you want to do, he can come along with you or not as he chooses .... when he realizes that you aren't going to be at his beck and call, he will get more attentive. its always a mistake to live your life for someone else totally at the expense of your own interests and self
2006-09-13 09:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For any relationship to be long term, both partners have to be:
1. Sincere and honest with each other
2. Respect each other's views and values
3. Do things to please each other and not one-sided
4. Consult each other on decisions that will affect each other directly or indirectly.
5. Communicate with each other regularly
So, you have to communicate with him and let him know how you feel
2006-09-13 09:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men,
happen to be like that. We dont concentrate on one thing for soooo long. If he has decided to part ways give him time he shall wake up by himself come to senses and look for you.
2006-09-13 09:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wat wud u get wid complaining miss???
life wudnt move further till u tell him how u also want things 2 move in ur life....ur realtionship will keep going in 1 direction untill u decde how u wanna give it a new turn...
u have 2 let him know how u want things for u both...n at times wat things wud turn u off...
untill u do dat...life will keep on going dis way...& it wud b no use 2 complain...
talk 2 him...if he's understanding enough...things wud be back as they were
2006-09-13 10:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going down on him more often. like say, twice a day. i know from experience that it helps all types of relationships
2006-09-13 09:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you've chosen the wrong guy.( no offence meant) a guy must give all preference to his gal
2006-09-13 09:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by maninsearch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋