Don't get me wrong. I don't claim to be a paragon of virtue, and I've done some things I'm not proud of. However, I work with a young woman who often flirts with male customers and coworkers, even if she knows they're married. She was even caught making out with one of her coworkers in the break area! I just wonder, though, what would cause someone to act like that. Does anyone here have any insight?
2006-09-13 02:19:11 · 30 answers · asked by tangerine 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
By the way, I really don't care what she does. The only reason why I've posted this question is so that maybe I can try to figure her out. I always like to try to figure people out.
2006-09-13 04:06:43 · update #1
that is just horrible, i can't believe someone would do that.........!!!!!!
how do i get a job there..........?????
2006-09-13 02:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by tg315 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Flirting doesn't mean anything. That just might be her personality. Some people just think it's fun, so she might see no harm in it, and it makes the guys know she is paying attention to them.
As long as she doesn't act on it, it doesn't even matter. If the guy she was making out with was married that's a different issue all together.
2006-09-13 02:22:45 · answer #2 · answered by ShouldBeWorking 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just has a high sex drive, which would be the case for many more women if they didn´t supress their instincts so much; like women in so called "first world countries". (No male chauvinism intended).
Ps. regarding the first answer, the woman in question suffering from histrionic personality disorder: that´s another example of current society in the USA; everything "abnormal" is clasified as being a disorder and needs to be treated with therapy etc.
Please let people have their own unique personalities, do not try to mold everyone into the curent social norms; that´s what freedom is all about.
2006-09-13 02:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Dominican Rubio 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She is obviously looking for love/affection/communication because she isnt getting it at home....., but in the wrong kind of place.... as you may know, those that have been burnt before will sometimes look for it from a "safe haven" - in other words by flirting with somone that is taken, or 'forbidden fruit' - she doesnt have as much to worry about - because its a 'safe' attraction.......sometimes it doesnt turn out this way, and people will make a move, depending on their level of attraction, but thats thier concern and not yours.....allow her to make her own mistakes she will learn in time.
In the meantime, worry about what you need to do, her behaviour is no concern of yours, she will either grow out of it, grow up, or will find what she is looking for....
2006-09-13 02:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I wouldn't do it...But shes young single, she owes nothing to no one and a little flirting never hurt anyone, it's up to the other person to keep in mind their married and not let things get out of control. If the person she was kissing in the break room married it takes two to tango they could of said NO!
2006-09-13 02:38:44 · answer #5 · answered by Nena 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sluts who have no respect for themselves or the bonds of marriage. However, I have met many women who don't think what they are doing is flirting; being friendly is not flirting. And I have met other women who feel like they can look but not touch. Some feel flirting is harmless as long as it goes no further. As for this particular woman, she obviously has a problem if she can't keep her hands to herself even at work. In anyplace I've ever worked, this situation would have resulted in the dismissal of both guilty parties.
2006-09-13 02:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by kealey 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
This young lady most likey has low self esteem. She doesn't respect her body for one, and is looking for attention from who ever she can get it from! She needs a couple of nice Gals to be friends with these married dudes are using her 2!
2006-09-13 02:29:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sabreena B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Chapaton has it right, a personality disorder, either histrionic or even possibly narcissistic or borderline.
Read about them at the following.
http://www.health.am/psy/personality-disorders-pro/
http://www.4degreez.com/disorder/borderline.html
Maybe even pick up some tips for handling them in the workplace.
Used to work with one, they are master manipulators, had the entire office, which had once worked so well together, in huge conflict, until the big boss finally figured out the common denominator.
2006-09-13 02:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by finaldx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think its a contest for her. She wants to push the envelope as far as she can. She also gets a kick out of the mens reactions as well as everyone else she works with. She needs to be careful at work or she could get fired. She is a little immature and i wouldn't trust her as far as i could throw her as the saying goes.
2006-09-13 02:27:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why are you blaming the woman? Aren't men responding, wasn't it a married man that was with her? It takes two to tango you know.
And by the way, they are slightly more to blame than she is, they are the ones that said " I do" and made a commitment to someone else, not her
2006-09-13 02:23:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think she's the kind that likes to use people to get what she wants...if a beautiful or a sexy woman flirt with a man....all his defenses will fall, then he will be an easy prey. Either this or she has a very serious problem in her brain.
2006-09-13 02:38:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋