I've recently started chatting with a guy on a chat site, I've seen his photo and he is lovely! We've spoken loads on the phone and have arranged to meet up next week - he lives away so is going to be staying over in my home town. We feel like we've know each other for ages when we talk but the question is, do I let him stay at mine or book him into a hotel?
2006-09-13 01:53:14 · 68 answers · asked by long_luscious_lashes 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know the sensible and cautious thing to do, I guess I've just got carried away with it all...I've even mentioned to him my worries but of course he's reassured me he isn't some nutter - but then would a nutter confess to being a nutter? No! Hotel it is then, I've come back to my senses!
2006-09-13 02:00:50 · update #1
Have to add one more thing though, no one these days seems to bat an eyelid when someone meets someone in a club and they go home together for the night....just as dangerous surely?
2006-09-13 02:02:36 · update #2
Certainly for safety reasons purely because you havent yet met, I would get him booked into a hotel. Next time you could arrange something else but for the first time thats what i would suggest
2006-09-13 01:55:34 · answer #1 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Book a hotel for both of you, and then see how things go in person. If things go well stay at the hotel with him and call it a mini vacation. If they do not go well you can always go home. The other thing I would do is let a friend know where you are going to be and check in just for safety reasons, if he is a good guy he will understand. Good luck and have fun.
2006-09-16 08:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by gone fish'n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've recently started chatting with him and he's already coming to visit you? And you're considering letting him stay at your house?
Wow.
Even though it is probably a horrid idea to begin with, I'd not let him stick foot in your house, nor tell him where you live. Do everything in public with him.
Are you not old enough to understand that the internet is full of not only liars, but dangerous people as well?
I never understood people who do not take the time to actually find stuff out about someone before they just go walking off with them, the same thing goes for people in bars and clubs, I mean, it's mind blowing. I spent 6 months getting to know my wife before her and I started seeing each other on a regular basis, and this was back in the 80's, not the 50's...
Taking things a bit fast, aren't you?
2006-09-13 01:57:33 · answer #3 · answered by iswd1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should tell him how you feel. If you're too shy, what i did last time is that i call her. Sometime i wrote letter and e mail. But i can say, talk to him in person sure have the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettyness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve. All the best to u.
2006-09-13 03:43:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very sensibly you have decided to book him a hotel room ... If he's not a nutter and you want to sleep with him on that first date, at least you can use his room and not have to worry too much about the mess on the sheets in the morning!
Hope it all goes well for you, although it does seem likely that you'll both have to work hard to make it work if there's a big distance between you.
2006-09-13 02:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are loads of nice people in the world - luckily the majority - but there are also many bad people. There is a good chance this man is one of the former but you can't risk anything until you know for sure. So book him a hotel - which wisely seemed to be your first thought. In fact also make sure you are safe when you meet - somewhere public - a restaurant or the like. Hope it goes well.
2006-09-13 02:04:42 · answer #6 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be great together on the Inet but you may not be as good in person. People may act differently online than they do in person. See how compatable you are together and if things go really well then you may want to let him stay with you.
Still, I have a hard time trusting people I've never met so I'd book someone into a hotel. But then again that's me
2006-09-13 01:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be on the safe side and have him stay at a hotel. Also, arrange to meet with him in a public area and let a friend or family member know where you are going to be.
2006-09-13 02:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A hotel. It feels like you have known him for ages but you haven't. The worst of internet preditors have it down to a science how to make you feel secure. Also if you let him stay at your house it sort of makes you look tartish. Here you let a perfect stranger into your home he may expect something or think you do it all the time.
I say hotel first time. Good LUCK!
2006-09-13 01:56:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, watch out for your safety. Book him a hotel. The Internet can lie at times, so this "dream boat" may not be who he says he is at all.
Reserving a hotel room for him gives you a safety, and if he does turn out to be a creep, he doesn't know where you live. That is like inviting a stranger into your house, not safe.
2006-09-13 01:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Dre 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋