my boyfriend always tells me that he falls asleep better after "getting off" so when he cant sleep at night or in the mornings he watches porn. My first question is: Is this true and normal for males? The other part to this is that he tells me his sex drive isnt as high because he is on this medicine he takes. Would you say that it is because of this medicine or due to the fact that he is masturbating to porn all the time to as he says "get to sleep?" I just dont know what to do because he is always having trouble sleeping. Up all night sleeping during the day so he tries this "getting off" thing to get to sleep at night and I think its ruining our sex life. Which in turn is hurting me emotionally.
2006-09-13 01:50:00 · 22 answers · asked by art_angel_86 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well to answer your first question Yes this is normal for males. The releasing of tension or masturbating helps a lot of men sleep. It takes a lot of pressure off of the male and everything he has done on that day, It eases the mind and body to the major point of relaxation. Now if he is having trouble sleeping then the medication that he is on can interfere with his sex drive. Because it cuts off inhibitors in the brain that sends out signals and chemicals. Sleep medications cut off chemical signals and tells the body to go to sleep but at the same time it also cuts off the chemical signals that can inhibit his sex drive. So to answer the second part of your question, Don't worry about him getting off to go to sleep. This is something he has to deal with. Its a way for him to say that he doesn't have to take his medication because he feels something changing whenever he takes it. The getting off is not the problem in your sexual relationship, its the medication. Ask him to go back to the doctor and have him explain what's going on to them and they can prescribe a new medication or send him for a sleep study. Once he finds the best way to go to sleep and go to sleep constantly then you will see his sex drive increase to what you used to know or even more. I hope this has helped you some. Good Luck.
2006-09-13 02:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very true that what he's doing could be affecting your sex life in the negative. Porn can become addicting. Some people actually need to watch porn while engaging in sexual activities with their partners simply because they only get turned on when hearing or seeing what porn has to offer.
You could try watching it with him for a while, as a way to instigate relations between you. Then slowly back off on the porn and see if it helps.
2006-09-13 09:17:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but maybe I can help. I know that my guy sleeps much better after "getting off" but if he doesn't, he is still able to sleep. Maybe your guy should try staying awake during the day and he might be able to sleep at night. Hell a person could only sleep so much in one day.
As far as the sex drive. Meds can affect your sex drive. Unfortunately some will cause it to be close to nonexistent. If the meds are the cause for the low drive, his doc will be able to prescribe something that won't affect it. However, if all he's doing is masturbating, that will also affect his drive. For one day, get him to keep junior in his pants (and out of his hands) and by night he should be ready to go. Good luck.
2006-09-13 09:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watching porn is normal, and there's nothing at all wrong with it....but in your case it seems to be interfering with your sex life.
More importantly, though, is the fact that he's having trouble sleeping. He should go see a doc or a shrink and get that fixed....then perhaps your love life will get back to normal.
2006-09-13 08:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The act,
is honestly destructive. But its nonsense to try to sleep when you know you have no sleep at that instant. You bf has so many other activities he can do as he lacks sleep. Thats a stupid act to watch porn and m'bate when you are there to give him natural sex.
Tell him to stop it and behave. Threaten him to move on to another man and see if he wont stop the whole ****.
2006-09-13 09:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not normal for a man to 'get off' rather than sleep with his gf. Men do that when they dont have a gf. There is something wrong with your man. Take time to investigate. Do you dress well, take good care of your body and all. If you do and he is like that, he needs help.
2006-09-13 08:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he'd rather masturbate than have sex with you, he's either lazy, or something is seriously wrong with your relationship. You should probably talk to him about your concerns and find out what the problem is.
And no, normal people don't have to "get off" to go to sleep.
2006-09-13 08:52:18 · answer #7 · answered by Retro Deviant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gather he prefers to get off by masturbating instead of screwing a woman. He's weird, very weird. Ever wondered whether he was queer? I think he is.
Get yourself a real man. You are hanging onto a problem. Drop it. What we guys want is to screw real good and we'll sleep so well, but not just to jerk off, NO!
2006-09-13 08:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's an excuse, honestly
What medicine is he taking> Some suppress the libido as a side effect
You need to tell him that this escapade he is on is hurting you
2006-09-13 08:52:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes Angel- many men have a feeling of total bliss when they orgasim and ejackulate (or get off as yuo say) and drift off to sleep. It's quite natural. I can see you wondering why he doesnt want you and prefers porn. Sometimes, the more men 'jet off' the more sex they want.
Are you anxious and willing help him with his needs?
If you stilll dont get it, ask more.
2006-09-13 08:56:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋