Everytime I fancy a bloke it goes on for ages and then when I find out they like me I tell them Im not interested and look for someone else to do the same to and so on.....
2006-09-13 01:26:11 · 23 answers · asked by Angelkiss85 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there,
Well you seem to be pretty much fine to me and am sure it's not a difficult task for you to find a fancy a bloke. However, you seem to be a little bit afraid of something!!!
What is that thing? Is it the famous "C"?!
I think yes, the famous "C" is the reason.
You seem to be afraid that if you fancy someone and he starts to like you, he will ask yuo for "COMMITMENT".
So think about it and see if that is the reason. And it is not a difficult thing really to find out what's wrong. Just a quiet place and a cup of milk and start thinking :)
If you still didn't get an answer, then I think you might be more iterested if you replace the "HE" with a "SHE" :) Just kidding
2006-09-13 01:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't suppose that there is much wrong with you. It sounds as though you are keen to look and but just a bit nervous to take it on the next stage. If you are very young and inexperienced then worry not, just take your time, it will happen for you. You write of "bloke" rather than "boy" which suggests you are older in which case your fears may be more deep seated and if so then this could blight your life if it goes on long term, if that is you actually want a real relationship. In the latter case best get some help from a professional to help you sort out your thoughts and find a strategy to get you where you really want to be. Good luck.
2006-09-13 02:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're beautiful outside and scared about what they will find inside ? Give up and move on because it's easier.
You may judge yourself too harshly on the inside !!
You may judge admirers opinions because of how you look. You might cut off good guys here.
The key is you need to love yourself on the inside and forgive yourself for past mistakes.
Develop yourself, work out what you want to contribute to someone else in a relationship and I would guess you owe it to the world and yourself to meet somebody and follow through.
I am sure you have a lot to contribute and a hella of alot of love to give. Don't let fear get in the way.
Get to know people you are attracted to before you REALLY get attracted to them and start small, let them like you for you and not some image of you.
Go for it girl
2006-09-13 01:49:38 · answer #3 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obviously like the thrill of the chase and once you have got what you want you don't want it anymore - hardly fair to the poor blokes don't you think? I would say that you are doing this because you have low self esteem, low confidence and you need to 'pull' blokes to boost your self-worth. It confirms to you that you are fanciable and gives your ego a boost. Sorry if that sounds a bit brutal.
2006-09-13 01:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do get excited more by 'the chase' than 'the kill' .. perhaps you are fancying people for the sake of it rather than finding a guy who genuinely interests you ...
When a guy says he likes you and you go weak at the knees you have found the right one ;)
2006-09-13 01:29:37 · answer #5 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plenty is wrong with you. It is a syndrome with pretty young girls. They try to test their charms on men for the sheer pleasure of it. Most realize the mistake too late, when the right man has walked out the door, never to return. Stop the cycle now, because you are not getting any younger.
2006-09-13 01:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Johannu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems like a case of you always want what you cant have and as soon as you get it - you dont want it.
You need to have a serious look at yourself and discover is it the above - you justlove the chase, then once you have it you find it boring and move on - or do you have a fear of committing yourself to one man?
Next time you find someone you like, why not give yourself a chance to go out with him - you'd never know - you may enjoy it!
2006-09-13 01:31:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like you like the chase more than the actual thing. Or you realize that they weren't as great as you made yourself believe. One of these days, you'll find someone who will keep your interest so hang in there.
2006-09-13 01:31:49 · answer #8 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Impossible to make a diagnosis with so little information. Look at how your parents handled relationships. Did they do anything similarly? Sounds like you feel that anyone that is attracted to you has something lacking in them. Many women feel that they don't deserve to be treated well and dump guys who are nice to them and are only attracted to men who abuse them. Learn to like yourself and to see yourself as attracting men who are deserving. If your family has a history of alcohol or abuse, or if you continue to only be attracted by self-destructive relationships, you might want to take advantage of the services of a community mental health service in your area.
2006-09-13 01:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that once the guy says he likes you the challenge is gone. It seems to me you like the rush of getting the guy once you have him you dont want him anymore cause you got already what you wanted for him to like you. But dont worry nothin is wrong with you those guys arent right for you. Trust me when you meet the right guy when he says he likes you trust me you wont say your not interested. Plus alot of girls do that Ive even done that liked a guy when he told me he likes me I dont like him anymore. Goodluck to you hope you eventually meet the right one :)
2006-09-13 01:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋