Why do I feel like this!?

Question

I feel strange really…

I’ve been going out with my Girlfriend for a 6 months now, and it’s been great. But in the last week or so, it just seems like we’ve lost the spark that we used to have and I don’t know why or how to get it back. I know it's still there...

I still want to be with her, and she said she still wants to be with me, but I don’t know what to do, or why I’m feeling like this. It feels like we’ve kind of lost why we went out in the first place.

Any suggestions if that makes any sense?

Answer 1

If you see each other every day, you may be sick of each other. Try seeing each other once or twice a week for a few weeks to give each other time to miss each other.

Go on a romantic date, cook her dinner, go have fun together. Have a double date with friends. Go bowling.

Answer 2

Dont worry too much about it. Relationships go through cycles and in the early days the relationship rides on the novelty of being new. The attraction is very high and you can get enough of each other so you tend to spend a lot of time together......mostly on your best behaviour.

Your relationship has come to a stage where you need to start working on your companionship and hang-out-ability. Start looking at things you like to do....sports, movies, anything thats not JUST romance. Start developing a friends circle and having fun as a group....this will create a situation where you would start demonstrating your affection for each other by default....in a public forum.

Dont fret over it......thats the way a relationship grows......its like a barbeque that starts up with a bang and then the coal simmers and thats when the meat cooks best.

Answer 3

There's a saying, 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' and another that is 'out of sight, out of mind'. To find out which applies to your relationship, you need a break from each other. Time to rechange the batteries.

Tell her you need to spend some time on your own, and reassure her that you are not seeing anyone else and what you are doing is not dumping her. In that time away, do lots of exercise (like at least two hours a day - this may not sound important, but is, don't slack on this!), and pursue other interests and friends that perhaps you have neglected over the last 6 months. You should definitely look after your friendships.

After two weeks, you will know whether you miss her. The exercise will make you feel good about yourself and that may transfer to how you feel about her too. Or you may feel that what you've done and achieved over the two weeks makes you ready to move on in a life without her.

Answer 4

Hi there,

Well am not an expert in relationships but I can say this about your situation: "KCUF UOY" and get your ssa out there to get things back as they were before. Most me do this mistake. They look at a pretty woman and feel attracted to her so they think they are in love with that girl or they must get laid with her. This is WRONG. We should not do that. However, it might be true. The attraction might be more than just an attraction. In that case, I would suggest this.

Save the energy; instead of being with each other fo 24 hours, spend some time away from each other and try to think of new things that might excite your partner.

Not much of help, but this is all what I can suggest.

C Ya and best of luck.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like you guys could just be bored. It happens a lot in long term relationships. In order to bring back that spark, do something different or something you did before, but don't anymore. I noticed (in my experience) that a nice romantic weekend away will bring the spark back. Take her out and do something you've been wanting to do together. A little variety from everyday life will usually do the trick. Don't be afraid to experiment with anything and everything cuz you never know until you try.

Answer 6

Attraction between the sexes tends to be based on sexual attraction and not friendship. As time and mutual exposure progresses the novelty wears off, and that high feeling of a new relationship wears off. If the two of you are well suited for each other then the friendship will develop towards a different type of high, but don't expect a relationship to return to the original feeling that comes from a new relationship.

Answer 7

You know you were new lovers then and all probably seemed exciting and new! You do all these romantic stoff and it seemsso cute and fells great but after a while everyone looses it a bit! The key is to stick together and keep going! You need to come up with new romantic stoff that will keep you both interested and it would make you shine! Your the boy so she might wait for you to make the first move so keep going and trust in your love

Answer 8

Well if its only been in the past week dont worry. The worst thing to do is ask her why things have changed trust me. Is she on her period? I can admit being a girl we get a little moody sometimes its natural. Maybe something else is on her mind like school,work, or family. Just do something really extra nice for her, like make her her favorite dinner, watch her favorite movie. Let her know how much you care.

Answer 9

Try doing something different when you go out. If you two spend a lot of alone time, try going out with friends or vice versa. If you can, go on a trip. That can help bring the spark back.

Answer 10

hang out in to diffeent places....talk about variety subject do something new everyday...and keep in contact.
Maybe it was jus that kinda of immediate attraction. I had those in the past. Love is tottaly different.