I`ve been living for about 6 months in another country far away from my boyfriend and now I found out he had sex with another girl. He doesn`t know that I know, he says he loves me everyday on the phone.
And I was furious at first but I still love him. What should I do? Should I tell him I know? How can I trust him after that?
We were really serious about our relationships and were thinking of getting married..
2006-09-13 01:23:04 · 26 answers · asked by Aurora 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he's been cheating all along.it seems like he don't miss you as much as you miss him.dump him
2006-09-13 01:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! First of all, are you 100% sure your boyfriend had a sexual incounter with another women? Can you trust the source of your information? If you have answered yes to both of these questions, confronting him with your new discovery is the only way at this point you will be able to find comfort within your self. If your sure he did have sex with someone else and can go on living his life as if he did nothing wrong, then I would say trust is a major issue and will always be. If you, yourself, are questioning trust, then it is no longer there. Once a cheater always a cheater! Marriage is not going to make this problem go away, instead in his mind it will always be ok. I'm sure everything I'm telling you, is nothing you haven't already figured out for yourself. You now more than ever need to decide if your going to continue to set yourself up for more heart break that is sure to come. There are men out there that will be faithful, but in the mean time search your heart and the answer will be there. A woman's heart is like a deep blue ocean, and you should follow it. Besides, that is the beauty of dating. It is the time you spend getting to know eachother. Sadly, and afraid of rejection, both sides spend this time hiding the real them. I think this is why everyone thinks the first year of marriage sucks and is hard- and it is because the real them shows up. I wish you luck, and hope you find peace. My e-mail is fuel632@yahoo.com. Let me know what you decide. Good luck!
2006-09-13 02:25:35 · answer #2 · answered by Fuel632 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you he would have never done it. I would get rid of him because trust is so important to a relationship. Even if you think you trust him after this it will always be in the back of your head. And if you choose to stay with him and he sees that you just get over it, it will make it easier for him to do it next time. Sorry you have to go through this.
2006-09-13 01:52:55 · answer #3 · answered by Lealea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him - that's if the information is correct and from a really reliable source. He doesn't respect you, else he won't have done what he did. Respect in a relationship is as important as love and trust, and you two have neither if he's cheated. Me, I'd get rid, because don't forget your worthy of having a decent relationship with someone who does respect you and does acutally mean he loves you. If he's done it once, he'll do it again!
Good luck, whatever you do.
2006-09-13 02:43:14 · answer #4 · answered by trackie1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should love yourself before loving someone else,if he really love you he will respect and will not cheat you,being away from each other is not enough reason to cheat your love one.
If you still want to marry him you should think a hundred times,he had cheat you and don't u think he can do it again and again..Its up to you your future is on your hand.And there's a saying actions speak louder than words.....He' always telling you that he love you ( words ) but he had sex on other girl ( action),so i think that will tell if he really love you.You should confront him about it,it will really hurt you if you will decide to dump him but it will soon be ease than to bare the pain forever....Goodluck!!!!
Don't let him feel that you will be stupid because of your love to him.Prove to him that ur not the type of a lady that's to be fool of.
2006-09-13 01:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by kimy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you, you'll know and if your love is strong enough then it will overcome what has happened. A second chance never hurts.
In the words of Maya Angelou, "We cannot change the past, but we can change our attitude toward it. Uproot guilt and plant forgiveness. Tear out arrogance and seed humility. Exchange love for hate--- thereby, making the present comfortable and the future promising."
2006-09-13 01:31:27 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. Lonely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think of he's thinking with the incorrect head. If he enjoyed you he does not show you to the risk of having an STD from him or him "fooling around" with different women while he has you to be there for you. in case you 2 have had intercourse he would desire to be dedicated to you (nicely regardless, yet loving somebody is extra beneficial than in simple terms intercourse) in case you have had intercourse with him and he would have had unprotected intercourse with those different chicks,. make certain you get an STD verify. I say this because of the fact this has happened to me and that i've got been given an STD, i became right into a virgin, he became into the 1st one i became into with so its obvious he became into the single that gave it to me. good success with each and every thing!
2016-12-12 07:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as the trust issue remains between you, hold off on marriage ... you need to think about whether you can forgive him or not (assuming that what you were told was the truth??) you need to discuss this with him in a rational manner if you want to save the relationship. tell him you love him but are troubled about something. tell him how you found out about his alleged infidelity and ask him if its true. you should have your mind made up whether you love him enough to forgive him or not. if you forgive him, do not punish him. if he tells you its untrue, then you better have enough trust in your heart to believe him.over your source
2006-09-13 01:35:05 · answer #8 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well usually when you are " in~love" with someone you wouldn't ever think of hurting them in any way and sleeping around would break the heart so, I would NOT trust him and let him be find another guy ...!
2006-09-13 01:30:34 · answer #9 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is based on trust & love,two things he obviously does not feel for you..True love is not based on second chances,& do you want to risk an STD,mental abuse,or unhappiness in general with this dude?Put yourself first at all times & find someone who respects & loves you & has morals to abide by..
2006-09-13 01:30:36 · answer #10 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the trust is the biggest part of any relationship when you lose it you can never get it back. their is no excuse for cheating on a loved one, its wrong. you can do and find a better man out their. good luck
2006-09-13 01:31:10 · answer #11 · answered by ben b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋