Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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5 hours ago
I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-13 01:08:48 · 12 answers · asked by robinson z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know what? No matter how many times you post this question, it'll not change your situation. So I'm only going to say this one last time. Just be her friend. That's what she wants (believe it when she tells ya that). Stop obsessing over her. You are almost like a stalker. Be her friend or leave her alone. She made it clear that she doesn't want to date you. Get over it and find someone else to date.
2006-09-13 01:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you need to quit with this question already. I have seen this on here for at least a week. You need to learn something about women. They can't stand needy men. And that is exactly how you are coming off. You want her approval, and you have voiced it. This is not attractive to females. They are looking for a confident man, not a wussy. Her response to you is simply to save your feelings. She will not see you as more than a friend if you continue with this wussy behavior, always wanting her approval. The best thing to do is play aloof. Put her out of your mind. Talk to other girls, focus on other things like school and hobbies. She may actually think of you differently if she doesn't think she is on such a pedestal in your eyes. If she doesn't come around then she isn't worth it. This is just one stage of your life. I am not going to say you are young, just that you have many more steps to come in your life. There is no need to worry this much about one girl at this stage of your life. After high school, there is college, and then the "real world". You will be a completely different person at that point and you will look back at this and see that it wasn't worth all the trouble. So, let it go, and seriously, STOP with this question already.
2006-09-13 08:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you are friends from a very long time also she's 13 you are 15. I understand what you feel for her but may be she needs time to understand that, since you have approched her with your feelings its good, and that she prefers that you to be her friend be her friend. Cause may be you are such a beautiful friend of hers that she don't want to lose you. May be its not that she's scared for going for a relationship, but shes not thought about going into relationship with anyone. One good advice is don't force her, but always be with her may be as a really good friend right now. Keep on trying but don't push. Thats the delicate balance. Best of Luck
2006-09-13 08:24:34 · answer #3 · answered by Yogi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If in fact she is scared to ruin the friendship you share you must be patient with her...If you dont she will pull further away from you..Just remain her friend & time will tell if its meant to be serious at some point in time..I know its hard to wait & watch her hang with other guys but in the end,when shes really in need of someone you will be the one who is there for her,& she will finally realize you never left her side no matter what..good luck!
2006-09-13 08:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by *toona* 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm DOWN!!! Yes she does like you, but yes she is afraid. You have to let her do what she is going to do but be there to pick up the pieces. She will eventually turn to you as the boyfriend you so desperately want to be. It may not be tomarrow but if wait long enough it will eventually happen. Have you ever seen the TV show Dawson's Creek? Well think of it as you are Dawson and she is Joey. Things all take time but lets face it you are young and time is something you have. Best wishes!!!
2006-09-13 08:16:38 · answer #5 · answered by barbara_taylor17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girl is obviously worried about ruining your friendship. Let this go for now and wait for her to come to you. She knows you care about her, she hasn't forgotten that I am sure. Maybe she wants time to think about it. Put yourself in her shoes. If something went wrong while dating, would you still be her friend? That is probably on her mind. She cares about you and that is obvious. She is afraid to lose you. You need to give it some time. Good luck!
2006-09-13 08:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by no1charmerlondon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just act like it didn't bother you,talk to other girls ,hang out with them,just like shes doing with other guys. If she sees you doing that then it might bother her and then she will realize that she really does like you . Shes using you as her fall back guy since you told her how you feel,don't allow her to do that.
2006-09-13 08:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by moontreefairy76 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have some MAJOR issues if your telling your life story to everyone on Yahoo..... but i will help you out.
first, things could happen if she develops feelings for you. just do some nice things for her, be a little flirtacious, and dont argue w/ her. thats the best way to go =)
2006-09-13 08:22:38 · answer #8 · answered by sarahbabe315 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deja Vu... you've asked this before...
respect her wishes and move on...
if anything happens in the future deal with it then...
it's not happening today...
2006-09-13 08:16:21 · answer #9 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to bed and think about this later.
2006-09-13 08:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by herbs411_42719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋