Actually soon to be mother in law. i have lived with my boyfriend and his family for three years now. I cant stand his mother. I obviously love my boyfriend because i am still here. She is very too faced. and everything she hates she is. She told my boyfriend before she would have cared less if i moved out because she didnt like me at all and now she wants him to be nicer to me because we have invested time in this relationship( we were going to split) shes nice to me to myface and then my sister in law tells me everything she says behind my back i have also read it on messanger. She has told my soon to be sister in law that she hopes her son never marrys her....do i want her to end up telling me the same? i dont talk to her much and my boyfriend i dont care for her much...he wants to live here another 2 years to finish school....i want to marry her son and laugh in her face....am i doing the right thing? or should i try to get her to like me?
2006-09-13 00:50:04 · 19 answers · asked by makeusfly0717 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i ran out of space.....i can understand her hating my brothers girlfriend she doesnt do anything for them and thinks about her self....i bend over backwards for them...i have given her money and took her wedding rings out of the pawn shop so my father in law wouldnt find out....if thats not being nice then i dont know what to do...i think i have kissed her *** enough and have done all i can why should i let her talk **** about me behind my back and when i confront her she denys it.....i need a solution....i want to marry mike and i want us to be together....
2006-09-13 00:52:46 · update #1
i have tried confronting her and she denys everything...one time i read it with my own eyes and she still tried to deny it until i said i had seen it on her computer and then she tried to defending her self....my sister in law hates he two but is pretty fake in being nice to her...and she has a kid and thats a whole other story on how she tries to run her kids life....just the sight of her make me sick....i dont know whether to just suck it up and be nice to her or keep having an attitude my only worry is that the second option will cause problems in our relationship more than she already has...
2006-09-13 01:05:24 · update #2
i have tried confronting her of course she is always right and denys everything...and she tells me she didnt say it like the way my sister in law did or it was no big deal im over reacting.....my boyfriend wont talk to her because she doesnt listen and his whole thing is i dont want tension...so the final conclusion we have come to is be nice to her and kill her with kindness until were married and out of the house? am i correct be nice to her and make me the bigger peron? or keep ignoring her......
2006-09-13 18:23:50 · update #3
work hard and save up so you and your man can have a place of your own. living independently from each other's families will do wonders to your relationship. you will learn lots of things together. and the best part is you are growing as a couple :) good luck
2006-09-13 01:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. You cannot let your future mother-in-law effect your life with your future husband. More often then not the daughter-in-law/mother-in-law relationship is not good. Mother's often feel, whether they realize it or not, they don't think any woman is good enough for their son. If you love him, marry him, but it may not be an easy situation. Give the relationship with your mother-in-law some time. It took 12 years for mine to come around and now I think she actually likes me.
You need to get away from the, ha ha, I married your son though, all that does is put a negative tone on the relationship. Love your husband, be kind to his family and show everyone how great you are. I had to live by the mantra "the truth will be known" for a long time. The truth being, I'm a nice person and very suited for your son.
2006-09-13 01:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh I know exactly how you feel , my mother in law wouldn't even go to my husband and I's wedding because she said we wouldn't last a year .. We have been married 21 years and I call her on our anniversary and tell her exactly how many years we have been married , she hated me and still does I think , I was always kind to her and I think that just bothered her more , so I say bug her with kindness and you will always be the better person... I took her son away and moved 5 states away from her so she cant hurt us anymore and you too can do the same when you all get on your feet and ready to do that...Good Luck
2006-09-13 02:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by MARY B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your soon to be mommy dearest-in-law sounds a lot like mine....
Only she hides her behavior from her son!!! He thinks im nuts when I tell him how she treats me when he's not around!!!!
I know its a hard thing to deal with, but you are marrying him, not her.... He doesnt like the way that she treats you either, so when yall do get married and move out, she cant bother you anymore.... If you love your fiance, as hard as it is, hang in there!!!!! kill her with kindness for now... That will only piss her off more.....
See, someday when she is old and needs someone to help take care of her, then the shoe is on the other foot.....
Try and stick out for the 2 more years that your future hubby has in school... You will be in a better position to start your new life together as husband and wife!!!!!
Good Luck.....
2006-09-13 01:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all I can say is if you want to marry Mike then marry Mike you are not marrying the mother. Maybe you shouldn't be so nice to her just back off a little. She'll have no other choice once you two get married or have children but to be nice to you and love your family. Don't let it get you down, misery loves company.
2006-09-13 00:57:57 · answer #5 · answered by bossy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to marry this man ,if that's what you want,then you'd better get your self together and ask questions.Find out if she talks about you behind your back are you afraid to confront her ?it's not what you say to her just how you say it.if you want this to work then call her out on these rumors.make the people involved stand up and admit their feelings why live in doubt when all you have to do is ask her all the things you want to know.Handle your business and you will get respect,hiding and keeping secrets will only hurt you in the end. call that bitc*out and make her say in the open what she feels or you heard she feels.
2006-09-13 00:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all get out of her house,I had a mother in law just like this,what a *****,I kicked her *** to the curve and gave my husband the ultimatum that it is either her or me.For awhile he chose her,thought our marriage was done thanks to her but in the long run he finally realized what a caniving backstabbing ***** she really was and now she is out of our lives and her grandchildrens lives forever.I am serious this woman was a witch from hell,down right mean
2006-09-13 01:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by TAMMY M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that.
Be nice to her and if you can't then when she's over just say hi and keep it simple.
If she's one to twist your words, then don't give her the words to twist.
If you love your boyfriend and you want to be his wife then do it. Her being mean and you hating her shouldn't stop you. ANd I agree with the person who said move far away.
2006-09-13 03:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by leighwendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello.first of all i think it is better for you to speak about your problem with your bf and also his mom.why are you afraid to speak?dont be sad?just try to talk and ask her what is her problem with you.
you must know that you cant oblige someone to love you.you cant do it.you must be kind to her although she acts bad .if her behavior change dont be shocked
because every bad man or woman is ashamed of his behavior when she or he see a good behavior .
you must try to be kind just think she is your mom.maybe she thinks one or 2 of your behavior isnt nice.
the best way is that you tell the truth and ask her why she acts like that?if so all your problems will be solved.
be sure
try this.
2006-09-13 01:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by cati m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a b*tch! She really reminds me of someone I know, but anyway the best thing u can do is u n ur bf save up for ur own place, that way u two can be together n won't have to face that bullsh**
2006-09-13 00:59:52 · answer #10 · answered by dcutegirl06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋