This incredible woman and I ended about a month ago and I was still hooked on her. Even after we had ended her and I were still making contact with each other. Heck we were still hanging around each other. Sometimes when we would hang out things would start to look on the bright side of us getting back together, then other times I could tell that she just wanted to be friends. Well I couldnt take it anymore so I told her how I felt about her. Things like how I think that she is amazing, incredible, and the girl of my dreams. Then proceed to tell that if she doesnt want to be in a relationship with than I cant talk to her or see her anymore. Reasoning being because I cant be just friends with her. She started crying and said well I dont feel the same way. Then we said goodbye and good luck. I didnt want to give her the ultimatium but I was feeling terrible inside. I needed to see where this whole thing was going.
2006-09-12 23:47:18 · 12 answers · asked by zwcoach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YES. As much as she would like to retain the friendship with you, you guys can't do it right now nor right after the breakup and treat each other as if you are still a couple. Sorry to say but the feelings are no longer mutual and such friendship can't exist if the other person is still hoping for something more than platonic.
It will also be harder for you to move on if you keep seeing her. It is good that you had the courage to set things straight with her so she should know you cannot always be there for her. Maybe in that way, she'd realize how it really is without you and hopefully gets back with you before you finally moved on. But at this point, don't expect anything.. just try to get on with your life. I am sure there's someone more incredible than her that is bound to sweep off your feet. You deserve someone better, someone who'd give you as much love as you can.
In time, when all things are great for both of you (probably you're finally both happy in another relationship), then you can be friends again.
Goodluck!
2006-09-12 23:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing. I understand how it was too difficult to just be friends with someone you love and not know where you stand. If you didn't do what you did, then you would've had been more heartbroken in the long run. When you were constantly seeing her and hanging out, it prevented you from getting over her. You really can't truly get over someone when they are right there. Actually in my experience, it's nearly impossible. It will hurt for a while and you never know, when you get over her you may be able to be friends with her after all. But before you can do that, you need to heal. Trust me, you did the right thing. Good luck.
2006-09-12 23:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as we want to, things don't always turn out that way. Unfortunately you both didn't share the same feelings although it would have been nice if otherwise. What you did was a brave thing. It took alot of guts. What you need is time away from her. If she means so much to you even if it means just been friends, then you have to ensure that you are able to handle that. Otherwise I don't see the point in you hanging around her when you still have feelings for her. You will only hurt yourself even more
2006-09-12 23:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you did the right thing! For once someone actually stood up for themselves and didn't let someone walk all over them! I'm so proud of you! Her crying she probably didn't want any rejection and that's what you gave her. There still is a slight chance that she could come back but if and when she does don't let her have you right away play a little hard to get! Make her realize that she can't do it again. Good Luck and for your sake I hope she comes back to you!
2006-09-12 23:52:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you did the right thing. She wanted it all her way without giving anything back. You were never going to get the type of relationship you wanted so you are much better making a clean break. As hard as it is it was the best thing to do and I think you had a lot of guts doing it.
2006-09-12 23:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by weatherwax1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need some time away anyway. Sometimes we think we love someone so much that we don't see their faults. You know the saying "love is blind". Give it some time...Obviously she didn't feel the same way back and you can't make her love you. Find a new friend who will feel the same way about you that you felt about this woman.
2006-09-12 23:53:24 · answer #6 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats was defiately the best thing to do. you now know where you stand with her so you dont have to keep guessing. it will be a hard time now but it is best that you have said goodbye. you can now try and get over her and carry on with your life. if you keep seeing her, even just as friends you will just be hurt over and over again at it would just be awful.
well done...it was a good decision.
i wish you all the best.
2006-09-13 00:01:56 · answer #7 · answered by SA angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you and her do not have children together then yes you did the right thing, if you have kids together then you CANT not be in each others lives because you share a child and they need BOTH PARENTS. good luck
2006-09-12 23:55:49 · answer #8 · answered by Mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think before you were peacefully parted, now that there was no enemity between you it could be better for you to go on as friends. Now it shows that ur x-gf has been hurt cause maybe she was enjoying your company.
2006-09-13 00:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u did the right thing dude.. if she feels for u she'll call u up for sure. in the meantime isn't better to divert ur attention to building ur career and catching up with old frenz?
2006-09-12 23:52:57 · answer #10 · answered by mystical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋