I'm not too happy with the teacher he has, from the very first day of school. 2-3 weeks later for back to school night she didn't even know that my son spoke english, and not spanish! How is that possible? I don't get it. My son is smart, knows his colors, shapes, alphabet, numbers to 100, writes his name and even knows how to add! He is very energetic and friendly. He will talk to you and ask you questions and wants to know and learn about so much. I do consider him to be advanced compared to other 5 year olds. He's been in preschool since before he was potty trained! He's a sweet kid and I haven't had any discipline issues with him here at home or at his preschool or with any of his previous teachers. Now it seems from what his current teacher told me that he's a horrible child at school, that he talks out loud, doesn't do as he's told, goes around yelling and trying to make other children not pay attention, that he talks back and even kicked the teacher! Can anyone relate to this?
2006-09-12 22:05:50 · 10 answers · asked by Lirasgirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well...I ended up writing the teacher a letter to request to speak to her. I politely informed her that this situation really concerned me and that I needed to meet with her asap. I have a meeting with her tomorrow at 7am. I have made a list of all the questions I want to ask her. Like I said, from the beginning of the school year I got a really bad first impression of her, hopefully I can understand her better and somehow figure out what the problem is. I tell ya, I was excited that my son was going to "real" school like he liked to call it. With the big boys and girls. I went in there on the very first day and was hoping that his teacher would fill us in (parents) on the way she handled her class, homework, daily activities and schedule, discipline, and teacher parent contact info. I received none. I thought maybe she would do that during Back To School Night...but I still received none, I had to practically think of questions to ask her quickly as she walked by...
2006-09-12 22:55:08 · update #1
your child may be bored. if he had time to do all of that after his work, then he is getting through it pretty fast. maybe there is another teacher in the school that will understand him better, or even direct his energies. Maybe the teacher can give him more or different work than the other children. This will keep him more busy and interested in the school and work instead of distracted and wanting someone else to talk to. If there are no more teachers, try a charter school if there is one nearby. There are free ones in some places. and they adjust to children's needs better. Probably because the classrooms are normally smaller. There are other things like uniforms and such at some of them also. My son has always been bored at school. and he used to talk alot also, but now he just reads when he is bored. good luck.
mother of 2 and one on the way.
2006-09-12 22:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by hazel eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go 2 the school. Don't let the teacher know ur coming.If ur sons' classroom has 2 doors, observe him from the back door. If only 1 door-just stand outside (don't let him see u) and listen. If he is really behaving like this he is not going 2 take a day off.Try this 2 days in a week. If u don't witness what this teacher is describing, change his class.If what she is saying is true, get ur son a psychological evaluation. This sounds like classic symptoms of ADD/ADHD and/or ODD. These kids are smarter than the average, but are not challenged in school. I would bet money that he finishes his class assignments faster than the other students. When this happens usually the teacher can't start the new lesson until the whole class has finished their work. This is why they act out because they have nothing 2 do.Their minds are constantly trying 2 process so many thoughts at 1 time--this is why they can't focus.If a teacher is not trained in dealing with kids with special needs-they c this as behavioral.Eventually the teacher will take this 2 the principal and want the kid evaluted. Don't let the school evalute him-get ur own test done from a psych.9 times out of 10 they want these kids placed in special ed.They don't know how to deal with them. Do this A.S.A.P. I bet ur feeling like ur son is being ostracized right now. Educate yourself with as much info about this and the meds they prescribe, if this is what it is.And don't go beating urself up if it is. It's nothing u did wrong while u were pregnant, or your sons' diet, or the way u discipline him. This is a mental condition.
Good Luck!
2006-09-13 04:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by BK1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're having difficulties. I can't really offer any advice or help, except to say that my 6 yr old is completely different at school than she is at home also. She is a loner and is the "baby" of the class there, but at home she is the most outgoing and "adult" kid I have!!
Perhaps there is some anxiety associated with school for your son. Or perhaps he is just BORED........if he's bright as you say, and he is disruptive, perhaps he just doesn't have enough to keep him busy there.
I'm not sure if it's feasable for you, but what about another schooling method, such as Montessori, which may better target his learning needs?
Also, it's early in the school year. I am all for parent involvement in schools, and I wonder if you being present as a volunteer is possible? Even if it's in another class, or doing yard duty during recess?
In any event, best wishes for a good outcome!!
2006-09-12 22:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by mom3kids&adog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes there are personality conflicts between adults and children. You can use that observation when you go to the principal and request that the child be transferred to another teacher.
But get that kid out of that classroom! The experiences he has at this young age will set the tone for his entire education and is too important to let slide.
I usually take the side of the teacher, but this one seems totally unqualified for this job.
Only if other teachers relate similar difficulties with your child, would it would be time for you to reassess your thinking about the situation.
2006-09-12 22:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by finaldx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make sure that the teacher is telling the truth first. If they are a bad or abusive teacher they may be lying to you or causing this behavior.
If your child is really acting like this they may be acting out because of boredom. Smart kids tend to get bored at school if they are not being challenged. Maybe find another school that caters to gifted kids.
2006-09-12 22:12:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you pick him up have a talk with some of other parents,to see what their impressions of the teacher are.Also talk with the schools principals see if you can swap clases. Sometimes there could be a personality clash and its best to get your child away from that teacher or his schooling will suffer.
2006-09-12 23:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would listen to his teacher. It's almost impossible for a teacher to make stuff like this up. Tell the kid if he gets one more bad report then he'll get spanked. That'll solve the problem quickly.
2006-09-13 00:05:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a normal 5 year old I have two one of 5 and one of 9 wait untill he gets 9...
2006-09-12 22:09:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you talk to your son about this? If i were you I go and spend some time in the class and at school just for your peace of mind.I also talk to other people at school to see what they say.I have had trouble with my young draughter,but find out that it was stress in her life.and she acted out her stress. may be there is something that is bothering him.
2006-09-12 22:18:22 · answer #9 · answered by julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move him to another school....
2006-09-12 22:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Bonsai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋