Please help?

Question

We're getting married, but I haven't started organising it yet, I don't know where to start, despite having read all the books, how can I ease myself into it gently as I'm terrified of getting it all wrong and messing up something vital. Please give me some tips and advice! Thank you!

Answer 1

write a list of all the things that need to be done,
get the smaller ones sorted then head for the bigguns!!!

Answer 2

First of all, have faith that you won't miss something vital. All weddings are different, and what's important to you are the only things you need to include. Therefore, you won't forget them!

My next recommendation is that you go out and purchase a wedding planning book that includes a checklist and/or timeline for planning these. It will help you a lot, in that you can just mark it off as you get it done, or cross it off, if it's not important to you.

Also, in planning my daughter's upcoming wedding, we were lucky to find a location where they have an on-site coordinator. She won't let us forget anything, and her services are included with the fees for the location.

If it seems overwhelming, break your projects down into smaller items. One thing at a time is all you can do, so just take small steps...you'll get there eventually!

Answer 3

Start by booking the place you want to be married in and the reception venue if different.

Then you can make all the other plans around this, for example you will now know where and when wedding cars are needed, how many people you can invite etc.

It can also let you plan photographs and things depending on how nice the place is or if there are nice gardens near by.

Don't waste money on a wedding planner, but do write down everything you need to arrange, with a budget price and a timescale for when you want to have it done by. there is no need to rush out and do everything at once, start with the most important and fit everything else around it.

Answer 4

Decide where you want the reception if you are having one. Find out when they have open dates. That will help decide what day you will get married.

Then go from there, decide if the wedding is someplace else, like a church and book yours or one that you rent for the same day.

With the two big things out of the way, choose a wedding gown. Everything else you do depends on the type, style and color of your gown.

Register at several registries, most of them have some sort of planner that will help you with a time table. Penney's does.

Answer 5

The main thing to remember here is it is your and your fiances day. Do things how you want them to be done, according to the budget you have. I am not being selfish here but sometimes family, other relatives and friends put pressure on.

First things first - decide on what you want, set the date and location - book. This is essential - you may smile but if you leave it too late you may not be able to get the booking you would like.

Then step-by-step, noting that this list is no way comprehensive, as and when go ahead with such things as:

Decide on what time of reception you would like - small informal, or hotel - book.
Decide on food to be served and organise the cake if you are having one ( someone you know may be willing to do this as a gift for you both )
Outfits - both for yourself and your future husband - give him some help. If you are going on honeymoon depends on where you may have to get some extra items for that.
Bridesmaids/Page boys - decide and if you are going to have some organise their clothes.
Stationery - Invitations, Order of service.
Photographer - Book if you are going to have one or organise family and friends specifying special photos you would like with say - just grandparents, special friends etc.
Flowers - Location (Church or other venue) and those you, your bridemaids will have, plus buttonholes for the groom and special guests.
If appropriate small thank you gifts for best man, bridesmaids/pageboys, Mums.
Rings - Again don't leave too late as you may have to have them adjusted.
Transport - To and from wedding.
Honeymoon

Nine times out of ten something will go wrong, something will be overlooked, and that is what you will laugh about in the years to come. I can recall when helping organise a reception the top tier of the cake toppled off just as the happy couple were about to cut the cake as an over eager guest went full force into the table - it made some good photographs and they laugh about it now.

On another occasion the taxi firm double-booked and sent a driver in jeans and tee-shirt.

None of these occurences spoilt the day.

There are websites that you can refer to, draw on the experiences of friends, get recommendations from them, etc.

Keep in focus what it is about - you both making vows to one another for your future together.

This does seem overwhelming but a bit at a time and don't forget to enlist help of those that are close to you as they would love to be involved. Have fun as it can be exciting organising everything. I kept a To Do List in a book and crossed things off and added different things on when appropriate. I even listed such items as make-up underwear etc, etc.

The important thing is to enjoy and not stress. If you worry unduly you will be so exhausted by the day of the wedding and you will be too tired to enjoy your special day.

Do hope this brief list will be of help to you, that you will have fun and that your special day with be wonderful for you and your spouse and others that join in your celebrations.

Good Luck and may you be blessed with a great day.

Answer 6

1 Make church or registry appointment for dates to see if available. Youll need a birth certificate and if a church knowledge of where you were baptised
2 function. Decide on the best place to have your day and make sure they are available. Also check on who will be eating for the funtion room size
3 book the band or dj. make the sure top 3 are done asap
4 What are you going to wear. Deciding on that dress can take some time so if your having it made sort it out now.
5 the little things .
cake, flowers and the other bits and bobs need to be looked at on that special day.
ease yourself into it and take your time to make it perfect
Good luck

Answer 7

Relax - this is supposed to be the best day of your life. So...book a date, find a church (or other suitable venue for a ceremony if you're not christian), book a reception venue and get some help from your best mates (who you should choose to be your bridesmaids/ushers etc). Organising a wedding is always a bit stressful but it'll all pay off I assure you. Remember: you're in this together!

Answer 8

This is the order I did it in:

1. Book the church/minister
2. Find a venue and discuss menus/wine/champagne
3. Decide on decor and flowers for the table/bouquet
4. Try on dresses and buy lots of Bridal magazines and decide what look you want.
5. Choose your bridesmaids and decide on the colour of their dresses.
6. Book a photographer and a videographer if you are having one.
7. Find a DJ or musicians if you are having them.
8. Order a wedding cake
9. Decide on transportation to the church
10. Design and send out invitations 6 weeks before.
11. Have a hair style trial 4 weeks before.
12 Fitting for wedding dress
13. Decide who will do your make up. Buy new make up if necessary.
14 Choose your wedding registrty before sending out invitations
16. Book a facial a week before, and a manicure and pedicure the day before.
17. Book your hair appointment for the day of the wedding as well as bridesmaids
18. Follow up on invitation replies 4 weeks before. Final numbers a week before in case of illness. Expect no shows!
19. Have your hen party/stag party for groom
20. Hire suits for groom/best man if necessary
21. 2-3 weeks before check on decor, flowers, cake delivery
22. Ribbon for wedding car
23 Try on dress to make sure it fits perfectly
Get married!

So if you make lots of lists and visit wedding websites they will have plenty of tips for your. Good luck

Answer 9

I got engaged, planned my wedding and got married in less than 6 months, so listen to me. Don't stress out. The first thing to do is decide on the key players: Maid(s) of honer and the Best man. Their job is to help with the planning and the carrying out of wedding detail. The best and most informative site is
http://www.theknot.com
This is the only site I used the entire time. They have a budeter, give you a wedding website, tell you what you should be looking at, doing, paying for.

Answer 10

Write a nice big list yeah. When you've done this it's time for some olympic standard delegation. Let everyone else feel a part of your wedding by giving them all something to do, they'll love it. Remember a problem shared is a problem halved. I don't mind checking the bridesmaids over for you and making sure the cake is up to standard all for a tiny little invite.

Answer 11

have a chat over wine about what you fancy, (modern, traditional, personl, big small, fun, church, civil) if youve been together forever and know each other inside out and are compatible enough to be getting married you'll probably already know the answers to this but it helps to say them aloud.

trust me, when you start looking at stuff (cars/colours/suits/menus's...) you will know what you like and what you don't want. its not too hard!

sort out the date, venue and reception first as these do need booking in advance to ensure you get what you want.

Then I sorted out my dress as then you can build around this - what style ur bridesmaids are, how big your flowers can be, what kind of style invite scheme to go with, once your rolling its easy.

but it is hard work i promise you, but the satisfaction of seeing your perfect day and hard work come together is wonderful