I made a new friend at work (only known her 3 weeks) and we have decided to go out one night after work to see a show/meal. She is about 15 years older than me and when I told my mother about her she said, "We'll see how long that will last". I don't know what to think of this or how to deal with this. Any feedback would be gratefully appreciated.
2006-09-12 21:01:47 · 22 answers · asked by The way I are 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't worry about it. Do what you think is best for yourself.
2006-09-12 21:05:38 · answer #1 · answered by BadShopper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If that's all you plan to do is a show/meal then tell your mother that she need not worry about you because you are NOT dating this new friend but only going to a show/meal and that she's only a friend from work.
Don't get upset with your mother either cause she's only concerned that things could get serious and not just friends.
Let your mother know all about your new friend from work and reassure her that the new friend is only that.
It sounds like your mother thinks the new friend and you may start dating and being the friend is 15 years older I can understand your mothers concern.
A friend is just that and nothing more and you should try to get your mother to understand this and I advice you not to make it any more then just a friend either for your own sake as well as your friends too.
2006-09-13 04:13:56 · answer #2 · answered by fedupmoma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mother sounds like she is unhappy about her own relationships.My partner is 20 years older than me..and this is the sort of attitude i came across 8 years ago when we first met.A meal and a film is a nice thing to do.Your mum should of sugessted that perhaps you bring your ladyfriend for afternoon tea..we must no judge people because od thier age..your mum sounds a little bitter..she shouls be happy and supportive who ever you meet.
2006-09-13 04:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by janine s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your mother to make this comment she obviously has previous experience with your friends. I should think she is worried, I know it does not seem a very nice thing to say, but sometimes mums can be a little un-tackful. They don't mean it and usually only have you best in mind. If you want you could always ask her.
2006-09-13 04:08:05 · answer #4 · answered by London Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a bloke or girl? Is this person a friend or a "Friend"? Whatever it is ignore your Mum's remarks, have a good time and just see what happens. When you come back you can wind your Mum up hinting at weddings etc for a laugh. Ask her how she would feel to be a grandmother hahaha.
2006-09-13 04:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by Harv S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still living at home, then you've got to take it. If you are an adult and still putting up with this abusive treatment, seek counseling; you ought to be making it out on your own. By the way, the name Piggy may be a hint that you need counseling for your self respect, as well. Good luck
2006-09-13 04:10:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thinks your new friend if too old for you. I don't think it is any of your mother's business who your friends are, it's not like a much older guy or something. Anyway age is not an issue if people get on well
2006-09-13 04:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is just being a mom. my mom use to say things like that too- including about my husband! she said our marriage would only last a couple months- we've been married for over five years and have three beautiful kids together. anyways my point is that moms are gonna be skeptical about alot of things their kids do- just let it go in one ear and out the other. enjoy your new friend and enjoy the potential smug looks you may be able to give your mom if this friendship blossoms.
2006-09-13 04:07:12 · answer #8 · answered by April H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it sounds like your mother doesnt fully approve of the age difference and is implying that ye will have nothing in common and the friendship will fizzle out.
Id just ignore her and if you get on with this friend - keep going out and having fun.
2006-09-13 05:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your mums comments with a pinch of salt.....it is their job to say stuff like this aswell as 'i told you so' etc etc.
mums catch you when u fall and they pick u up when your down and they love us unconditionally as their kids.
When u do go out with this lady just let her know how it went cos i bet you she'l be interested... she is probably sittin over a coffee now tellin all her mates
2006-09-13 05:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by EMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch it!!! What is a 15 year older person doing with you ? Are you the same sex? Is he or she lonely or is there more to fear than that? If I was your mother i would be very suspicious too.
2006-09-13 06:56:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋