2006-09-12 20:34:00 · 52 answers · asked by susie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
yes if ur in foreign countries u can but in India if u live in conservative area and surroundings not sure that u can live with this guy without marriage...but i heard some people in posh appartments have "live in relationship" specially in bangalore....so best of luck.
2006-09-12 20:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by hotgy4999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. When you live with someone you are offering them everything for free. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk free is an old saying. Some things are meant for your husband, even if you may be doing somethings now. When you live together an a dilemma comes up it is so easy to walk away compared to if that was your husband then you would try and stick it out. What you would be doing is living as husband and wife, but you will not have any of those benefits. Then if you happened to part ways you would have to do it all over again with someone else, so it is best not to live together before marriage. It takes alot away from you innocence of what marraige would be like.
2006-09-13 00:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by Sweetcheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lot older, and a lot wiser these days, even though I am a Christian, I must be a backslider at this.
Yes, I think there is nothing wrong with living with someone before marriage.
In fact, I think more people should give the trial run before entering into a marriage that will be more costly and hurtful in the long run.
Marriage is not for everyone, and especially for all you young people out there, the Divorce rates are so high, and monogamy isn't what it used to be.
Love your guy and be happy, and give it two to five years before committing yourself to a contract, it may not take that long, regardless, remember Safe Sex, and call your Mom at least once a week.
Good Luck Hon, I hope the best best for you and your Love.
2006-09-12 20:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Gosh !! Everybody says that you should go for living together without marriage. B'cuz of all young bloods surfing the internet.
Ok, I want to just understand from you, why you don't want the marriage. Reasons ???
Living together is fine. What do you want to do after that. Don't you need kids ?. Living together would be fine for a short term but without having kids and marriage, it won't work on a long term.
If you are not planning for kids, you can go for living together. But once your guy get bored, he will switch over to some other girl and you will have to look for some body else. How long you are going to continue this ? till your flesh is fresh or till your beauty lasts. What next is a big ??????????????
2006-09-12 21:19:37 · answer #4 · answered by Govinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In certain religions and sects and whatnot, it is not a good thing--and sometimes it's forbidden--for two people to live together before they are married.
However, this is 2006, and sometimes it's almost a pre-requisite for marriage!!!
You will most definitely find out things about your guy that you will not like, such as annoying habits, if you live with him.
The only problem with that is that with some couples, because they know that they aren't married, and they're just bf/gf, it makes it too much easier to bail out of the relationship, whereas if they were married, they may fight harder to work things out (and not just because of the fact that a divorce is a lot to go through).
I have been living with my fiance for over two years (wedding is in 87 days!), and we have found out a lot of things about each other--such as he doesn't like to clean. At all. Ever. But we have been able to work things out.
I think it depends on how strong your relationship is to begin with. I have seen too many people move in together when their relationship was weak, and the break up was messy and painful.
Just be sure that you truly, deeply and strongly love your guy, and that you will both work together through the issues that arise after living together.
Good luck!!
2006-09-12 20:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, Live together out of wedlock! Really tick God off! He doesn't mind so-called Christians only pretending to follow his commandments and just using the laws he set up when THEY want to ... no problem!
If you are a Christian , or claim to be one, you would know that such a thing would be out of the question. God hates liars and thieves and fornicators and idolators and adulturers.... and if you were living together , you would be not only fornicators, but also thieves. You would be taking each others' bodies, which would not belong to each other without a proper marriage and vows said before God and witnesses.
I mean , hey, if you love him SOO much you want to move in together, what is SOO hard about a simple marriage ceremony at City Hall? Does he not love you that much too? And if he doesn't, do you really want to live with someone who isn't willing ot marry you to prove his love? and if you guys do decide to get married, there are ways to have simple, small yet lovely home weddings FOR CHEAP .
But I'm serious here; if a guy is only willing to shack up with a woman and not marry her, what kind of a committment is that and is that really the kind of a relationship that a woman is truly looking for? That's free milk without the cow, sweetie. That's just using YOU , hon. You are worth more than that. You need to figure out your worth, your value. Surely you are worth more than a halfway relationship, with no committment to it , no strings attached and no promises, no demands. I
Think you are, anyways.
2006-09-12 20:49:23 · answer #6 · answered by heatherlovespansies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only can you live together before marriage, but it's a very good idea to work out any issues and problems before marriage.
2006-09-12 21:17:59 · answer #7 · answered by emily_jane2379 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If, and ONLY IF, you are already engaged. And by that, I mean a ring and a date.
If you wanna know what it's like to be with each other 24 / 7, go away on a trip together, at least for a week. Trust me, you will know all there is to know by that point.
This is not coming from any sort of moral / religious standpoint; just good advice. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free?
2006-09-12 21:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by mangopuppy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course u can live with the person or a friend you love. But before that check his affections towards you. U know one thing when we fall in love, we trying to hide all his drawback. We are ignoring it every time. But this is not ramain for a long time. These thisngs are comong in a grate attention when we got married. And the actual problame is starting which leads us to break up.
So i would like to suggest u make everything clear with ur friend and if u r really love him just tried to accept him with his positive and negative approaches.
All The Best.
Narendra
2006-09-12 22:55:04 · answer #9 · answered by Narendra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you or your parents have strong religious beliefs that say otherwise, sure you can. I've been living with mine for years and most people don't even blink an eye at it anymore, with all the other strange things people do these days.
Just be sure you can deal with living with this guy before you start packing up your stuff- if it doesn't end up working out and you have to move out on top of dealing with a break up, that really bites.
2006-09-12 20:46:35 · answer #10 · answered by KyLeth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ofcourse dear, but If you don't want to loose him after marriage then don't live together before marriage coz some guys (you know him well I am just generalising) treat females as a fascinating goods. They admire and seek for it until they get it fully and they start diverting their attention afterwards. So what do you think?
2006-09-12 21:33:40 · answer #11 · answered by Biss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋