I have been dating my gf for a year now and her parents still don't know that we're together. I mean I know they are extremely strict and don't allow her to date but should i demand for her to tell them, i hate being so secretive.
2006-09-12 19:49:50 · 15 answers · asked by itslate 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am 18, she is 19.. she still has a curfew and everything
2006-09-12 19:56:29 · update #1
Is there something about you that her parents might disaprove of?
Has she dated before you?
Is she ashamed of her family?
These days it sounds like wise parents who restrict the social life of an 18 year old.Most problems happen is a young adult's life between the ages of 16 and 22.
Just ask her if you can meet her parents. At this point they will probably be angry because you both have been deceving them.
It sounds like you truely care for her. Don't put pressure on her.
God Bless you, ;-)
2006-09-12 20:01:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that has to be tough. its like in her parents eyes you don't even exist. well i definitely think its time that you talked with her and tell her your aggrevation that you are having because of all the secretiveness. and be clear that the sooner it comes out from her the better. I know for a fact because my parents are strict as well that its a lot better to tell then the truth than rather have then find it out themselves. I would own up to what you and gf are and take it. It will be rough im sure but it will probably make your relationship a lot stronger and healthier. And you never know her parents may really like you. but definitely don't hide things. trust me, i'm 21 and i've done my share of secretiveness behind my parents and now they barely talk to me because i was so deciteful.... Good luck
2006-09-13 02:56:01 · answer #2 · answered by ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's hiding her relationship with you from her parents, obviously she knows what she's doing is wrong in their views. I am guessing that she's considered too young by her parents, to be dating and having a relationship with a boy. You should therefore respect her wishes and not get her into trouble with them!
The solution for you is not to be so demanding and treat her as a friend and not as a steady g/f. This will give yourselves more time to assess each other, at the same time make more friends, without tying yourselves to one partner, yet.
If you are really suited for each other, your feelings should not change over the years when both of you grow older. Your friendship must grow closer. If over the years, your friendship grows apart, then it is better for you both that you have not gone too deep to hurt each other! Don't you think so?
2006-09-13 03:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating her parents or her? why are you so demanding? No women want to be with a man that is demanding. let her take her time, if you can not wait, time for you to leave and find a woman that you and control. it's that easy,
2006-09-13 02:57:18 · answer #4 · answered by dmncprkr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the two of you? If you are very young, you should break if off. If you are over 18, then you should discuss seriously with your girlfriend why she doesn't want to tell her parents and take it from there.
2006-09-13 02:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will tell it to them at the right time. If your girlfriend loves you that much she cannot hide it from anyone- even to her parents because her eyes will sparkle, she will talk about you all the time, she will be excited for you to meet her parents, etc. etc.- all the signs and symptoms of loving you will be there...so be patient....there is a time for everything.
2006-09-13 02:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by yunesa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just hold on!
many people around the world have GF or BF and they are secretive simply coz of their traditions.
it's not a big deal i mean. Just hold on and surely the time will come and she will tell them coz she needs it as much as u need it.
2006-09-13 02:54:05 · answer #7 · answered by Musty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do it the Traditional way. Instead of courting your gf. court her parents. im sure they'll give in. visit them in their house. Or maybe invite them all to a dinner at any restaurant for bonding purposes so that they'll get to know you better. just remember all ettiquetes, manner and i'm sure they'll like you. Good Luck!!! = )
2006-09-13 03:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by Jay Aka. ngerkday 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if you really feel for her, respect her wishes and dont demand to tell her parents. i had a boyfriend for 5 years and my strict parents never knew. and finally becoz he waited, we're getting married in december this year! with my parents consent. i know how she feels, and trust me mate, just hang in there!
2006-09-13 02:57:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her.
im with my bf..weve been together for 6 months. i love him alot,but my parents wouldnt agree.
He wants me to tell, but i cnt. I would get in sooo much trouble
hes 18 n im 15.
so i dnt know
ask her..yea..do try i guess.
gd luck.
2006-09-13 02:59:12 · answer #10 · answered by Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋