If we're together alone, he's all into me like if I ask and talk about babies and being married , he's making plans with me and talking about it, but if we're hanging out with ppl and the subject comes up he's all like , Hell no, I don't want kids and no I'm not getting married to her crap!
2006-09-12 19:42:44 · 14 answers · asked by danitra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has no respect for you or whatever relationship YOU think you have.
2006-09-12 19:43:56 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him. Trust me---he's going to do it to you eventually if you don't and he will use the 'Hell no, I don't want kids and no I'm not getting married to you' comments to do it. He will make you feel like an idiot for not paying attention to him when he said it, even if he whispered it in a different language and it was barely audible. Guys that do the double-meanings like this ALWAYS do this to alleviate his guilt in the end. Him even saying he doesn't want to have kids when he's around other people (although he says he wants them in private to you) is his way of creating a 'get out of jail free' card to bail on the relationship. So with that, he's starting to distance himself. Trust me...he will slap you in the face with the, "Don't you remember I always said I didn't want kids and don't want to get married?" comments as if you're a moron for not listening. Nevermind the fact he privately says something different to you----he will ignore it. He's messing with your mind. You should bail.
2006-09-13 02:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by Neophyte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny, this will break him. have u a tape recorder on u and recordin yall talk alone and when yall go to leave to meet up with his friend or whoever he does that crap in front of u pull it out and hit play on him and let his friends here it as well so he can be busted in front of his friends and after that leave his lyin butt cause u dont need someone that is gonna 2 face u like that
2006-09-13 02:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing I told my first girlfriend: Tell him to be real or you'll leave. Honesty is key to a relationship, especialy when it includes respecting you and your feelings in front of other people, which he isn't doing.
But you should make sure your being honest as well. Make sure you lead by example.
2006-09-13 02:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he's not being honest, either with you, himself, or the people in the big world.
I can mean that he's really very insecure, and wants people to think he's "tough" and plays that exterior.
OR it can mean he wants you to think he's "Soft" while he expresses himself freely to his other friends.
Either way, the stories are mutually exclusive, and that means he's LYING sometime. Your job is to figure out which one is true, and try to have the courage to call him on the carpet about it.
2006-09-13 02:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jerry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not taking you seriously. i guess hes tryin to act all tough, but if hes really that insecure and has that little care for you, then break it off. hes not worth your time. if he can be like this to commitment, then what else can he be like this to? almost anything! hes a mistake, just end it. hes choosing his "tough act" and whatnot over you. and thats not the type of guy u want.
u want someone who tells u he cares and atually mean it anytime. u want a real guy, not this coward.
2006-09-13 02:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by Lucas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously hes embarassed to want those things with u. Go get a man worth ur time
2006-09-13 02:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by bambi81377 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see and talk about it...tell him how you feel..let him kno that you dont think he respects the relationship or you at all and its time for yall to talk and make it real.....
or get rid of the fake!
2006-09-13 03:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by NiKkI Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull him to the side and say are u serious or if ur bold and its really annoying u then call him out in frontof his friends...thats something i would do because then he would know not to do it again
2006-09-13 02:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by keebler 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four out of the five people before me said it & I agree..
Dump Him!!!
2006-09-13 02:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by yobaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋