My friend's daughter is currently obsessed with The Disney Monarchy of Princesses. Today, she professed that she didn't want to ride her bike as " Princesses don't ride bikes, I've never seen one ride one."
She was then politely informed that even though she didn't see princesses pee, they do in fact have to do so. This line of reasoning only went so far.
In short, in your opinon, who are some good female role models that would appeal to a very independent, very cool, three year old girl?
She's left Dora and is in love with Ariel.
Help.
I'm thinking Hermoine Granger....your suggestions,links, et al will be very appreciated in our search for non princess related heroines!
2006-09-12 19:41:45 · 16 answers · asked by jkautt 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She's outdone Dora and well...Bratz? Positive? hrmm... Belle is good ( as princesses go) and Kim Possible....good choice, good.
2006-09-12 19:48:00 · update #1
She is MORE than welcome to fantasize, play princess, et al. But is it horrible to want to provide [ in addition to playing princess] a portrait of a strong female to a young girl ? We want her to have fun and be a child, doing things like riding bikes, getting dirty, AND if she wants plaing princess!
2006-09-12 19:56:44 · update #2
And last, but not least, her mother rocks and is a very strong role model....but children play with toys, read books, have friends,etc.To think that there could be no outside influence in addition to her mother is fairly unrealistic.
2006-09-12 20:00:33 · update #3
Believe it or not, some of the newer Barbie movies on dvd do a great job of "empowering" young females. I was so hesitant to bring Barbie into my twin daughters' lives, but I finally relented (at age 4) when they received "Swan Lake" as a gift from their great-grandmother. I especially like the extras on the dvd - - for example, the "Swan Lake" dvd has a special segment on girls & music, and features a variety of young women (teens - early 20s) who play musical instruments, and I've also seen one on artists. I also recommend Barbie's "Princess and the Pauper" and "Rapunzel" dvds. Both have strong female characters whose goal is not just to "get the prince", but rather to be strong and brave, but would still appeal to a girl wrapped up in princesses. "Swan Lake" is a little bit scary, so you'll have to make a judgement call, depending on the girl.
I know this sounds really whacky, but I tried not to let my girls get too absorbed with the Disney characters...In some warped way I felt that Beauty and the Beast could encourage a female to stick with an abusive man in the hopes that someday he would become a prince, and that the Little Mermaid teaches girls that it is okay to mutilate their bodies in order to get a prince. I know, I think WAY TOO MUCH!
For other suggestions, you could try the old "Pippi Longstocking" series on dvd, although it is not the best quality, my girls thought it was hilarious that she is so independent and naughty (unmannered). http://www.amazon.com/Pippi-Longstocking-Collection-Board-South/dp/B000A0GYC8/sr=8-1/qid=1158130951/ref=pd_bbs_1/002-8980706-0004003?ie=UTF8&s=dvd
Now that they can read, I will be exposing them to Laura Ingalls Wilder - - The "Little House" series is wonderful for girls. http://www.amazon.com/Little-House-Prairie-Lewis-Allen/dp/B00009QG5T/sr=1-11/qid=1158130997/ref=sr_1_11/002-8980706-0004003?ie=UTF8&s=dvd
My girls also love Dorothy from The Wizard of Oz, and Buffy (yes, the Vampire Slayer). And, Princess Fiona (Shrek) isn't such a bad princess herself!
2006-09-12 20:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by oolishfay 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How about if YOU become her 'role model'-- you are obviously able to see what/who shouldn't be. With all the princess 'stuff' around- how can any girl possibly live up to those expectations? And yet, many will expect to. In reality - who wants to marry a princess in these days of 2 income families?
If she has to watch tv./movies- how about 'the Wiggles', Zaboomafoo, animal shows? Charlotte's Web has a good strong female image in the Spider. Does she like cats and dogs? Sassy on the Incredible journey.--- she kicks!!!!
How about Veggie Tales?
Hope this helps.
How about reading stories - Paper Bag Princess, by?
You could try the Library..... Hope this helps.
2006-09-12 20:06:10 · answer #2 · answered by Nick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I couldn't find the books I wanted for my son, I made them myself - I made up really positive, empowering short stories and glued pictures from magazines etc. into small blank books with the words typed out and glued in under them to make my point. You can cover them with wrapping paper, get real stylish with them. If you get clever, perhaps you can create some short stories using pictures of the favoured princesses themselves, showing them getting uni degrees, controlling law firms, riding bikes - even motorbikes - riding horses, whatever you think is important.
You can truncate stories that include great women heroines to make them suitable for young girls, and use the pictures and blank books to illustrate them. If she gets right into it, she can help you create the books. What about a female knight who saves the village from the dragon wearing pink armour, or something? It takes a bit of time to do, but it can be exactly what you want, and most kids really appreciate having their own books made just for them.
2006-09-12 20:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boys always loved Lara Croft. I think it's because she kicks butt, she's a strong independent female. Which is the only kind of role model they had for several years. (I was a single parent, and his grandma's and I were the only ones who apparently cared.) The huge boobs thing wasn't an issue until recently. (They're 10 and 8 now, "Mom how come Lara Croft has such big boobs?" LOL) But they still like her because she really does kick butt. I wouldn't recommend Lara Croft to a 3yr old though, too much violence. I was just telling my story.
2006-09-12 19:55:52 · answer #4 · answered by jenpeden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to praise you for taking in the boy and taking care of him.You sound like a good guy. It sounds to me like you need to find a new counselor who understands your needs. Telling you to find a male babysitter isn't solving anything. You need to find him a good FEMALE counselor. Just let her know his situation so she will know what to expect. She will probably have him exposed to his fear (probably other females who works with children) so that he will learn to interact with females and that he can even learn to trust them. He need to learn that not all females are bad and mean. You could also watch movies with him that have very loving "motherly" females in them so that he can see that women and girls can be wonderful to have around. There are some children's cartoon videos he may enjoy called "Caillou" which are about a little boy (who is also 4) who lives with his very loving family which includes his mommy and his sister. There are several different ones, each one shows how the little boy feels about all the different situation he experiences, many which involve his mommy and sister. He also has a dad and a cat too by the way :) Good luck!
2016-03-26 22:57:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately not Bratz, unless you want her to start dressing like a street walker. How about Disney's Kim Possible?
2006-09-12 19:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could be her role model.
Go to a custom costume store, and take her with you.
Buy something that she is inspired to. Then go home and role play house or something.
I remember in Pre-school, above all the other activities--I played house with the girls.
2006-09-12 19:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lisa Simpson
2006-09-12 19:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by clueless: please be kind 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dora
2006-09-12 19:42:56 · answer #9 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of two young daughters. I also want them to grow up with a good strong female images.
However, I do not program my children. I let them pick the dolls, cartoons, etc. they want. Let kids be kids.
The best female role model I can give them is me--how I act and how I treat them.
2006-09-13 08:04:10 · answer #10 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋