hello..
i have these question: i love my man and he loves me, we are 26 and 29. both of us had previoous relations, and we know how kids appear. well, he told me he do not wish to make love before we will get marry, because he loves me too much, and do not want to make a mistake, in front of god.
i am thinking, is that ok...could be a problemm about he do not want to talk about?
i know i wished to make love with him, but he stopped me...
i dont know what to believe...
we want to get marryed, and kids..
2006-09-12 18:53:22 · 19 answers · asked by criss 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Although I'd say it's admirable that he wants to wait, you need to listen to any 'gut feeling' that you have about this issue. Most of all, though, don't take it personally. Whatever it is, it's HIS issue. Are you able to wait if that's what he wants? Are you willing to enter into marriage without a test drive? Stuff you both need to discuss.
2006-09-12 18:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sooooo lucky that you're with a man this good. Don't have sex before marriage. Get married to him first and then sex will become love making because you will truly belong to each other, it will be really special because you're both married and committed to each other, the wedding night will be awesome, he will always respect you for having waited....and do wait, don't jump on the poor guy. He must really love you to control himself to the point of not taking you to bed, men don't respect the women that they bed because they think 'if she's given it up for me, how many others has she given it up for and how many others will she give it up in the future for?' Get married soon and then have sex. Its the best way to go. That way, if you do get pregnant, you'll have the baby as husband and wife, not as sex partners who made a mistake.
2006-09-13 03:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay...first thing is that there's a whole industry dedicated to "birth control"...there are many ways of having sex without having more kids...besides pills, there are condoms, IUD's, sponges, etc.
If this poses a problem for you due to religious issues, then you should consider that God will not approve of a marriage without consummation.
You might consider that a woman's cycle is usually predictable, and you can safely have sex during your non-fertile times, as long as you're keeping track.
In my opinion, there's no point getting married, if it means you'll spend the rest of your lives together not having sex.
2006-09-13 15:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart.
I would talk SEX with the man. Is he a virgin?
I learned along time ago to "drive the car before I bought it".
One man [deep religious convictions) I was engaged too for two years. We were about to set a date and I finally convinced him to have sex and "WAS I ever glad we did". It just didn't work, not once but every time. Worst part- he didn't care, he want'ed me to love him anyway, with out any sexual relationship at all.
Okay I'm not a selfish woman, but I wanted a healthy sex life and a family as well. So I recommended counselling and therapist and everything. He declined. So I broke up with him and found the right man.
He in turn found the "Right" woman for him as well. She had cancer and most of her parts were not working as well and they were happy in other ways and shares their "relgion" together.
The "red flag" of religion hides many faults. Be brave its your life.
2006-09-13 02:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
what's wrong with him wanting to wait until you're married? I think it's a great idea. If you have any problems with his decision, you should ask him about it. Find out if there is any specific reasons as to why he doesn't want to make love yet...could be he's really trying to be an honourable man.
2006-09-13 02:02:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might have really strong convictions of the right and wrong way to do things. He's not rejecting you. Unless you know that he has no faith that he doesn't believe in God or something of the like, he's trying to do something right with you. He's trying to actually make a lasting relationship, don't take it as a bash.
2006-09-13 01:57:29 · answer #6 · answered by blazingwater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right, you will have each other. Whether it's now or after the wedding. Don't stress too much about it. You must feel comfortable talking to him about this, and share your thoughts. Be honest with each other. Good luck...
2006-09-13 03:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Natanja v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you had sexual relation with other people before, he might want to make this relationship special.
2006-09-13 02:00:46 · answer #8 · answered by carabela 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's just being traditional. Respect his wishes and eventually you guys will get to sleep each other.
2006-09-13 02:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is an impotent or has a ridiculously small dick so he is ashamed of it. but when u re married it will be harder for u to leave him. ask him to show u his willy. there is no sex with a man with small willy
2006-09-13 02:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋