My mind says to take this situation as I was taken advantage of and just let it go ... but my gut feeling tells me other wise. I met a man online a few months ago and we turned into really good friends. Im 26 and hes 34. I was married at the time, and he was involved with a long term gf. After a few months we started both showing intentions that we wanted each other as more then friends. Long story short we ended up turning the relationship into a physical one ... and still talked afterwards ... even wanted to see each other again. Husband found out and told the gf ... GF had him email me and tell me never to talk to me again ... but after this he still found ways to contact me twice to see if i was ok ... about a week ago his email addresses were deleted, and i have no way to contact him. I could find him in person but i dont want to look like the stalker chick. He told me that we werent over and he would find me ... but was i taken advantage of? Or is he just confused?
2006-09-12 18:47:43 · 18 answers · asked by J P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chances are that he got back with his girlfriend. Please don't try to find him because then you will look like a stalker, if he really liked you then he will contact you. Be patient. I don't think you got used just for the fact that he kept calling you to see if you were ok. It was just that the curcumstances were wrong but life goes on. If he calls you than try it again but don't sit around waiting and thinking about it because then it will just drive you nuts.
2006-09-12 18:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like his girlfriend may have removed the email also. If it was her that made him email you etc, she is probably putting her foot down some more. Do you really want to be with a man who is told what to do? If you really think its love, go and find out. Beware though, many people make these things into something they are not. Everyone is looking for a love that is earth shattering. I am not saying this can't be that but if I was you i would really make sure you are not making it into something you wish it was. Think about in two years time... you are with this man and not your husband... is the situation going to be any better or once the honeymoon is over will you be back on line looking for excitement?
2006-09-12 18:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would like to give him the benefit of the doubt that he had the best of intentions when you were first getting close, probably, he was already so into you when he found out you're married? Anyways, when complications start to set in, especially a third party, unless you have a very strong foundation which would be your genuine feelings for each other, then, it's not going to be a smooth sailing relationship. So unless you're seriously considering him on a long term relationship, just give it up and move forward.
2006-09-12 18:59:04 · answer #3 · answered by marisu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard to answer this because you have to hear from all sides so i will do it this way - you could have been just used, things werent good at home and he wanted to make gf jealous or then again he didcontact you after that and maybe now she is stalking him so he cant talk to you or get in touch with you - do you know where he works, hangs out, stop by and seewhat happens, the only thing it could possibly hurt is you feelings, but then you'd be able to have closure, if thats what is needed
2006-09-12 18:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a mess!
So ... your husband contacted his girlfriend? Did I read that right and how in the world could that ever happen?
In any case, no one wants to be with anyone -- everyone is looking for something new.
Dang! Write a play! Or a novel, this is like television!
2006-09-12 19:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by wrathofkublakhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you think that if you are still talking to him then there is a problem with your marriage? Maybe you should look there first....and does it matter if he is confused...what are you feeling?
I have heard of a similar situation but she left her husband and he stayed with his wife.
Put this one up to a learning experience and get on with things...whatever they may be but don't put your life on hold for someone....
2006-09-12 18:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He played you like going to a black tie party and you were a pair of brown shoes.Question is :how is your marriage,is it over or close to being over?Sure sounds like you lost twice,your husband and your lover.Hope you can learn from all this.
2006-09-12 19:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a mess. If you have to sneak around to do anything, then it's obviously wrong. Ultimately, in the long run, this can't work.
2006-09-12 18:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lizzie T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you were taken advantage of but maybe he is still with his girlfriend i would just leave it alone and just go about your day and life and forget him and if you are still with your husband try to work on your relationship and if you are not with your hubby then try to work on yourself and find someone new or dont find someone new and just pay attention to yourself.
2006-09-12 18:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is just confused, this has happened to me, and trust me, its us who lose out more then anyone. Dont make my mistake and get stuck in this situation for ages, just make a clean break and get on with your life.
2006-09-12 19:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋