With regards to dancing, as long as it is not sexual, why do women feel it's ok for a guy to feel their anatomy when dancing close? And by feeling, I mean not necessarily with his hands...as in chest to chest. Please don't respond with "it's only dancing" or "it's just having fun" because that does not answer the question. Thanks.
2006-09-12 18:39:59 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming you mean a dance with someone who isn't their significant other. I suppose most women, when dancing, are focused on the dance itself & the music, not really even taking into consideration the fact that their chest is pressed into a mans chest.
If you are asking why they feel it's morally proper, to dance with a man, when there will be such close contact taking place...well I suppose for most women, the dance itself isn't viewed as a sexual act, so the contact seems benign.
Kind of like when people greet eachother with a kiss (as in a quick peck on the mouth). They mean it to show affection...a way of telling the other person "hey, I like you" or "I accept you". It's not meant to be a perversion.
Bottom line, as long as the intent is non-sexual we don't find closer contact to be an offensive thing. Hope this helps.
2006-09-12 18:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by greengirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my eyes that's not just dancing, it's also flirting. I personally don't dance close to guys often at all, not unless they're cracking onto me. But most of the time I like my space when I'm having a dance, I wouldn't just let some guy start feeling me up in the middle of the dance floor that I just met! I don't think it's just dancing, it might be having fun, but a bit more too. Are you asking this because a girl your close with is doing the same thing? Or because you are just wondering why?
2006-09-13 01:48:51 · answer #2 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask a question if you dont want to hear the answer?
If its your wife or gf that is dancing with other men, I can see that it might make you uncomfortable, but otherwise whats the big deal?
Professional ballroom dancers are often touching for entire dances, does this bother you too? Often they are both married or have partners.
Why not take up harmless boot scooting? Theres NO chance of anything sexual going on there.
Loosen up a bit, you might have some fun.
2006-09-13 01:49:09 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something about being on a dance floor..... The lighting is exciting. The music is loud and you can feel it throughout your whole body. The atmosphere is hot and sweaty. Your dancing and you are moving your body in a very sexual manner. What guy wouldn't want to get next to that? Hope I answered the question.
2006-09-13 01:57:06 · answer #4 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dancing has long been a sensual display, which is why people meet up and connect through clubs and parties. Dancing is indeed a way to 'size up' what's out there. The reason it's okay is because, in our culture, this is an acceptable way to test the waters before commiting to a date with someone.
2006-09-13 01:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by maynerdswife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't let guys feel me up when we're dancing...lol But as far as dancing as a couple you have to be close to dance otherwise you're just dancing near someone...lol I think some girls just want to tease guys by dancing reallysuperclose and then leave them wanting more by saying "it's only a dance"
2006-09-13 01:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by justjerra_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all comes down to personal space... when you're in an intimate situation such as dancing, it's expected that your bodies are going to be pressed. And bodies pressed together is not the same as grobing or feeling, it's simply physical contact at that point. It's the same pretense as when you give someone a hug... you're still chest to chest but that doesn't mean that there is any type of physical intentions there.
2006-09-13 01:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it depends on the girl. Dancing is exactly that. Its dancing. It tends to involve two people and guess what? Sometimes they touch. To me, it can be the most initmate thing in the world. Just dont be pervy with chest to chest stuff. Just be close. Its ok. if shes not ok with it, then she shouldnt be dancing at all.
2006-09-13 01:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Holly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably think it's okay, cause they think that that's the way the dance goes, if it happened with no music then it would be wrong. Which i think is all bull, when dancing with a stranger or with someone that's not your bf or gf one should definitely put a distance...that's why i'm not much of a dancer i guess... i don't like to be that close to anyone that is not my bf.
2006-09-13 01:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, unlike some men, women can separate sex from other activities so 'it's only dancing' does answer your question. Sorry but that's the way women think. We don't always associate everything with sex.
2006-09-13 01:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋