Stats say homeschoolers are fine, so why all the hostility against homeschoolers?

Question

Some kids hate being homeschooled but the same goes for those in the public schooled system as well. "But they don't have anyone." Well, neither do some public schooled children. Many of them have it worse by being bullied or not performing up to the school standards, etc. Do you not see your hypocrisy? Its 'okay' for kids to hate school to be FORCED to go, who don't have friends, are picked on, perform below standards but when some homeschooled kids say they hate being homeschooled you automatically pull the socialization card.

Many people LOVE public school and all the activities, but so do many homeschoolers.

To me, you naysayers are a bunch of good little parrots (which isn't surprising)that accept the authorities OPINIONS as facts, without first having looked into things for yourself before spouting off the same inaccurate and unintelligent drivel.

Stats show that homeschooled kids do fine academically despite whether or not their parents have a college education.

Also, despite the fact that numerous homeschooled parents and children have posted that they are socially active, many of you are acting as though you have your hands over your ears while loudly repeating..."I CAN'T HEAR YOU"

Very, very immature.

To Lily, WyomingGirl and SeriousSam...thank you for your replies, I truly appreciate it.

This is one thing that stands out with most of you who have been homeschooled, your replies are thought out and respectful. What I'm seeing from most home educators and their children in these discussions is the fact that they (as well as me) believe in having a choice and also it is different for each individual. That is not what I'm getting from anti-homeschoolers. They are speaking as though it is wrong to homeschool and they have practically no reason other than maybe meeting a couple of 'bad apples'...problem is there are 'bad apples' in the public and private education system too.

SeriousSam, I'm happy for you, that is awesome that you are enjoying school, best of luck with the gal you have a crush on. Our 12yo ds plans on working at the beach when he turns 16 and wants to duel enroll at our local college...he's confident he'll meet a gal going that route, plus the years that follow

Answer 1

#1 Jealousy
#2 Ignorance
#3 Repressed aggression
#4 Prejudice

Those who have homeschooled, are homeschooled or know a "normal" homeschooling family will quickly come to the defenses of homeschooling as an excellent option in today's world of low standards, low morals, low care and concern, low demands....
Once you feel firm in your choice, none of these comments will even bother you. Let them be ignoramuses... they choose to live in their blissful square-peg in square-hole mentality. They cannot think outside the box...remember...they were educated in public school and thus can only think what they were told to think. And that is: only the "school" can teach children... they have no clue of educational history, because if they knew....

Answer 2

I started in the public school system, and we started homeschooling when I was in ninth grade. I loved it--and I'm now a graduate student consistently at the top of my class, along with as full a social life as anyone could want. (Maybe too full. Seems like I'm out with someone every day...)

That aside, I think it's a decision for the parent and child to make together. There shouldn't be any forcing one way or the other--though I do understand that not everyone is equipped to homeschool their children. And I do think, before naysaying, it's a good idea to actually talk to homeschoolers, especially those who are done with school. There were certainly aspects of homeschooling I didn't like (though compared with the local school system, even then I saw that it was far better), but I can look back now and credit it with quite a bit of good.

Answer 3

As a matter of fact, stats say a lot of homeschoolers have done even better than public schooled children.

I've been homeschooled all my life, and as a younger child I didn't like it, now I praise the Lord every day for my parents allowing me to be homeschooled.

Homeschooled children tend to be more social in the adult world, they show more respect. Also, they place a loyalty in their heart for their parents that a lot of schooled children place on their teachers.

True, some homeschoolers probably don't teach their children correctly, or their kids complain about not having friends, but the reason they don't have friends is cause everybody wants friends, but not everybody has them...even schooled children.

I don't know aobut you all, but I know as for me...I will homeschool my children, because it isn't just education that kids need, they also need to learn right from wrong, how to live life, and most important, they need to learn about God, which they don't get in the public school

Answer 4

I loved being homeschooled. Going to a school didn't teach me much after Grade 7. The teachers never helped, they just played on their computers all day and sent us home to do work with our parents. HELLO they were being paid to teach us. My mom homeschooled me for the last half of 8th grade til 12th. I learned SO much being schooled this way. Didn't have to deal with highschool drama, either.

Many people think because I was homeschooled I am going to be stupid. That is, until they talk to me and see that I am indeed pretty smart and moreso smarter than most who went to a school (public or private). I even went to college at age 16.

The only thing that was bad about being homeschooled was not knowing a lot of people. We went to homeschooling meetings but a lot of those kids were WAY too sheltered, and some of the families all slept in one bed together...weird. But if you take your kids to event, ie sports, teen kid events, library events, they will make friends.

Answer 5

i began out interior the popular public college equipment, and we began homeschooling while i became in 9th grade. I enjoyed it--and that i'm now a graduate student continuously on the ultimate of my type, alongside with as finished a social life as all people ought to confirm on. (in keeping with risk too finished. feels like i'm out with somebody daily...) That aside, i think of that's a selection for the discern and infant to make mutually. There should not be any forcing one way or the different--nevertheless I do understand that not each and every physique is provided to homeschool their toddlers. and that i do think of, formerly naysaying, that's a solid thought to unquestionably talk with homeschoolers, exceedingly people who're performed with college. there have been quite factors of homeschooling i did not like (nevertheless in comparison with the community college equipment, even then I observed that it became much greater valuable), yet i will look back now and credit it with quite fairly some solid.

Answer 6

I have been homeschooled ever since second grade. (I went to a catholic school for first). A lot of people think that because I'm homeschooled I get to sleep in and loaf around all day. That's not true. I get up at 6 or 6:30 and it's kinda hard to "loaf around" with 5 younger siblings. All my test scores are way above average. And I don't have to deal with all clicks and the stupid "boyfriend and girlfriend" stuff that everyone seems to "need".

Answer 7

I gone down both roads, both are good, it depends on the kids and the parents, I've seen good come from homeschooling, and I've seen bad come from it too.

Both my sister and my brother and myself were homeschooled each for different parts of our education, and we all are very successful in what we have decided to do with our lives, and are well adjusted people.

I would guess some people can be jealous of the fact that we could "skate" through our education, and some who are homeschooled are upset because they feel slighted for not having the public school interactment....I have the best of both, it's all perception.

Answer 8

Yes, I wonder about all the hostility, too. There are several on this forum that seem to just wait for an opportunity to bash homeschoolers over the head, and part of me just doesn't get that at all.
But then I realize maybe all their hostility is just fear in disguise. The do not understand homeschooling, it takes them out of their comfort zone, and since they do not understand it, they may perceive it as a threat to the "norm"
so, maybe they see our freedom of choice as a threat to their definition of "how you do things" and so they decide to attack.
Don't know really, just a thought.
Answer though? understanding. How on earth can you be against something you do not understand?
Good and bad on both sides. We have public school children that excel and shine, do well, very successful. Same with homeschooled children. We have public school children that fail, fall through the cracks. Same with homeschool children.
Homeschooling is not for everyone. Public schools are not for everyone. Private schools are not for everyone.
I thank God everyday I have a choice, though.
And yes, of course, we are socialized, as it has been said before, homeschooling does not mean we stay home all the time.
And yes, our children are smart. In my experience, every parent I know that tests their children regularly, report their children score way above grade level. I've know three families that placed their children back in school at the high school level. All three were requested to place their children in advanced and honors level classes. One graduated valedictorian of a class of 800. One will graduate with the same honors this year. One 9th grader took advanced math with 12th graders.
Other homeschool high schoolers I know are taking dual credits at a community college.
On the bad side, in my five years of homeschooling and belonging to 2 homeschool groups representing 150 families, I only ran in to two families that did not do a good job schooling their children. Well, they did not school their children, they were not connected with others at all. two out of 150. And that is just in my community. Bad for those two families, but they obviously are not a fair representation of all homeschool families, just like the failures you see in public schools are not a fair representation of all public school situations.
But the point is, again, there are pros and cons in all forms of education, and each family has to make a decision. I am pro homeschool, but that does not make me anti public school.
Hmmm, you got me on my soap box again. :)
I'm thankful that I have never seen the homeschool regulars on this forum go in to the teacher section and bash them, like some of the retired teachers like to come over here and do.
speaks volumes, doesn't it?

Answer 9

FINALLY! someone who actually has sense,and who actually is saying the truth for once.I'm 14 and am home schooled.I have read many replies from anti-home school people,and they always make me so angry,cause they have NO IDEA what they're talking about.I'm VERY glad that I finally found someone who actually knows a thing or two about home schoolers.I hope that your question will actually get people to open there eyes and see that home schooling isn't just a bunch of parents who stick there kids in the back room,only letting them out for dinner.GREAT QUESTION!

Answer 10

"Do you not see the hypocrisy?"

I try to point out the hypocrisy, too, and it never works. Too many people lack the ability to think logically and just aren't willing to leave the comfort zone of their beliefs, unfortunately. It doesn't matter how much we say we go out and have social lives, people will continue to say, "It's not good for kids because they're home all the time," or they'll find a new excuse, "But it's not enough time out of the home."

One has to wonder if they would need their teachers or former teachers to tell them this stuff so that they would believe.