my ex says that its over. yet he calls me all the time and acts as if he never said it was over. its weird....im confused. then he says its over again and that i shouldnt call him and i dont then he ends up calling me, whats wrong with him?
2006-09-12 17:55:00 · 15 answers · asked by girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he is testing whether or not you care about him. By him calling you and telling you not to call him, maybe his is hinting at doing the exact opposite. He wants you to call him. He either wants you to show you still want him or to show that you are devastated with out him. Or he might want you to fight for him.
2006-09-12 19:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I remember a job I used to have changed my shift to (3) days a week. I would work 3 12 hour shifts for a total of 36 hours and they would increase my rate to make my pay be the same as if I worked 40 hours. So, If I worked 36 or 40 hours, I was paid the same. It was an attempt to eliminate all overtime.
It was great having all of this time off (4 days a week), but it eventually got old. All of my friends were either at work or at school. So, I went out and got me a job, a fun job.
I ended up working a Sound Warehouse, a large Music and video (sales/ rental) store in Texas.
My boss couldn't understand why someone that made almost 5 times what he made would want to work for him at his store. I kept explaining, "just for fun". It really got to him, but I just saw it as a break. He was always use to threatning all of the other kids (mostly younger than I) that they had to work a double shift or all weekend long. But with me, he knew that he had no leverage at all, because I didn't need the job and If I had walked out tomorrow, theyre' would have been absolutely no negative effect. My bills were already paid, I could afford to buy whatever music I bought with or without my employee discount.
I ended up working there for a little over a year and when I think back, it was one of the most enjoyable events in my life. There's absolutely nothing better than doing a job that you really don't have to do. Like I had said, "I was just fun, besides my slightly over minimum wage paycheck just covered my employee purchases.
So, 'Girl' my point is this:
When you remove the responsibility, urgency, political pressures, maturty, stress, etc., etc. from a job, it's amazing how much more fun some jobs can become.
Being a boyfriend is a job. Your responsible for keeping you happy. Buying you gifts. Remembering birthdays and all other important dates. Getting along with your friends and family, etc., etc., etc.
So, now that the duty of boyfriend has been lifted, maybe without all of the added pressures he's starting to remember how much fun you were when you first both met.
Sometimes, I sure do miss that Sound Warehouse job! :-)
This may or may not be similair to your situation. I just offer it up as a possibilities.
2006-09-12 18:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by De Expert 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to get a rise out of you. If you call, than you prove that you still care... I think he needs that reassurance.
2006-09-12 17:57:35 · answer #3 · answered by breaker_1020 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he wants you to beg, build his ego. play into him.. But believe me it is over.. You don't want games, do you? There is better out there for you. Ignore his ploys for attention because it is not healthy.
2006-09-12 17:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by enquiring mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go bulid a picnic bench or something. Something thats productive for god's sake.
2006-09-12 17:58:55 · answer #5 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is his ignorant self related to MY ex. my ex calls me and tells me he loves me and gets mad when i dont say it back...and he acts like he didnt tell me we cant be together right now because he's "finding himself".
2006-09-12 17:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THE PROBLEM IS THAT YOU CONTINUE TO TALK TO HIM
WHEN EVER HE CALL, IT OVER AND IT SHOULD BE JUST
THAT WAY, NO,PHONE CALLS. ETC. REMEMBER HE THE
WON THAT SAID IT WAS OVER NOT YOU. SO LET IT BE
OVER.
2006-09-12 17:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by LUCKYSTAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to make sure he has control over you. my advice would be to ignore his calls and remind him it's over, and to stop calling you.
2006-09-12 18:00:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cant make is mine. if its over or not. because he wants to be together again but then he thinks no. then yes no. then yes....etc.
2006-09-12 18:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by Female 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he wants it to be over but to stay friends still. or his heart is confused with his mind. two different things. he may want to be your friend but not date you anymore..
2006-09-12 17:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by Da Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋