ok. we moved back to a small texas town a few months ago from another small town, and now i don't have any friends here except for the ones that remember me from middle school.... i'm 20 now, and i've been in and out of the army already. so i'm kinda stuck with hangin out with my sis and her friends. but my sis' friend (T from now on) is an awesome girl, granted she's still a senior in HS. now in TX we go by the 3 yr. rule, well most of us anyways. but that still doesn't change that she's my sis' friend. T actually suggested it yet again today. i just don't know about it cuz we talked about "luv" and "love" in emails and evrything, now she's using "love" instead of "luv." what really gets me about her is she's a drummer and i'm a singer and guitarist. I just may be in love. don't know if i should just blow off my sis and date her, or let T know how it has to be, cuz i'm goin back into the army. actually leaving for my physical in the morning. What do I need to do?
2006-09-12 17:43:18 · 5 answers · asked by Moose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, we had theis argument before, me and my sis. it ended up in them having a fight and me being in the middle of it. i don't think they are that close anymore cuz T used to live at the house prettymuch. she used to even come do the dishes when nobody was home. and i have told her about the army. she knows, she just doesn't want to talk about it. she said she wants to be with me. she told me that earlier and started talking about why we should be together. i'm still torn between the two. i love my sister as a sister and i love tori as a friend and maybe more. if they aren't as close does that make it better for me?
2006-09-12 18:14:55 · update #1
The army thing I can't answer for.
But the sister thing? I've dated my sister's friends, and as far as I'm concerned there's nothing wrong with it. She'll get weirded out for a bit, but she'll get over it. She never dated any of my friends, but I don't think it would have bothered me (and out of fairness, I'd have to pretend to be happy anyway, right?)
Go for it.
2006-09-12 17:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Arbor Dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help the way you feel and I think its pretty inconsiderate of your sister to be acting the way she is, if you explain you are really keen on her mate then she should come around. Does "T" want to be with you?
You can't blow off your sister, you have to respect her feelings but like I said, she has to respect yours as well, so talk to her and tell her to stop being a tool :)
2006-09-13 00:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by kirstalina81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you would absolutely love to be her boyfriend, but your sister is uncomfortable with the thought of you two dating. also tell her that you must be completely honest with her, adn tell her about your plans to go back into the army. ask her if she'd like to keep in conact with you, and tell her that if she's still around when you get out, there's a good possibility of you two dating! :)
2006-09-13 00:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by jenn w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur sister u are really into her friend and u wanna be with her. so say yes to the girl if u wanna and keep in touch with her. make sure it doesnt hurt the relationship with ur sister. make sure she understands how u feel
2006-09-13 00:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by Chardonnay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can date your sister for all I care.
2006-09-13 01:39:09 · answer #5 · answered by Barry DaLive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋