they are rude and arrogant, and only come around when they need something.
2006-09-12 17:13:22 · 18 answers · asked by lilgazell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well of course they are rude and arrogant,,, but just because they are don't mean you have to take it. Step aside and let them fall, don't be there to pick up the pieces when something shatters unless it's life and death of course. I was and am treated the same way but hear I love you when something is handed over. I now live in another state, I don't stand around and worry all of the time and I don't have credit union stamped on my forehead. Your not a punching bag and you do not have to give them the power of feeling like you are. I agree with finding new things for YOU. You are probably unselfish, very giving, and don't know what went wrong but it's not on you....it's on them! If you would like to chat and share lifes struggles with this problem, email me... we can figure out better ways of handling self centered bratz!!! :) I have been there!!!
2006-09-12 17:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by Tainted_Halo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don"t give them a darn thing. Take care of yourself. If they have no respect for you forget them. They are grown you have done all you can do. all you did not do maybe you did not know any better. you don't owe them a darn thing. If i was not a christian I could really tell you how to deal with it. don't you go on no kind of a guilt trip either. what ever this is all about you repent to God and apologize to the children in less words as possible. God will forgive you and that's all that's really important. life is too short for this crap. maybe you did not do any thing that merits them being so nasty. these are just the days of ungrateful children.
2006-09-12 17:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I put both of my daughters through college and now that act like they don't know me. I thought I would die. I took the advice of a really good friend. I started getting mad instead of sad and depressed all of the time. Now I do what I want to. Go on trips, visit. Stay out all night, don't ever call them. make them wonder what happened to you. I still love them more than anything. Remember the saying " what goes around, comes around"? It's true. Wait til their kids do them the same way. They will change their way of thinking then. Peace, and Good Luck. Try to put them out of your mind..Keep busy. I enjoy other people's children they are nicer.
2006-09-12 17:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by Patty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would love to hear their side too. Have you ever asked them why they are rude and arrogant? Could they be responding to something you've said? Can you add some examples? You must look at the common denominator . . . you. Look deep.
2006-09-12 18:18:14 · answer #4 · answered by APT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Buy them each a book called, "The Giving Tree."
It's a simple book, complete with pictures, and drives home the point about selfishly using people.
And say a little prayer for their future spouses. Who will want to live with a selfish, usury person?
2006-09-12 17:21:59 · answer #5 · answered by Heart to Heart 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a job or get involved with something that takes up a lot of your time. Don't be so available for them. They have their own lives now and you need to branch out so that you don't need them as much as you may at this time. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-09-12 17:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by taurus 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was going through a lot of conflict, but my parents handled it just fine... they let me be and thats what you gotta do. at that point i needed a friend around and friends can be a great help getting you out of that self pity mode. when i finally after a long time started settling down i just went up to my mom and cried in her lap that just helped me a great great deal. she didn't question me or anything all she did was she held me reminding me that she will be their always. now i have found a new man and i am happy.
2006-09-12 17:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Hermione Granger 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Close the bank, and tellthem to their faces, that if they can't speak to you respectfully, they don't need to speak at all.
I have to mention that this is probably due to you allowing them to behave disrespectfully as children.
It is never too late to learn, however, and I would recommend that you get some professional suggestions about the subject-maybe one of Dr. Phil's books.
2006-09-12 17:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Rosengarden 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if they are going to be like that, my suggestion would be to be less available. If they are grown then you're mommy days are over, it's time to be you. Just enjoy yourself, and eventually they'll be less arrogant I hope.
2006-09-12 17:19:34 · answer #9 · answered by dreamcatweaver 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
a problem most of us have. you can only love them and hope for the best. when it comes to their needs you just have to explain your needs to them and how you feel. sooner or later they come around. and if that doesn't work you have to use tough love and cut them off(no help). sign of the times .
2006-09-12 18:14:11 · answer #10 · answered by colton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋